Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[Sassy Colombian]

All fine Sassy. I've felt a little run down but nothing too bad and my son had a slight cough but that seems to have gone. Fingers crossed all good thanks for asking

That's great to hear. I hope your mom's missus is also recovering well. Keeping my fingers crossed for all of you.

 

[EFCPaul]

Not been the best of years. Lost a parent, a job (on bad terms) and also a few people I really respected and looked up too. Been some good moments too though, and the future ahead seems to be quite bright-looking, both personally and in general for the world. Crossing all my fingers it plays out as hoped.

Stay strong people, this time of year I know for a fact lots of people suffer really badly but choose not to say anything. Anyone ever wants to talk, I'm on here pretty much every day even if I'm not active in this thread.

 

[Leylo]

Not been the best of years. Lost a parent, a job (on bad terms) and also a few people I really respected and looked up too. Been some good moments too though, and the future ahead seems to be quite bright-looking, both personally and in general for the world. Crossing all my fingers it plays out as hoped.

Stay strong people, this time of year I know for a fact lots of people suffer really badly but choose not to say anything. Anyone ever wants to talk, I'm on here pretty much every day even if I'm not active in this thread.

Lost both parents last couple of months what a horrible year as it was for you , working my way through it like yourself ,ive kept posting and having banter on Got keeps you going in a funny way.
hope new year has better times eh happy new year well done Got for this section on your forum

 

[maccavennie]

Lost both parents last couple of months what a horrible year as it was for you , working my way through it like yourself ,ive kept posting and having banter on Got keeps you going in a funny way.
hope new year has better times eh happy new year well done Got for this section on your forum

Sorry to hear mate about both your parents, that's a real tough one to take.

Like you say, even through the rough days mate, you can find yourself posting on here almost in automatic and it helps you get through another day.

Take care mate and I sincerely wish you a happy new year and all the best for 2021

 

[Brendan Janus]

That's me done !! Thank you Everton for ruining the start of 2021, I think it is time to end it all, fcuk all to look forward too, time too RIP !!

 

[dave n]

That's me done !! Thank you Everton for ruining the start of 2021, I think it is time to end it all, fcuk all to look forward too, time too RIP !!

It's only one game mate. You must be used to it being an Evertonian by now. I should of bet on 1-0 West Ham. It's typical.
At least you haven't got to suffer Match Of The Day tonight.

 

[evertondotcom]

A poster in here recommended a booking with regards to anxiety - I can’t find the post anywhere?

 

[evertondotcom]

A poster in here recommended a booking with regards to anxiety - I can’t find the post anywhere?

Found it!

 

[Leylo]

Just saw a recording of the everton supporters/players lost at the west ham game wow so sad saw my dad's name,our club is pure class with things like this. By god I'm so proud to be an evertonian even tho the result wasn't so great. Everton in the community we piss all over our neighbours.

 

[Robbie85]

I feel stupid even posting after reading some of your stories. Truth is I'm just down and lost. I don't love my wife, don't know if I ever did. We were together quite a while in our 20s then it just got to the point where all our mates were getting married. I came home one day and she's crying saying either we get married or she leaves. We got married two years ago, I thought I'd make her happy but things are the same. We are more like mates if anything in the better times, other times I can't do anything right and we either argue or don't talk at all. We've got a one year old daughter and I'm scared to leave as I don't want to lose her. I feel trapped. Apart from my daughter I feel like marrying her has been a mistake. I have a female friend I've known for about 6 years who has been a huge support and we've grown close over this time. I don't want to rock the boat I don't know what to do.

 

[dave n]

I feel stupid even posting after reading some of your stories. Truth is I'm just down and lost. I don't love my wife, don't know if I ever did. We were together quite a while in our 20s then it just got to the point where all our mates were getting married. I came home one day and she's crying saying either we get married or she leaves. We got married two years ago, I thought I'd make her happy but things are the same. We are more like mates if anything in the better times, other times I can't do anything right and we either argue or don't talk at all. We've got a one year old daughter and I'm scared to leave as I don't want to lose her. I feel trapped. Apart from my daughter I feel like marrying her has been a mistake. I have a female friend I've known for about 6 years who has been a huge support and we've grown close over this time. I don't want to rock the boat I don't know what to do.

If you no you don't love your wife mate you need to be honest with her for the good of you both. I stayed with my now ex wife when she didn't love me anymore and her lies continued.
Even 2.5 after our marriage ended I'm still not fixed. I hide in a 6 man bedsit and some days don't get out of bed.
My daughter is 15 and I hardly see her.
My ex also had a male friend she was close to. It may be time to choose your wife or your friend. Mine chose her friend.

