Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[BigDunc'sFod]

Been a tough few days. I'm sick at home in the States and I can't get tested for CV because I'm young and haven't traveled. Already have an anxiety disorder, and just sitting around waiting to either get better or worse is driving me mad.

I hear you, brother. NYC is getting quieter and quieter. I'd say I'm normally pretty level headed and it's been getting to me, too. If you've not got the documented symptoms you've probably just got a cold.

Thinking of you, mate. Stay strong out there.

 

[AmericasToffee]

If you've got fever, dry cough, body aches - go to the doctor's office. If you just have cough with no fever - just distance yourself for the sake of others as it may not be affecting you but you're carrying it. If you're showing no symptoms, don't worry too much as the only evidence seen is that this spreads via aerosolized particles from coughs and sneezes to/from people within 6 feet of you.

Just be smart and otherwise practice healthy habits.

 

[messymascot]

Not been in this thread for a while as I've been all over the place. As some of you might know I've suffered with mood swings and feeling down a lot over the last couple of years. This time last year the situation was compounded when I found out I was terminally ill. I've come to terms with that in some senses however at the start of the year my spine started to crumble due to the side effects of medication I was taking for another illness. So now basically I'm getting by fighting demons of the mind that sometimes have me questioning if I can go on. However as tough as times get I always tell myself someone has it worse so even if ultimately my time might be up soon I hope if just one person can take some positive from me fighting on it will make it worthwhile laying my soul out here.

 

[COYBL25]

Not been in this thread for a while as I've been all over the place. As some of you might know I've suffered with mood swings and feeling down a lot over the last couple of years. This time last year the situation was compounded when I found out I was terminally ill. I've come to terms with that in some senses however at the start of the year my spine started to crumble due to the side effects of medication I was taking for another illness. So now basically I'm getting by fighting demons of the mind that sometimes have me questioning if I can go on. However as tough as times get I always tell myself someone has it worse so even if ultimately my time might be up soon I hope if just one person can take some positive from me fighting on it will make it worthwhile laying my soul out here.

Keep coming on here mate, there’s always someone who will get back to you no matter what time it is

 

[messymascot]

Keep coming on here mate, there’s always someone who will get back to you no matter what time it is

And its always appreciated but I'm at a point where I feel the best I can do is for others. My greatest strength and probably my greatest weakness is my absolute stubbornness and as I say if I can help anyone through a tough time that would be something. I avoided this thread as for a while I was overcome with negativity and was concerned it would come through. Now I'm feeling a bit better as the pain from the collapsing spine has eased a little I can maybe start helping others like a lot in here do.

 

[COYBL25]

And its always appreciated but I'm at a point where I feel the best I can do is for others. My greatest strength and probably my greatest weakness is my absolute stubbornness and as I say if I can help anyone through a tough time that would be something. I avoided this thread as for a while I was overcome with negativity and was concerned it would come through. Now I'm feeling a bit better as the pain from the collapsing spine has eased a little I can maybe start helping others like a lot in here do.

If helping others helps your in anyway too mate, that’s got to be a good thing.

 

[messymascot]

If helping others helps your in anyway too mate, that’s got to be a good thing.

Helping others takes my mind off my own problems. It's a bit odd really but when you know you can do something for someone your own situation isn't as bad. Anyways I'm going to keep myself monitoring this thread but if anyone needs cheering up either quote me or PM me and I'll do my best.

 

[EFCPaul]

Thought I'd update.

Been a testing couple of weeks. Celebrated my birthday earlier in the week, went out for a meal with the family but other than that I've been very bored. Not had any luck landing a new job yet, been applying but yet to get my foot in the door. Obviously coronavirus means I doubt very much that many employers at this moment in time will be keen to get new people through their doors.

I pretty much started self-isolating right before everyone else has, other than the meal I've barely left the house since the start of the month. My sleeping pattern has gone to absolute pot, I've falling asleep at 6 or 7am and waking up late in the afternoons. Not good but with the virus there's not really any reason for me to want to get up, where could I even go? It seems this whole thing has struck at very inopportune time for me personally, everyone is locking down when I myself more than ever am eager to get out and be active. Even my best mate hasn't been available, he's been sick (possibly with the virus) and so I can't hang out with him. Horrible, it's going to be very tough waiting this whole thing out.

My father is very poorly, I saw him a few days back and he looked older and frailer than I've ever seen him. He's also seems to be losing his faculties too, much like his sisters did when they were coming to the end. Whenever me or my siblings talk to him to him on the phone he rambles incoherently and seems very off it mentally, a stark contrast to how he is normally is. The cancer is now in his bones, he had radiotherapy but it hasn't worked at all. Now we're very worried that this virus could get him. Even if it doesn't, reality is hitting us all that he's surely not got long left with us. If he were an animal he'd definitely be in "it's kinder to put them down" territory.

Life just doesn't feel very joyful right now. No job, nothing to get up for, can't go anywhere, father extremely poorly. I'm hopeful this time in my life is just a challenging period that I need to come through but each day feels harder than the last and there's no end in sight. 26 and feel like I'm stuck nowhere.

 

[AmericasToffee]

It's a bit of an oversimplification, but you're only as stuck as you let yourself be Paul. Start the climb out of that pit

 

[EFCPaul]

It's a bit of an oversimplification, but you're only as stuck as you let yourself be Paul. Start the climb out of that pit

How? I have no clue.

 

[efcforever]

Really bad day yesterday. Feel the worst I've felt in about 2 years.

To try and cut a long story short my wife and my dad got into an argument over our dogs and the fact that the dog weren't getting along. I told them to stop arguing but neither of them would listen and they were both being really childish. Anyway my dad took it too far and lost his temper and pushed my wife. He was well out of order and I'm just glad that I kept a cool head and removed myself, my wife and our 2 children from the situation.

I don't know what I'm going to do now. I'm faced with the possibility of cutting my parents out of our lives if this can't be resolved.

It's made more complicated by the fact that we rely heavily on my parents for child care. I've taken today off work to look after the kids but obviously that can't continue.

Haven't slept and feeling incredibly anxious. Just needed to get this out. Really can't make sense of what has happened. How can such a childish argument escalate like that?

 

[witchdoc187]

Thought I'd update.

Been a testing couple of weeks. Celebrated my birthday earlier in the week, went out for a meal with the family but other than that I've been very bored. Not had any luck landing a new job yet, been applying but yet to get my foot in the door. Obviously coronavirus means I doubt very much that many employers at this moment in time will be keen to get new people through their doors.

I pretty much started self-isolating right before everyone else has, other than the meal I've barely left the house since the start of the month. My sleeping pattern has gone to absolute pot, I've falling asleep at 6 or 7am and waking up late in the afternoons. Not good but with the virus there's not really any reason for me to want to get up, where could I even go? It seems this whole thing has struck at very inopportune time for me personally, everyone is locking down when I myself more than ever am eager to get out and be active. Even my best mate hasn't been available, he's been sick (possibly with the virus) and so I can't hang out with him. Horrible, it's going to be very tough waiting this whole thing out.

My father is very poorly, I saw him a few days back and he looked older and frailer than I've ever seen him. He's also seems to be losing his faculties too, much like his sisters did when they were coming to the end. Whenever me or my siblings talk to him to him on the phone he rambles incoherently and seems very off it mentally, a stark contrast to how he is normally is. The cancer is now in his bones, he had radiotherapy but it hasn't worked at all. Now we're very worried that this virus could get him. Even if it doesn't, reality is hitting us all that he's surely not got long left with us. If he were an animal he'd definitely be in "it's kinder to put them down" territory.

Life just doesn't feel very joyful right now. No job, nothing to get up for, can't go anywhere, father extremely poorly. I'm hopeful this time in my life is just a challenging period that I need to come through but each day feels harder than the last and there's no end in sight. 26 and feel like I'm stuck nowhere.

I'm with you mate. My dad is in a care home with dementia. He's in UK and I live in Spain. I can't even go to visit him. As I only see him every couple of months I can see the deterioration and it's heart breaking. My last memory of him is seeing the back of his head as he was sat in a wheelchair on his own just staring out the window. Makes me cry typing this a bit. Part of me hopes this virus takes him out because I know how dementia ends as I lost my nan, my hero, to it. You're bound to feel down now mate especially during these strange times. Just try to do stuff to take your mind off it mate if you can.

I am also unemployed and looking for work. Not great timing right now but just try to do stuff mate. Even if it's sorting out the house or work on something you've needed doing for a long time. Anything to keep you busy.

Good luck

 

[zzr45]

Been a tough week personally, haven’t made it into work at all this week. The thought of going in is absolutely crippling if I’m honest. Missed my usual coaching job Tuesday as I couldn’t see the point, which is nonsense as it’s something that I enjoy. Did a presentation Wednesday that 4 people turned up to out of a possible 70+, went for a tooth extraction yesterday but the lidocaine had no effect as the tooth is still too infected so couldn’t go ahead. Lost a fair wedge of my investments that I’d started to build up with the panic that’s going on. Now can’t drink for a week. Getting narked at societys massive over reaction to everything. Not great atm.

So in a positive part to this - my investments are now actually double what they were worth at the start of this thanks to investing into some options last week. Have quickly been converted into cash and stuck in the bank until everything returns to normal. Not being expected in the office has taken a huge load off as well.

 

[Catfish Blues]

Helping others takes my mind off my own problems. It's a bit odd really but when you know you can do something for someone your own situation isn't as bad. Anyways I'm going to keep myself monitoring this thread but if anyone needs cheering up either quote me or PM me and I'll do my best.

Don't know if you remember him or not, but @wbn61 was on here a few years ago when he was pretty much going through end of life care. Regardless of whether he was having a good day, or a bad day, he was an absolute inspiration to many, so, help others when you can, but, if you're having a [Poor language removed] day, then it's fine to come on here and say so as well.

 

[messymascot]

Don't know if you remember him or not, but @wbn61 was on here a few years ago when he was pretty much going through end of life care. Regardless of whether he was having a good day, or a bad day, he was an absolute inspiration to many, so, help others when you can, but, if you're having a [Poor language removed] day, then it's fine to come on here and say so as well.

I'm not at that point yet but I know I am on short time. Problem is my body failing me in other ways might end up getting me before the cancer. Now this coronavirus is here as well and given I'm already fighting on 2 fronts I need to avoid that at all costs. I feel better today in an odd way because I got how I was feeling off my chest. I know many on here disagree with Facebook but it's been a God send as its shown me the support I have but I have to be careful what I put as people don't understand that I don't want there offers of help. I know it's there and I appreciate it but people over step the mark. Coming on here I feel I can vent my spleen without having to push people away. That's why I am very grateful for this thread as I feel I can have a rant and get things out in the open without fear of people swamping me so I would like to say a big thank you to everyone who has acknowledged my plight.