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bullybeef said:
I’m being a selfish barsteward.

You are right, it’s about her and I’m determined to be with her right till the end. She would do the same for me without a doubt.
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I read your post this morning, mate but was rushing to work and didn't want to rush my reply. Your situation has been in and out of my thoughts all day. My heart genuinely goes out to you. Your heart will be breaking but it has always helped me to remember that the pain you're feeling is directly proportional to the love you gave and received. It would be worse if it was easy.

Been there and non-dog people won't understand the bond. Take comfort in the fact you gave your pup a great life. Cherish the memories and maybe, one day, when you're ready, you'll feel able to give another pup a great life....not to replace your dog but to enhance yours and their life.

I have this stupid little thing that I kept getting in my head - stupid because the song has nothing to do with bereavement - but it helped/helps me. "I could have missed the pain, but I'd have had to miss the dance."

Take care of yourself. You will get through this and it will get better. (Sorry for the long post - haven't even started drinking either)
 
bullybeef said:
Can anyone offer me advice.

My dog is receiving palliative care and hasn’t got long left according to the vet.

I’m absolutely devastated at the thought of losing my girl. She has been an amazing companion… a dream dog. She’s my world.

I owe her so much and I need to be there for her in the final moments.

I can’t bear the thought.

How do I get thru it?
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So sorry to hear this. It's awful and frankly tough to get through. Nothing helps when you lose an amazing companion, but perhaps reflect on how lucky your dog was to have you and the great times you shared together. When you think of all the stray/neglected dogs, you can take refuge in the fact that you gave your dog a great home and she made a good run of it.

As to the end of life care, our rule was simply to hold ourselves to the same standard as our dogs: don't prolong their suffering simply for the sake of keeping them alive. If they are debilitated but not suffering then keeping them alive is an option, but never if they are suffering. This is something that I would want applied to me if I were ever in that situation.

Also listen politely and ignore those people who say, "I'm really sorry, time to get a new dog"...this commodifies your dog as an exchangeable item, and this sentiment is too soon to absorb. No one would never tell someone who just lost a child "time to get a new child". Take your time.

Steady on.
 
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verreauxi said:
So sorry to hear this. It's awful and frankly tough to get through. Nothing helps when you lose an amazing companion, but perhaps reflect on how lucky your dog was to have you and the great times you shared together. When you think of all the stray/neglected dogs, you can take refuge in the fact that you gave your dog a great home and she made a good run of it.

As to the end of life care, our rule was simply to hold ourselves to the same standard as our dogs: don't prolong their suffering simply for the sake of keeping them alive. If they are debilitated but not suffering then keeping them alive is an option, but never if they are suffering. This is something that I would want applied to me if I were ever in that situation.

Also listen politely and ignore those people who say, "I'm really sorry, time to get a new dog"...this commodifies your dog as an exchangeable item, and this sentiment is too soon to absorb. You would never tell someone who just lost a child "time to get a new child". Take your time.

Steady on.
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Good post, mate. Sound advice.
 
bullybeef said:
Can anyone offer me advice.

My dog is receiving palliative care and hasn’t got long left according to the vet.

I’m absolutely devastated at the thought of losing my girl. She has been an amazing companion… a dream dog. She’s my world.

I owe her so much and I need to be there for her in the final moments.

I can’t bear the thought.

How do I get thru it?
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Sorry to hear that mate, I’m only 18 months into having a dog for the first time and our bond is huge so I can’t imagine what you’re going through after a lifetime together.

Sounds like you got some quality advice from others here, hope it all goes as well as it can and you can be there for her.
 

bullybeef said:
Can anyone offer me advice.

My dog is receiving palliative care and hasn’t got long left according to the vet.

I’m absolutely devastated at the thought of losing my girl. She has been an amazing companion… a dream dog. She’s my world.

I owe her so much and I need to be there for her in the final moments.

I can’t bear the thought.

How do I get thru it?
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Reading that it is clear how much you care about your girl and that you will be with her as she goes to sleep.

I have been through this sad situation a few times, and it is not easy but it is not about us/you, it is about your girl. You will get through it.

As has been picked up imagine if you had not had all those wonderful years. She has clearly had a great love filled life, sadly many of our four legged friends don't get that.

Chin up mate.
 
bullybeef said:
Can anyone offer me advice.

My dog is receiving palliative care and hasn’t got long left according to the vet.

I’m absolutely devastated at the thought of losing my girl. She has been an amazing companion… a dream dog. She’s my world.

I owe her so much and I need to be there for her in the final moments.

I can’t bear the thought.

How do I get thru it?
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hi mate, i’ve been through it, i lost my dad at 24, and (others through my life)

but losing my dog before (bud) i (have now)

was the worst pain ever, far more then losing my own father.

cherish every moment spoil her more, hug her more, she loves you and is thankful of the amazing life you have give her and you love her.

if you wanna pm me mate then i’m here to talk x
 
matty1878 said:
hi mate, i’ve been through it, i lost my dad at 24, and (others through my life)

but losing my dog before (bud) i (have now)

was the worst pain ever, far more then losing my own father.

cherish every moment spoil her more, hug her more, she loves you and is thankful of the amazing life you have give her and you love her.

if you wanna pm me mate then i’m here to talk x
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I have owned dogs since 1973. My first lived to the extraordinary age of 17.

Since 1991, we have never had less than two dogs - three at the moment. It always grieves me when one reaches the end. We all cry our hearts out.

Best advice, given by a Vet to me back in the 80s was, if in the morning the dog is struggling to get out of bed and is not wagging its tail, it is doing the dog a favour to put it to sleep.

At the moment I have a 14 year old mutt, and two GSDs, one aged 7 and a mad 9 month old pup.

We all will have different ways of coping - @verreauxi is correct in advising that you will need to take your time about a new dog. Our coping mechanism is that all our dogs that have passed on are buried in our garden (luckily we have a large garden) but we never had to come back to an empty house because there was also one or two other dogs about the house.
 


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