Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[Deleted member 28206]

If anyone here just needs a person to talk to, I am here. More than happy to exchange numbers, DM each other, exchange discord or whatever to help in any way. I won't but in to give advise (unless you ask) but to listen if anyone needs to vent, thoughts of suicide or harm, or anything that may be bugging you. I've had to many people in my life have theirs cut short. No need to walk on the road alone. More than happy to walk side by side with you. Feel free. You will remain anonymous and I won't speak a word about it to anyone unless triggered by an active plan. I am ASIST certified (Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training). Please let me help any of you. Thanks and have a blessed day!

Nice one mate. This should be stickied this message. I’ve often said the said — but will 100% concede to someone who is professionally trained.

 

[Jokerdan]

Hey guys, messaging you from Melbourne, long time blue and love this forum. Never actually read this topic until I scanned over a few pages tonight.

My younger bro killed him self about a month ago, he was struggling with depression for several years, but didn't think he could possibly do this. Hes left behind his 2 young kids and his wife, we are all struggling to come to terms with it.
I think Im coping, but I just don't know.
Im getting counselling on a regular basis which helps.
Please all if your down in the dumps and feeling like a bucket of [Poor language removed]. please talk to someone, there's so much help out there.
Even a topic on this forum where blokes can chat is amazing, and Ill make sure to be a regular poster on this.
Great work guys.

Mate! That's truly awful. Love to you and yours. Keep strong for the kids...they'll need all the support you can muster x

 

[billyblue80]

Feel so flat lately. Poor mood regardless of anything good happening

 

[chrismpw]

Lad I've known through work for best part of 20 years killed himself at the weekend.
Wife and 4 kids.


Depression is a horrible [Poor language removed] and the sooner we can put an end to this blight on us all the better a place the world will be.


RIP Owen xxx

Sorry to read this mate. Tough for you, devastating for his family.

 

[Hawhaw]

Felt a bit embarrassed to post in here so far.


I have an addictive personality, I fluctuate from one extreme to another. Gambling, Drugs, other things I won't bore you with details with.

Other parts of my personality is pure obsession.

I'm constantly on my phone, get jealous of my friends. My new low at the moment checking my so called best friend's snap chat score most of the day, to see if they've been online. I do things like write their Snap score on paper and work out how many messages they send a in a week, and write down how many I send, so I can work out if they talk to me the most.

I am on other social media too checking their activity.

I've had relationships break down because I'm overbearing. When I start something I don't stop at all. I know this but I can't stop myself.


From my drug use I have developed HPPD disorder I have had it far to long.


I hate reading online self diagnostic's as it could make me sound like a hypochondriac. But I've been urged to see a DR by someone I love as they think I may have schizophrenia not HPPD.

I'm utterly terrified to see a .Dr and fill me with anti depression tablets, or anti Psycs.

Partly because of all the things I've read online.

I've been really obsessed with infowars and conspiracy theories in the past.

The thought of seeking any help makes me feel weak and I'm sinister to the extreme of professional's motives.

Not sure what I do next.

Not sure if I can be advised, but I don't mind ranting on an anonymous platform.

 

[Deleted member 38674]

Felt a bit embarrassed to post in here so far.


I have an addictive personality, I fluctuate from one extreme to another. Gambling, Drugs, other things I won't bore you with details with.

Other parts of my personality is pure obsession.

I'm constantly on my phone, get jealous of my friends. My new low at the moment checking my so called best friend's snap chat score most of the day, to see if they've been online. I do things like write their Snap score on paper and work out how many messages they send a in a week, and write down how many I send, so I can work out if they talk to me the most.

I am on other social media too checking their activity.

I've had relationships break down because I'm overbearing. When I start something I don't stop at all. I know this but I can't stop myself.


From my drug use I have developed HPPD disorder I have had it far to long.


I hate reading online self diagnostic's as it could make me sound like a hypochondriac. But I've been urged to see a DR by someone I love as they think I may have schizophrenia not HPPD.

I'm utterly terrified to see a .Dr and fill me with anti depression tablets, or anti Psycs.

Partly because of all the things I've read online.

I've been really obsessed with infowars and conspiracy theories in the past.

The thought of seeking any help makes me feel weak and I'm sinister to the extreme of professional's motives.

Not sure what I do next.

Not sure if I can be advised, but I don't mind ranting on an anonymous platform.

Don’t feel embarrassed mate, that’s precisely what it’s for. You’ll find a lot of other people on here have experienced similar problems.

I can understand your concern with seeing a professional, again it’s one that many share. Ultimately the decision to take medication, once advised by a professional, will still be entirely yours. If you’re uncomfortable with your mental state, nothing ventured nothing gained, can’t hurt to go and have a chat with them can it?

The old adage: “never google your symptoms” rings true for most people, because it will generally exacerbate any concerns you might have. You seem aware of your condition and the negative effect it’s having on your life. Educate yourself on your triggers, but know where to draw the line, would be the only advice I’d give.

Keep posting mate, nothing to feel ashamed about. It’s good to talk.

 

[Brett Angell Delight]

Felt a bit embarrassed to post in here so far.


I have an addictive personality, I fluctuate from one extreme to another. Gambling, Drugs, other things I won't bore you with details with.

Other parts of my personality is pure obsession.

I'm constantly on my phone, get jealous of my friends. My new low at the moment checking my so called best friend's snap chat score most of the day, to see if they've been online. I do things like write their Snap score on paper and work out how many messages they send a in a week, and write down how many I send, so I can work out if they talk to me the most.

I am on other social media too checking their activity.

I've had relationships break down because I'm overbearing. When I start something I don't stop at all. I know this but I can't stop myself.


From my drug use I have developed HPPD disorder I have had it far to long.


I hate reading online self diagnostic's as it could make me sound like a hypochondriac. But I've been urged to see a DR by someone I love as they think I may have schizophrenia not HPPD.

I'm utterly terrified to see a .Dr and fill me with anti depression tablets, or anti Psycs.

Partly because of all the things I've read online.

I've been really obsessed with infowars and conspiracy theories in the past.

The thought of seeking any help makes me feel weak and I'm sinister to the extreme of professional's motives.

Not sure what I do next.

Not sure if I can be advised, but I don't mind ranting on an anonymous platform.

Good on you for getting this posted.

One thing I have learned about from reading a lot of posts in here is the Catch-22 situations people struggling with MH issues find themselves in - Like you’ve said, you recognise that professional advice would help but you’re cynical about whether the professional(s) in question would WANT to help, etc.

The very fact that you’re aware of your own thought processes in this regard says to me that you’re ready to see someone who can help. You’ll be able to rationalise your own thoughts on the matter and they’ll obviously guide you through.

Of course, this thread is always here as a sounding board if you find that you’re in your head too much about it all.

I wish you luck, mate.

 

[Deleted member 28206]

Felt a bit embarrassed to post in here so far.


I have an addictive personality, I fluctuate from one extreme to another. Gambling, Drugs, other things I won't bore you with details with.

Other parts of my personality is pure obsession.

I'm constantly on my phone, get jealous of my friends. My new low at the moment checking my so called best friend's snap chat score most of the day, to see if they've been online. I do things like write their Snap score on paper and work out how many messages they send a in a week, and write down how many I send, so I can work out if they talk to me the most.

I am on other social media too checking their activity.

I've had relationships break down because I'm overbearing. When I start something I don't stop at all. I know this but I can't stop myself.


From my drug use I have developed HPPD disorder I have had it far to long.


I hate reading online self diagnostic's as it could make me sound like a hypochondriac. But I've been urged to see a DR by someone I love as they think I may have schizophrenia not HPPD.

I'm utterly terrified to see a .Dr and fill me with anti depression tablets, or anti Psycs.

Partly because of all the things I've read online.

I've been really obsessed with infowars and conspiracy theories in the past.

The thought of seeking any help makes me feel weak and I'm sinister to the extreme of professional's motives.

Not sure what I do next.

Not sure if I can be advised, but I don't mind ranting on an anonymous platform.

As others of have said there is nothing to be embarrassed about. I’m absolutely not a medical professional but this sounds like obsessive compulsive disorder brought on by the gambling.

I suffer from crippling OCD so I know how bad it can be. PM if you ever want to chat — ever spoken to anyone about it? GP may/should be helpful.

 

[AmericasToffee]

Same. I've had a real fit of OCD the last few days. It can be overwhelming.

Don't turn down help. The vast majority of these people are in the medical/healthcare field because of a desire to help others.

 

[Grinch]

Felt a bit embarrassed to post in here so far.


I have an addictive personality, I fluctuate from one extreme to another. Gambling, Drugs, other things I won't bore you with details with.

Other parts of my personality is pure obsession.

I'm constantly on my phone, get jealous of my friends. My new low at the moment checking my so called best friend's snap chat score most of the day, to see if they've been online. I do things like write their Snap score on paper and work out how many messages they send a in a week, and write down how many I send, so I can work out if they talk to me the most.

I am on other social media too checking their activity.

I've had relationships break down because I'm overbearing. When I start something I don't stop at all. I know this but I can't stop myself.


From my drug use I have developed HPPD disorder I have had it far to long.


I hate reading online self diagnostic's as it could make me sound like a hypochondriac. But I've been urged to see a DR by someone I love as they think I may have schizophrenia not HPPD.

I'm utterly terrified to see a .Dr and fill me with anti depression tablets, or anti Psycs.

Partly because of all the things I've read online.

I've been really obsessed with infowars and conspiracy theories in the past.

The thought of seeking any help makes me feel weak and I'm sinister to the extreme of professional's motives.

Not sure what I do next.

Not sure if I can be advised, but I don't mind ranting on an anonymous platform.

A doctor may not be the person you need to see. A counselor dealing with “addictive behaviors” may be most appropriate. Anything you say or do isn’t spoken to the outside. It is a building block to have that person you can meet on a weekly basis, call, or vent to. Don’t feel ashamed at all. Like I mentioned in a previous post, you are more than welcome to DM me with any issues you may be having. More than happy to chit chat with you about anything. From your addictive behaviors, to world events, or whatever. If you need someone to speak to feel free. As mentioned before, seek out a counselor for specialized training if you feel like this is affecting your personal life to an extent it is all you think about.

