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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

COYBL25 said:
If you`re going to fly solo for a while mate, why don`t you do treat yourself and do things that you really like doing, whatever that may be - cinema, gym, going for a walk, shopping, visiting somewhere you love, anything really, just to give yourself something to look forward to ?
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Just feeling low at the moment, I always do when I mess around with my medication. You're right though I need to find time to things I know I enjoy (Everton's not one of them at the moment). Tomorrow night I'm going the gym but Thursday after work I think I might for a shop or something, just anything to give my brain some occupation. Going out of my mind at the moment.
 
Morning all, been fine for a long time now, probably a year. But a few things are getting on top of me, not even major problems but find the old thoughts creeping in.
Works tough going at the moment, I'm a salesman and mostly commission based, this month for reasons beyond my control I'm going to struggle to pay my bills. I decided to end things with my GF of a year last night, shes not getting the attention she deserves and its becoming a problem, so dealt with it.

Stupidly, I'm even more annoyed with everyone, I didnt get selected in a local veterans football team for a tournament this Sunday, I played last month and we got through to the final and lost 1-0, the only goal we conceded. I'm annoyed with the club that they didnt even tell me I wasn't selected I just found out the squad had been announced and I wasn't in it.

All these things are now causing me to lose sleep and then I feel the dark cloud starting to come over me.

Hopefully I have enough skills to be able to tick all these issues off one by one and be stronger for dealing with them, thanks for reading.
 
Fletch said:
Morning all, been fine for a long time now, probably a year. But a few things are getting on top of me, not even major problems but find the old thoughts creeping in.
Works tough going at the moment, I'm a salesman and mostly commission based, this month for reasons beyond my control I'm going to struggle to pay my bills. I decided to end things with my GF of a year last night, shes not getting the attention she deserves and its becoming a problem, so dealt with it.

Stupidly, I'm even more annoyed with everyone, I didnt get selected in a local veterans football team for a tournament this Sunday, I played last month and we got through to the final and lost 1-0, the only goal we conceded. I'm annoyed with the club that they didnt even tell me I wasn't selected I just found out the squad had been announced and I wasn't in it.

All these things are now causing me to lose sleep and then I feel the dark cloud starting to come over me.

Hopefully I have enough skills to be able to tick all these issues off one by one and be stronger for dealing with them, thanks for reading.
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With regards the bills mate I've been there many times, contact each company individually and explain the current circumstances to them and the effect it's having on your mental health if you feel comfortable doing that, lots of them have special departments for dealing with that sort of thing and they'll be a bit more considerate and work something out for you. If all else fails and you're really struggling financially and debt starts to build then contact Stepchange for some help, they were brilliant for me and will help work something out that suits everyone.

Whatever you do don't do what I did and ignore it for far too long, it creates a bigger mess financially than there needs to be but worse than that it puts a massive strain on your mental health, it'll be a massive weight off your shoulders if you make sure you're on top of it and hopefully make it a little easier to deal with other stresses.
 
EFCPaul said:
Not had the best few days. Have cancelled all my plans with friends and plan on becoming a bit of a recluse for a while, least until hopefully I'm able to lift my spirits.

Decided to bin off social media, all it does is bring out the worst in people and it's too draining. Just not enjoying myself at the moment but I guess these mood slips pass after a few days, they usually do, but going forward in the future I know what I really can't be arsed with anymore.
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How are you feeling today mate?

Definitely agree with you about social media. I've got rid of Facebook as it always brings me down.
 
Fletch said:
Morning all, been fine for a long time now, probably a year. But a few things are getting on top of me, not even major problems but find the old thoughts creeping in.
Works tough going at the moment, I'm a salesman and mostly commission based, this month for reasons beyond my control I'm going to struggle to pay my bills. I decided to end things with my GF of a year last night, shes not getting the attention she deserves and its becoming a problem, so dealt with it.

Stupidly, I'm even more annoyed with everyone, I didnt get selected in a local veterans football team for a tournament this Sunday, I played last month and we got through to the final and lost 1-0, the only goal we conceded. I'm annoyed with the club that they didnt even tell me I wasn't selected I just found out the squad had been announced and I wasn't in it.

All these things are now causing me to lose sleep and then I feel the dark cloud starting to come over me.

Hopefully I have enough skills to be able to tick all these issues off one by one and be stronger for dealing with them, thanks for reading.
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Worrying about money and paying bills is one of my biggest triggers that can send me on a downward spiral for weeks.

Some good advice there from @Bungle
 

Bungle said:
With regards the bills mate I've been there many times, contact each company individually and explain the current circumstances to them and the effect it's having on your mental health if you feel comfortable doing that, lots of them have special departments for dealing with that sort of thing and they'll be a bit more considerate and work something out for you. If all else fails and you're really struggling financially and debt starts to build then contact Stepchange for some help, they were brilliant for me and will help work something out that suits everyone.

Whatever you do don't do what I did and ignore it for far too long, it creates a bigger mess financially than there needs to be but worse than that it puts a massive strain on your mental health, it'll be a massive weight off your shoulders if you make sure you're on top of it and hopefully make it a little easier to deal with other stresses.
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Thanks mate, I'll be OK, I earn OK but September is a key pay month and I'll be 25% of what I earned this month last year. Signs are good going forward.

On a positive note, the football team thing has just had its Karma moment, a group email has just come out saying that our team, Rushden and Diamonds, has been excluded, for what I dont know yet, but none of them now will be playing Sunday....
 
efcforever said:
How are you feeling today mate?

Definitely agree with you about social media. I've got rid of Facebook as it always brings me down.
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Meh, better than last night but still a bit frazzled. Trying to think of something to do later, I may go the gym or leave it until tomorrow. I want something to do, even something as small as finding a quiet spot to sit and just having time to myself away from my usual places like home or work. Trying to think of something.
 
EFCPaul said:
Meh, better than last night but still a bit frazzled. Trying to think of something to do later, I may go the gym or leave it until tomorrow. I want something to do, even something as small as finding a quiet spot to sit and just having time to myself away from my usual places like home or work. Trying to think of something.
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Sorry I'm late replying. Maybe try and get yourself to the gym tomorrow. Try and have something planned for the evening aswell. Maybe start a new box set or something.
 

Lucas said:
https://www.bbc.co.uk/sport/football/45476430

Such an interesting read. Really sad. Fully remember this guy from Football Manager and the 'wonderkid' status he had. Mental health is such a huge aspect in football. Just goes to show how much counselling footballers need. Even for the ones who are still playing top flight football.
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Can happen to anyone mate
 
It can happen to everyone, and reading George Greens words are quite harrowing.

It must be said though.... he isn't the nicest fella around. I hope he can turn his life around, get playing at a decent level and fall in love with football again because he's a good talent.
 
Lucas said:
https://www.bbc.co.uk/sport/football/45476430

Such an interesting read. Really sad. Fully remember this guy from Football Manager and the 'wonderkid' status he had. Mental health is such a huge aspect in football. Just goes to show how much counselling footballers need. Even for the ones who are still playing top flight football.
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It's sad that some people seem to think he's a scumbag by the way he acted when he was with us. Hopefully they read that and change their view.
 

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