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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

This time of year can be the very best of times, but also the very worst of times for those struggling, whether that be with health, family or financial.

I just wanted to wish everyone a Merry Christmas and remember that your never far away from a virtual arm around the shoulder and an ear to share a problem with here. There's some amazing people on here who can offer first hand advice or help and links to go and get help if needed.

For all the great threads we have on GOT, this is by far the best ever created.

Take care folks and all the best x
I was going to send a similar message but you put it so well that I can't come up with better words.

Merry Christmas to everyone here!
 
Well said mate and can I also add that if anyone is struggling for whatever reason and just wants to get anything at all off their chest, there’ll always be people on here who’ll get back to them - even today x
Here here. This is a very very beneficial and helpful forum, with good advice and support for people. We'll done EFC and it's fans for making it possible for people to share and get help. Merry Christmas to all.
 
As its my first year on here I'd like to wish all my new found friends a very Happy Christmas. For those of us who have lost loved ones this year we'll all be thinking of you. Christmas can be a very trying time for most - especially those who are struggling or mourning love lost or those who set themselves unreal expectations. The only perfect Christmases are hallmark movies and if its any comfort we'll all suffer together as there's propably not a house celebrating Christmas that won't be missing or reminiscing about a loved one, so be easy on yourself. God Bless and Merry Christmas.
this is very nice, thank you. All the best mate.
 
Posted something similar in the covid thread but probably also fits in here too. It's now 8 days since I've had face to face interactions with anyone other than at the supermarket cash desk. All the media panic of the last couple of weeks has got to me more than at any time during the pandemic. Was invited to a friend's for dinner tonight and have just cancelled. Would've been 4 people from 3 household so slightly against the rules anyway. But I shat it basically, images of new variants and long covid going through my mind. I lied and said I was feeling a bit under the weather so I don't feel great about lying to my friends either. Overall I don't feel depressed or anything but worried about how long that will last the longer I stay away from people. I'm probably over dramatising things a bit. I guess I'll just need to make more effort to meet friends outdoors for the time being.
 

Posted something similar in the covid thread but probably also fits in here too. It's now 8 days since I've had face to face interactions with anyone other than at the supermarket cash desk. All the media panic of the last couple of weeks has got to me more than at any time during the pandemic. Was invited to a friend's for dinner tonight and have just cancelled. Would've been 4 people from 3 household so slightly against the rules anyway. But I shat it basically, images of new variants and long covid going through my mind. I lied and said I was feeling a bit under the weather so I don't feel great about lying to my friends either. Overall I don't feel depressed or anything but worried about how long that will last the longer I stay away from people. I'm probably over dramatising things a bit. I guess I'll just need to make more effort to meet friends outdoors for the time being.

I don't think your alone in doing what you've done mate so it doesn't make you a bad person by any stretch. I had my mother in law and husband round for dinner last night. She's been in our bubble since the start and he's been really unwell and was in hospital (where he caught Covid).

Hand on heart, honestly my instinct was to just to tell the missus that they can't come and I'd deliver a dinner to them just because I've had the mindset that the less people we are in contact with the better. All the whilst I don't think there has barely been a day in the last 9 months where my wife hasn't been in contact with a Covid patient so the odds are if we were going to get it, it would be through that way.

My wife has had the vaccine, I know at some point next year I'll be offered it and so I know at some point next year we'll be back on the road to normality. All I tell myself is its short term pain for long term gain.

I haven't gone 8 days without seeing anyone and no doubt I won't as I'll be back working again soon. But I can honeslty say if a mate invited me for a meal now, i simply wouldn't go though I see no harm in seeing someone outside socially distanced.

It won't always be like this mate and it's just a case of trying to make sensible decisions when possible
 
I don't think your alone in doing what you've done mate so it doesn't make you a bad person by any stretch. I had my mother in law and husband round for dinner last night. She's been in our bubble since the start and he's been really unwell and was in hospital (where he caught Covid).

Hand on heart, honestly my instinct was to just to tell the missus that they can't come and I'd deliver a dinner to them just because I've had the mindset that the less people we are in contact with the better. All the whilst I don't think there has barely been a day in the last 9 months where my wife hasn't been in contact with a Covid patient so the odds are if we were going to get it, it would be through that way.

