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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

Twinkletoes123 said:
I get panic attacks pretty regularly not even leaving the house, been happening for years. It’s so hard trying to do stuff that others take for granted but we’ll get there slowly but surely.
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Has anyone explained to you why they happen? Cos its a biological/chemical thing, that is totally normal. Once you know why its happening, they become a million % less scary.
 
roydo said:
Has anyone explained to you why they happen? Cos its a biological/chemical thing, that is totally normal. Once you know why its happening, they become a million % less scary.
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It started with losing my dad, grandmother and then my mum in the space of 14 months then having to deal with my husband and having to live in constant survival mode. My mum was pretty hard on me growing up, I had to constantly strive to please or feel her wrath and constant passive aggressiveness. I was always compared to my sister whom was beautiful so everyone told me and was very confident with it. I had a very traumatic experience when I was 14 which to this day I will never get over no matter how hard I try to forget. I have been left with PDSD and C-PTSD. I think I am starting to ramble a bit now, I’m sorry.
 
Twinkletoes123 said:
It started with losing my dad, grandmother and then my mum in the space of 14 months then having to deal with my husband and having to live in constant survival mode. My mum was pretty hard on me growing up, I had to constantly strive to please or feel her wrath and constant passive aggressiveness. I was always compared to my sister whom was beautiful so everyone told me and was very confident with it. I had a very traumatic experience when I was 14 which to this day I will never get over no matter how hard I try to forget. I have been left with PDSD and C-PTSD. I think I am starting to ramble a bit now, I’m sorry.
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Sorry, I didnt mean the root cause, they are many and varied. I mean the actual thing that happens in the brain that allows them to happen.

It seems, to me, from your post about being in the pub just 2 mins from home, that you have grasped the "safe place" thing, so fair play. That is important. And I would keep at that idea.
 

Twinkletoes123 said:
I get panic attacks pretty regularly not even leaving the house, been happening for years. It’s so hard trying to do stuff that others take for granted but we’ll get there slowly but surely.
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Totally agree it is so hard when you feel unable to do the things others take for granted, constantly looking for an escape route sitting near the door in pubs etc is tiring too, Supermarkets were agony for me and the introduction of self scan checkouts were an absolute godsend, no more being trapped in a queue. I was advised to try not to tense up too much and float past the rising panic, lot more difficult than it sounds but with practice it worked for me. Take things slowly and you will get there.
 
Rudolf Hucker said:
Anyone seen the Netflix series, How To Change Your Mind?

It‘s a real eye opener. I knew bits, but a lot I had no idea about.

Another on Netflix called Magic Medicine.

Looks like help could slowly be on it‘s way.

Governments need to be lobbied hard.
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I saw magic medicine and thought it was very interesting. I’d also read a bit about that subject before. Future could be brighter hopefully
 
Gwladysover said:
Totally agree it is so hard when you feel unable to do the things others take for granted, constantly looking for an escape route sitting near the door in pubs etc is tiring too, Supermarkets were agony for me and the introduction of self scan checkouts were an absolute godsend, no more being trapped in a queue. I was advised to try not to tense up too much and float past the rising panic, lot more difficult than it sounds but with practice it worked for me. Take things slowly and you will get there.
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I found that understanding why it happens, puts me in control. Ergo, its part of my life, but "it" does not control me. In the same way that getting over a broken leg means you need to adopt different behaviours. Until it mends.

Trouble is, a broken leg is obvious and understandable to you and others. Mental health usually isnt. But both can be treated/sorted with similar approaches.
 

Twinkletoes123 said:
It started with losing my dad, grandmother and then my mum in the space of 14 months then having to deal with my husband and having to live in constant survival mode. My mum was pretty hard on me growing up, I had to constantly strive to please or feel her wrath and constant passive aggressiveness. I was always compared to my sister whom was beautiful so everyone told me and was very confident with it. I had a very traumatic experience when I was 14 which to this day I will never get over no matter how hard I try to forget. I have been left with PDSD and C-PTSD. I think I am starting to ramble a bit now, I’m sorry.
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Twinkletoes, if you would like help with regards your anxiety around leaving the house, I believe I can be of some help. Please DM me if / when you are able / ready to give it a try. No rush, no pressure. Take care
 
TyphooToffee said:
My ADHD behaviour has let to me being homeless since yesterday. In particular my binge drinking. I'm a big lump and Mrs TT just can't take any more of my stumbling about and being argumentative. We're not splitting up, we need to live apart until I have received the help I have been trying to get for the last five years.
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Suffice to say I am now sitting in the Sidcup Recreation Club, nursing my third pint of Heineken Silver.
 

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