 

[BigBlueConk]

Hi Guys,

I haven't been on GOT for nearly 2 weeks, but just wanted to thank everybody for the advice a few pages back.
I had holiday time booked which finishes today and I just wanted to try and forget all about work and talking about it.

@anjelikaferrett @Bryan @Keiran @COYBL25

Dreading going into work in a few hours.
Just for info I was previously offered mediation. I did refuse with a polite email to HR, reafirming that there was little point. The morning of the mediation offer, the night managers were told that they could not leave until they were 'walked off'. Which could mean 12 hours turns to 13 on a bad day.
'Walked off' is the term used by the Store Manager that he accepts the shop and warehouse handover. The walk itself can take 45 minutes and then added time for the jobs list he gives you. He arrives after 7am. Our contracted shift would have finished at 6am.

I will be following the advice given by you guys. I have made loads of applications already to competitors, but it is going to be a slow journey this one.

 

[BigBlueConk]

You’ve got a few options which you probably already aware of, 1. Which you are already doing in looking elsewhere and 2. Speaking with HR and laying it all out, getting the professional backing from your employer is so important in this respect because if you ‘snap’ again and they are unaware they will be against you rather than with you.

If this was me, I’d sparkle my CV up a bit look at some courses I could possibly take to freshen it up and show a potential employer I’m actively working to improve myself. Whic I know is easier said that done, and I would 100% drop an email to HR asking for an immediate meeting laying out exactly what you have said here, copy and paste this entire thread you’ve carefully written and read it back to them from your phone if you have to.

The root to me, seems the hours + job are obviously contributing to your mental state and one of them needs addressing before you will see some recovery.

In February our store was designated a new People Manager who was to be the saviour!
The Night Team Managers had a meeting and all this stuff was talked about.

Since then, I have sent emails about the continuing situatiion. I spoke of feeling bullied into doing long shifts. I refused mediation as the same morning we were told we can not go home unless we are told we can leave!
I sent more emails. I have mentioned mental health and medication. I have had NO replies.

They have put me on a performance improvement programme, which I disagreed with. There are 1000 things to do every night. We might do 998 of them,. They bounce you off the walls for the 2 things you didn't get to. You know they still need doing, but they don't accept the handover.
The truth is I was only put on the programme because I was already shouting about what is going on.
If I said nothing, nothing would have happened. It is a device to manage out those who will not bend over.

The bigger picture is cut backs and cost savings. We know they are removing 20% of the night shift because they are under consultation. They will not need all the team managers. Simple as that. So how do they go about getting rid of one or two without incurring costs?
And here we are.

 

[COYBL25]

In February our store was designated a new People Manager who was to be the saviour!
The Night Team Managers had a meeting and all this stuff was talked about.

Since then, I have sent emails about the continuing situatiion. I spoke of feeling bullied into doing long shifts. I refused mediation as the same morning we were told we can not go home unless we are told we can leave!
I sent more emails. I have mentioned mental health and medication. I have had NO replies.

They have put me on a performance improvement programme, which I disagreed with. There are 1000 things to do every night. We might do 998 of them,. They bounce you off the walls for the 2 things you didn't get to. You know they still need doing, but they don't accept the handover.
The truth is I was only put on the programme because I was already shouting about what is going on.
If I said nothing, nothing would have happened. It is a device to manage out those who will not bend over.

The bigger picture is cut backs and cost savings. We know they are removing 20% of the night shift because they are under consultation. They will not need all the team managers. Simple as that. So how do they go about getting rid of one or two without incurring costs?
And here we are.

You need to see a lawyer who specialises in employment law mate.

I’m no expert, but some of what they’re doing sounds 100% illegal and nothing short of present day slavery.

Forcing people to work until they break with a view to managing them out is constructive dismissal.

@anjelikaferrett do you know anyone this end who can help ?

 

[zzr45]

Today’s an odd one - literally going from bursts of energy to absolute lethargy. Lasted a massive 3 hours in work before I got in the usual bored tailspin.

A month then I’m back to being properly busy with Rugby again, but feeling oddly anonymous at the minute.

 

[anjelikaferrett]

Hi Guys,

I haven't been on GOT for nearly 2 weeks, but just wanted to thank everybody for the advice a few pages back.
I had holiday time booked which finishes today and I just wanted to try and forget all about work and talking about it.

@anjelikaferrett @Bryan @Keiran @COYBL25

Dreading going into work in a few hours.
Just for info I was previously offered mediation. I did refuse with a polite email to HR, reafirming that there was little point. The morning of the mediation offer, the night managers were told that they could not leave until they were 'walked off'. Which could mean 12 hours turns to 13 on a bad day.
'Walked off' is the term used by the Store Manager that he accepts the shop and warehouse handover. The walk itself can take 45 minutes and then added time for the jobs list he gives you. He arrives after 7am. Our contracted shift would have finished at 6am.

I will be following the advice given by you guys. I have made loads of applications already to competitors, but it is going to be a slow journey this one.

You're welcome. Let me know if there is anything else I might be able to help with