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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

Billy Dean said:
Probably because you’re depressed mate? All the things you’ve described on here (negative thoughts, crying, fear of crowds etc) are pretty typical symptoms of depression. The good thing about that is that they can be dealt with and things can get better.
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Tbh I'm not sure he has got depression, while not medically qualified, I'd say depression is often an irrational feeling that lasts for a long time. Being unhappy with the way your life is, ie relationship problems, job problems, issues with family are all part of life. If somebody has rational reasons to be unhappy, that can be changed to make someone better then that's not depression in my view. Kid Cudi sums up depression in his song soundtrack to my life, a persistent state of unhappiness that lasts for years that doesn't seem to change no matter what. It's why often people in developing countries are happier those in 1st world countries, they know why they're unhappy.
 
Oasis1878 said:
Life’s a bit of a mess atm, being left in the lurch as my gf told me today she “needs a break”. Whatever that means. So I’m now spending Christmas alone. Tomorrows also 11 years since my dad committed suicide too, completely out of the blue. Best mate and massive Evertonian. Brave face needed for work tomorrow…!
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And it’s over. No idea what to do from here
 

Oasis1878 said:
And it’s over. No idea what to do from here
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I'm just sending my best wishes to you really mate because nothing I say will make this week any easier especially with it being the anniversary of your dad's suicide.
Just keep yourself busy with work and whatever takes your mind off your break up and take each day as it comes. You will.be ok.
 
Oasis1878 said:
And it’s over. No idea what to do from here
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Sorry about that mate, been through very similar in the past, good advice given by others already.
My top advice is simply take care of yourself, don't neglect your well being, you will be feeling really low but this is now another beginning for your good self and things will very gradually get better.
Good luck mate, let us know how you get on.
 
JelavicBrate2 said:
Tbh I'm not sure he has got depression, while not medically qualified, I'd say depression is often an irrational feeling that lasts for a long time. Being unhappy with the way your life is, ie relationship problems, job problems, issues with family are all part of life. If somebody has rational reasons to be unhappy, that can be changed to make someone better then that's not depression in my view. Kid Cudi sums up depression in his song soundtrack to my life, a persistent state of unhappiness that lasts for years that doesn't seem to change no matter what. It's why often people in developing countries are happier those in 1st world countries, they know why they're unhappy.
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Jelavic I've been drawn to your post because I wanted to highlight a couple of things you bring up in your post. You allude to " relationship problems..job problems....family issues etc...as part of life..". Indeed they are part of life. However, they become a problem when they become all enveloping, and they begin to have an adverse impact on your mental health. If not " addressed ", the consequences may lead to someone becoming depressed. That's why it's important to sort your issues out before they have a bad effect on you, start to become a real problem for you. You allude to depression as being an " irrational feeling ".I respectfully say to you that an irrational fear is a symptom of anxiety, not depression. It doesn't disclude someone who is depressed from having irrational fears. It is however a symptom of anxiety.

I also feel the point you make about " people in developing Countries being " happier " is a cultural one. I suggest it is often more acceptable to admit to experiencing mental health problems in more affluent societies, than it is in developing areas, where it is is more readily viewed as being a sign of weakness. Could I gently direct you towards the Organisation MIND, where there website has lots of information on the types of mental illness people experience, why people become mentally ill, symptoms and treatments. It is specifically written in plain speak, where we can all understand it. I use it myself and encourage the people I work with to view its contents. Finally, your disclosure of being in a persistent state of unhappiness, is something I can only imagine how bad it is for you. I don't agree with your premise that for you, " it doesn't seem to change ...no matter what " is a wrong one. I do not accept that people like yourself should live a constant flux of unhappiness. because there is " no way out " . Speak to someone, visit your Dr, explain how you always feel unhappy and how your sick of feeling like this and you want things to change. IT DOES NOT HAVE TO BE LIKE THIS FOR YOU ! Take care Jelavic, I hope you find the peace of mind you crave bud.
 


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