 

[blue1948]

I feel stupid even posting after reading some of your stories. Truth is I'm just down and lost. I don't love my wife, don't know if I ever did. We were together quite a while in our 20s then it just got to the point where all our mates were getting married. I came home one day and she's crying saying either we get married or she leaves. We got married two years ago, I thought I'd make her happy but things are the same. We are more like mates if anything in the better times, other times I can't do anything right and we either argue or don't talk at all. We've got a one year old daughter and I'm scared to leave as I don't want to lose her. I feel trapped. Apart from my daughter I feel like marrying her has been a mistake. I have a female friend I've known for about 6 years who has been a huge support and we've grown close over this time. I don't want to rock the boat I don't know what to do.

If I can ever give advice it is to get out of a bad relationship .NOW .
I was married twenty two years to a woman who changed straight after we married but because I had been married before I tried for many years to solve the problem .We had a good life I built a house in 1/3 acre garden we traveled abroad twice a year ,we had kids at private school but still "We have nothing " was what she told me .We had a spell where I refused to speak to her for 5 years ,no Happy birthday ,merry Xmas nothing .It is surprisingly easy sadly . I promised I would leave as soon as my youngest son left for University and I did but one week before .
My youngest by the way doesn't speak to me ,so the only thing I can tell myself is that I tried but failed .

 

[Spotty]

I feel stupid even posting after reading some of your stories. Truth is I'm just down and lost. I don't love my wife, don't know if I ever did. We were together quite a while in our 20s then it just got to the point where all our mates were getting married. I came home one day and she's crying saying either we get married or she leaves. We got married two years ago, I thought I'd make her happy but things are the same. We are more like mates if anything in the better times, other times I can't do anything right and we either argue or don't talk at all. We've got a one year old daughter and I'm scared to leave as I don't want to lose her. I feel trapped. Apart from my daughter I feel like marrying her has been a mistake. I have a female friend I've known for about 6 years who has been a huge support and we've grown close over this time. I don't want to rock the boat I don't know what to do.

To start, you can't go on living your life as it is miserable. I suggest sitting down with your wife. Cards on table. Tell her exactly how you feel. It will be very hard for both of you but tell her that you don't love her. She'll be devastated but it needs to be said. Both of you need to let her know exactly how you feel. You CAN'T make somebody love you and vise versa. At the moment your pretending. Saying that she is the mother of your child. You should have some love for her for being mum and respect her. Your lucky your daughter is 1 and won't ". Get it." As a father, you have rights, including access. As long as your not a danger to your daughter, you can see her. It's very easy for me to say, but it's going to be painful for all your family, but you do need to address it. Your mental health will deteriorate if you don't address the situation. Be honest but be as sensitive with your wife as you can, she spent hours pushing your daughter into the World and deserves to be treat properly as I'm sure you will. Take care and I hope its not to painful for you or your wife.

 

[Spotty]

If I can ever give advice it is to get out of a bad relationship .NOW .
I was married twenty two years to a woman who changed straight after we married but because I had been married before I tried for many years to solve the problem .We had a good life I built a house in 1/3 acre garden we traveled abroad twice a year ,we had kids at private school but still "We have nothing " was what she told me .We had a spell where I refused to speak to her for 5 years ,no Happy birthday ,merry Xmas nothing .It is surprisingly easy sadly . I promised I would leave as soon as my youngest son left for University and I did but one week before .
My youngest by the way doesn't speak to me ,so the only thing I can tell myself is that I tried but failed .

I feel stupid even posting after reading some of your stories. Truth is I'm just down and lost. I don't love my wife, don't know if I ever did. We were together quite a while in our 20s then it just got to the point where all our mates were getting married. I came home one day and she's crying saying either we get married or she leaves. We got married two years ago, I thought I'd make her happy but things are the same. We are more like mates if anything in the better times, other times I can't do anything right and we either argue or don't talk at all. We've got a one year old daughter and I'm scared to leave as I don't want to lose her. I feel trapped. Apart from my daughter I feel like marrying her has been a mistake. I have a female friend I've known for about 6 years who has been a huge support and we've grown close over this time. I don't want to rock the boat I don't know what to do.

Further to my previous post Robbie I meant to say " living your life as it is". You may find this link useful Robbie, good luck m8.

Parental rights and responsibilities

Who has parental responsibility for looking after children, and how to apply for parental responsibility if you were unmarried to the mother or are not on the birth certificate

www.gov.uk

 

[Spotty]

Just saw a recording of the everton supporters/players lost at the west ham game wow so sad saw my dad's name,our club is pure class with things like this. By god I'm so proud to be an evertonian even tho the result wasn't so great. Everton in the community we piss all over our neighbours.

As a non Everton fan, your fan base should be extremely proud of its community links, especially the food banks etc.