My wife has had the vaccine, I know at some point next year I'll be offered it and so I know at some point next year we'll be back on the road to normality. All I tell myself is its short term pain for long term gain.

I haven't gone 8 days without seeing anyone and no doubt I won't as I'll be back working again soon. But I can honeslty say if a mate invited me for a meal now, i simply wouldn't go though I see no harm in seeing someone outside socially distanced.

It won't always be like this mate and it's just a case of trying to make sensible decisions when possible
Thanks mate, yeah I agree that was the thinking in my mind this morning. Just didn't see the point in taking risks when a vaccine is round the corner and it's possible to meet up in safer ways outdoors even if it's cold and that. I was just kind of looking forward to it though as haven't really been up to much recently. Oh well.
 
Thanks mate, yeah I agree that was the thinking in my mind this morning. Just didn't see the point in taking risks when a vaccine is round the corner and it's possible to meet up in safer ways outdoors even if it's cold and that. I was just kind of looking forward to it though as haven't really been up to much recently. Oh well.

If you haven't been up to much at least you can say hand on heart you've done all that is asked of you and kept safe and in turn kept others safe.

When this is all over mate I'm doing a pub crawl (which means about 3 pubs for me), doing a week's worth of restaurants and hugging every bloody stranger who comes into my path lol
 
If you haven't been up to much at least you can say hand on heart you've done all that is asked of you and kept safe and in turn kept others safe.

When this is all over mate I'm doing a pub crawl (which means about 3 pubs for me), doing a week's worth of restaurants and hugging every bloody stranger who comes into my path lol
Haha I'm going to Ibiza mate, gonna get as close to people as possible lol

Yeah I'm probably doing the "right" thing. Just feels a bit gash doing it when it means cancelling on friends and stuff
 
Haha I'm going to Ibiza mate, gonna get as close to people as possible lol

Yeah I'm probably doing the "right" thing. Just feels a bit gash doing it when it means cancelling on friends and stuff

Aye mate, easy to feel like the odd one out a bit when other folk are cracking on with things. GOTs served me well this year I gotta say, just with the variety of threads and on the days when I've been really stressed about things in life there's always a bloody good laugh on one of the many great threads just around the corner.

Hope you have a good evening mate and Everton deliver us a nice points ;)
 

Thanks mate, yeah I agree that was the thinking in my mind this morning. Just didn't see the point in taking risks when a vaccine is round the corner and it's possible to meet up in safer ways outdoors even if it's cold and that. I was just kind of looking forward to it though as haven't really been up to much recently. Oh well.
IF you count the days you have to stay indoors and work out how long you have lived / hope to live ,it is a short time .You have more than likely gone without many other things for that amount of time but the media makes us think it is so long it is hard .The truth is it is not comfortable but we will be dead much longer than this ,so stay strong and safe .Let us get through this and the next year COYB .
 
Been a difficult Christmas. Me and her between us have a terminal parent and another just struggling with the world in general. I love Christmas, lights, music, vibe.

A very stressful last few weeks with sadly an inevitable outcome soon.

We watched Father Ted late Christmas Eve, finally got sitting down together after doing the Santa Sacks and seeing our parents. We enjoyed the moment, laughs. Kisses, just Christmas.

The inevitable is just hanging like a dark cloud.
 
Been a difficult Christmas. Me and her between us have a terminal parent and another just struggling with the world in general. I love Christmas, lights, music, vibe.

A very stressful last few weeks with sadly an inevitable outcome soon.

We watched Father Ted late Christmas Eve, finally got sitting down together after doing the Santa Sacks and seeing our parents. We enjoyed the moment, laughs. Kisses, just Christmas.

The inevitable is just hanging like a dark cloud.
Mate, don't really know what to say regarding your parents it must be really tough that but what a lovely moment you described with your good lady, on top of everything else you could easily be at each others throats but you're obviously strong for each other and there's a lot of love there to support each other as events unfold.
I wish you both all the best AT I'm sure you will come through all of this, it will be difficult but you have each other, try and enjoy what's left of the festive period and remember moments like you've just described to us and get strength from that.
 

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