Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[Earwigjoe]

Been a difficult Christmas. Me and her between us have a terminal parent and another just struggling with the world in general. I love Christmas, lights, music, vibe.

A very stressful last few weeks with sadly an inevitable outcome soon.

We watched Father Ted late Christmas Eve, finally got sitting down together after doing the Santa Sacks and seeing our parents. We enjoyed the moment, laughs. Kisses, just Christmas.

The inevitable is just hanging like a dark cloud.

That's really sad mate. The waiting for the inevitable is the hardest,not knowing if each day is going to be your last with them. Thank God you've got each other, you seem to be each others rock, selfishly I'm glad yous have gotten over Christmas, a death on the holidays can ruin them for the future. Make the most of the time yous have nobody knows what the future holds for any of us. Wishing you and the missus a peaceful New year all the best mate.

 

[anjelikaferrett]

Been a difficult Christmas. Me and her between us have a terminal parent and another just struggling with the world in general. I love Christmas, lights, music, vibe.

A very stressful last few weeks with sadly an inevitable outcome soon.

We watched Father Ted late Christmas Eve, finally got sitting down together after doing the Santa Sacks and seeing our parents. We enjoyed the moment, laughs. Kisses, just Christmas.

The inevitable is just hanging like a dark cloud.

Oh that's so sad. Haven't really got anything to say other than sending you much love and thoughts x

 

[Sassy Colombian]

Been a difficult Christmas. Me and her between us have a terminal parent and another just struggling with the world in general. I love Christmas, lights, music, vibe.

A very stressful last few weeks with sadly an inevitable outcome soon.

We watched Father Ted late Christmas Eve, finally got sitting down together after doing the Santa Sacks and seeing our parents. We enjoyed the moment, laughs. Kisses, just Christmas.

The inevitable is just hanging like a dark cloud.

I can't imagine how hard this must be for your family. While there is a little to find comfort in times like this, you being able to find a moment to have some laughs and kisses is something to cherish. It will be these fond memories the ones that you will always carry in your heart and will help you get through the hard moments when your parents are not longer here with you.

May the dark clouds disappear soon and may you, and your family, be able to experience some sunshine as your hearts heals from this suffering.

 

[blue1948]

Been a difficult Christmas. Me and her between us have a terminal parent and another just struggling with the world in general. I love Christmas, lights, music, vibe.

A very stressful last few weeks with sadly an inevitable outcome soon.

We watched Father Ted late Christmas Eve, finally got sitting down together after doing the Santa Sacks and seeing our parents. We enjoyed the moment, laughs. Kisses, just Christmas.

The inevitable is just hanging like a dark cloud.

If it any help for you I lost my mum 12 years ago and she is with us all the time .They never go away they just hide out of sight .Now and again I get a shiver and the wife swears that is my mum so we say hello to her and carry on ,as said before with the best memories of someone you loved and they loved you in return .My best wishes to all and hopefully a Happy New year to your parents .

 

[DanEFC92]

Tell ya what, gagging for some good news.

 

[Earwigjoe]

Tell ya what, gagging for some good news.

2020 is nearly over oh and we're going to win the league. UTFT.

 

[maccavennie]

Tell ya what, gagging for some good news.

I found some additional toilet roll after thinking we had none.

That's all I've got for today Dan.

 

[DanEFC92]

I found some additional toilet roll after thinking we had none.

That's all I've got for today Dan.

 

[maccavennie]

I don't think your alone in doing what you've done mate so it doesn't make you a bad person by any stretch. I had my mother in law and husband round for dinner last night. She's been in our bubble since the start and he's been really unwell and was in hospital (where he caught Covid).

Hand on heart, honestly my instinct was to just to tell the missus that they can't come and I'd deliver a dinner to them just because I've had the mindset that the less people we are in contact with the better. All the whilst I don't think there has barely been a day in the last 9 months where my wife hasn't been in contact with a Covid patient so the odds are if we were going to get it, it would be through that way.

My wife has had the vaccine, I know at some point next year I'll be offered it and so I know at some point next year we'll be back on the road to normality. All I tell myself is its short term pain for long term gain.

I haven't gone 8 days without seeing anyone and no doubt I won't as I'll be back working again soon. But I can honeslty say if a mate invited me for a meal now, i simply wouldn't go though I see no harm in seeing someone outside socially distanced.

It won't always be like this mate and it's just a case of trying to make sensible decisions when possible

@Billy Dean following on from this message mate, my mother in law has been confirmed as having Covid-19 now so me, the missus and the kids are doing our 2nd stint of isolation now.

My gut instinct was right unfortunately. The main thing is that she recovers quickly and hopefully we get lucky and don't suffer ourselves too badly (sons got a slight cough and I feel a little run down but that's probably from me staying up late watching 50,000 films a night lol)

 

[Billy Dean]

@Billy Dean following on from this message mate, my mother in law has been confirmed as having Covid-19 now so me, the missus and the kids are doing our 2nd stint of isolation now.

My gut instinct was right unfortunately. The main thing is that she recovers quickly and hopefully we get lucky and don't suffer ourselves too badly (sons got a slight cough and I feel a little run down but that's probably from me staying up late watching 50,000 films a night lol)

Sorry to hear that mate. Hope your mother in law recovers well and hope you haven’t got it. Yeah I’m pretty much done with socialising for a while I think. At least indoors. For the best I think, at least until numbers reduce a bit.

 

[Sassy Colombian]

@Billy Dean following on from this message mate, my mother in law has been confirmed as having Covid-19 now so me, the missus and the kids are doing our 2nd stint of isolation now.

My gut instinct was right unfortunately. The main thing is that she recovers quickly and hopefully we get lucky and don't suffer ourselves too badly (sons got a slight cough and I feel a little run down but that's probably from me staying up late watching 50,000 films a night lol)

Oh no Mac, I'm so sorry to hear. Please take care of yourselves. Sending lots of healing vibes to all of you.

Small family and friend gatherings have become an easy way to spread Covid during the Christmas. My husband and I were supposed to visit his dad and his gf this weekend. I didn't think we should go but it has been almost a year since we last saw them and they were eager to spend time with us and our daughter. The past week I have been trying to talk my hubby against going because we would be spending a couple of days indoors in the same house as his dad and gf. But they kept insisting and my hubby felt bad turning his dad's request down. However, last night we received a call from his dad saying that they had been exposed to Covid. They spent Christmas day with his gf's daughter and her husband tested Covid positive yesterday. So thankfully out trip has been cancelled but now I'm praying that my hubby's dad hasn't catch it as he would be high risk given he has heart issues and is a diabetic. I know we are all eager for life
to go back to normal and spend time with our love ones but when we are so close to the end of the tunnel is not worth risking it. So @Billy Dean you did well by avoiding your gathering with your friends. Stay safe!

 

[maccavennie]

Sorry to hear that mate. Hope your mother in law recovers well and hope you haven’t got it. Yeah I’m pretty much done with socialising for a while I think. At least indoors. For the best I think, at least until numbers reduce a bit.

Definitely mate. Good job I'm not best friends with Neymar so I don't have to accept my invitation to his new years eve party in Brazil!

A quiet one this year with a log fire outside and some booze I reckon.

 

[maccavennie]

Oh no Mac, I'm so sorry to hear. Please take care of yourselves. Sending lots of healing vibes to all of you.

Small family and friend gatherings have become an easy way to spread Covid during the Christmas. My husband and I were supposed to visit his dad and his gf this weekend. I didn't think we should go but it has been almost a year since we last saw them and they were eager to spend time with us and our daughter The past week I have been trying to talk my hubby against going because we would be spending a couple of days indoors in the same house as his dad and gf. But they kept insisting and my hubby felt bad turning his dad's request down. However, last night we received a call from his dad saying that they had been exposed to Covid. They spent Christmas day with his gf's daughter and her husband tested Covid positive yesterday. So thankfully out trip has been cancelled but now I'm praying that my hubby's dad hasn't catch it as he would be high risk given he has heart issues and is a diabetic. I know we are all eager for life
to go back to normal and spend time with our love ones but when we are so close to the end of the tunnel is not worth risking it. So @Billy Dean you did well by avoiding your gathering with your friends. Stay safe!

Spot on Sassy. Hard to say no to family isn't it but if you can, then definitely do it if possible.

I sound like a stuck record but it's short term pain for long term gain.

 

[Sassy Colombian]

Spot on Sassy. Hard to say no to family isn't it but if you can, then definitely do it if possible.

I sound like a stuck record but it's short term pain for long term gain.

It is very hard to say no to family but if we are to get out of this unscathed we must sacrifice a bit more.

Since you mention stuck record how fun are you having with your new Christmas gift? Or have you been to run down to play it?

 

[maccavennie]

It is very hard to say no to family but if we are to get out of this unscathed we must sacrifice a bit more.

Since you mention stuck record how fun are you having with your new Christmas gift? Or have you been to run down to play it?

Loving them Sassy, got a few this year

No Cher or Whitney Houston yet but I did get INXS Kick and I'm pretty sure they penned the song "new sensation" full well knowing that Rodriguez was going to putting on the mighty Everton shirt 30 years later!