Disgruntledgoat
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Yeah, you have to do something about that. It'll eat you up otherwise. It's important to remember that its your auntie who wrote the problems, not you.
Is it possible to talk to her first?
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Yeah, you have to do something about that. It'll eat you up otherwise. It's important to remember that its your auntie who wrote the problems, not you.
Is it possible to talk to her first?
My bad! But didn't Churchill also suffer from the 'black dog' of depression and look what he achieved presumably without the sort of support available nowadays. So guys, with the help, support and acknowledgement of the illness that is available to us today we should not feel isolated and be prepared to reach out. It is not a slight on our characters nor will we be ridiculed if we open about our issues. It is a braver thing to admit a problem than to try and pretend it doesn't exist.
Talk, talk, talk - don't bottle things up. You may be surprised and even shocked to discover how many of us are battling the same demons but together we can beat this....or, at least, make it just that bit more bearable because we are not alone in this fight!
Much love, Blues
Disgruntledgoat
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Absolutely, and sorry for the pedantry.
Churchill was, in all probability, an undiagnosed manic depressive. Incredible focus and burst of energy across numerous activities (even in his later years he painted landscapes well at a phenomenal rate and his written output was prolific) but prone to bouts of drawing the curtains and hiding from the world for days at a time. The help he had was his wife, whisky and the written word. Probably not ideal, but as you say, we have a lot more available to us today,
Nice post.
Watched this this morning. Wonderful on so many levels.
summerisle
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Useless fact of the day : Churchill was a member of the Amalgamated Union of Bricklayers. He used to lay bricks for building walls as a means of relaxation.
Disgruntledgoat
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Possessed near insane physical courage as well. Boris Johnson would do well to remember, when he attempts to present himself in Churchill's mould, that he took the whole blame for Gallipoli (when it didn't rest anything like solely with him) and sent himself to the Western Front in penance. As the colonel of an infantry regiment, not sitting in a chateau miles back.
Hi mate,
This is such a tragic state of affairs in so many ways and what your Aunt has got up to must be tearing you up.
Was there a power of attorney over your Nan`s financial affairs - has to be two people to try and stop what happened happening or even forged signatures ?
If so, your Aunt may have committed criminal offences, as she will have acted without the knowledge of the second person who has power of attorney.
Either way, I`d advise you to seek legal advice as to what she has done.
I believe Age Concern may be able to advise, as this sort of thing sadly isn`t uncommon.
The rest of your family need to know what your Aunt has done, as if you keep it in house with you and your mum, fingers may be pointed at you too - why didn`t they tell anyone / what have they got to hide too ?
Plus the knowledge of what she has done will eat you up.
Christ, that's awful. Is your aunt not popular with the family or something? Why would she do such an abhorrent thing?
My mother in law has two sisters, who on the face of it are the epitome of white middle class respectable ladies.
Within hours of their mum being dead they’d raided her house for her jewellery and antiques.
I’ve heard similar stories many times.
A death can bring out the very worst in people, as well as the best.
It's very common isn't it, seen it myself too. Some people are like vultures.
That's awful.
Base greed.
Gone through a horribly similar situation over the last 18 months and this is all spot on.
Thoughts with you @Kenshin but deffo start looking into all of the above.
I'm afraid this isn't going to end well and unless your Aunt comes clean it's going to cause no end of a rift in the family. Don't know how close your Mum is to her sister or whether she would wish to take her to account for the sake of family dynamics.
It's a rotten situation when people you thought loved your Nan were secretly taking advantage. Sticks like a fishbone in the throat.
One thing for sure, this could develop into a major rift especially between your Mum and her sister (small 's' because her actions don't deserve anything more) but I wonder if it may be something the two need to sort out together. Maybe threaten to tell the family unless she comes clean and can justify her abhorrent actions before getting legal?
One thing is for sure, blood is thicker than water and would your Aunt wish to shove a wedge between her and your Mum. In time she may develop shame - none of us are getting any younger - and regret her actions as they clearly are hurting the ones she professes to love.
Take solace from knowing Nan is in a better place and would not have condoned her daughters actions. If your Aunt can sleep knowing that she has taken such advantage without thought to her nearest and dearest then Karma will have a way of putting things straight.
I hope mattes are resolved, amicably, but emotions are running high and you need to let things settle before taking your next step.
In the meantime, so sorry for your loss
It's a rotten situation when people you thought loved your Nan were secretly taking advantage. Sticks like a fishbone in the throat.
One thing for sure, this could develop into a major rift especially between your Mum and her sister (small 's' because her actions don't deserve anything more) but I wonder if it may be something the two need to sort out together. Maybe threaten to tell the family unless she comes clean and can justify her abhorrent actions before getting legal?
One thing is for sure, blood is thicker than water and would your Aunt wish to shove a wedge between her and your Mum. In time she may develop shame - none of us are getting any younger - and regret her actions as they clearly are hurting the ones she professes to love.
Take solace from knowing Nan is in a better place and would not have condoned her daughters actions. If your Aunt can sleep knowing that she has taken such advantage without thought to her nearest and dearest then Karma will have a way of putting things straight.
I hope mattes are resolved, amicably, but emotions are running high and you need to let things settle before taking your next step.
In the meantime, so sorry for your loss
Bit of public discussion on depression/addiction on Sky Sports: