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Happy New Year to the GOT family. Through our ups and downs, laughter and tears it is reassuring to know that there are many friends here to help. 2023 will be a great year!
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tommye
Player Valuation: £100m
Brendon, Oasis, Twinkle, all of you.
Thinking of you all and hoping you are in a good place and you're all safe and warm.
To everyone who contributes to this thread, I hope 2023 brings you the peace within yourself to enjoy your life to the fullest. Each one of you are worth your weight in gold. ?
Thinking of you all and hoping you are in a good place and you're all safe and warm.
To everyone who contributes to this thread, I hope 2023 brings you the peace within yourself to enjoy your life to the fullest. Each one of you are worth your weight in gold. ?
I know this might not be a big deal for some but I am going out to dinner with my daughter today ? As some of you know, I never leave the house but I need to strive to do do better this year and this is huge to me.
Baby steps
And don`t put yourself down.
It is a big deal, as hopefully, it`s the first step back, to some kind of normality.
Thank you ? Hopefully I am able to get out the door, but I am determined to do better.Baby steps
And don`t put yourself down.
It is a big deal, as hopefully, it`s the first step back, to some kind of normality.
ForeverBlue92
Player Valuation: £80m
Happy New Year All - here is to a boss 2023 x
So sorry.
That's so good. Hope you have/had a lovely time x
I hope 2023 is a great year for all of the posters in this thread. May things improve for those who are having a rough time, may everybody experience peace and happiness. Much love x
tommye
Player Valuation: £100m
Have the most wonderful of days. You damn well deserve it. Enjoy every second x
Thank you for the lovely replies. My daughter is too hungover and tired to go to dinner now so we’ll go out another day. I am a little disappointed as I have stressed myself to the max in anticipation but it can’t be helped.
roydo
in memoriam - 1965-2024
I understand your issue re going out and that. I was/am a little still, having similar issues. My suggestion, if you were max stressed about it is simple. Dont do it. Or, have a safe place you can quietly get back to if its too much. In other words, be in control as best you can be.
I decided to give blood last year, but when I got there, instead of a small place, it was huge with hundreds of folk there. I sat down with the form they gave me, and couldnt cope. A nurse, bless her, noticed me, and I said to her "I am sorry, I am on the edge of a panic attack here". She said, "I know, I noticed the minute you came in. Just get yourself to your safe place, and you know it will pass".
The safe place? My car. Where I could control when I left and be alone.
Now, granted, I have had none of the issues you have faced for far too long, but angst/panic/scared can come from all sorts. Dont fight it to be "brave", tip toe around it and trust me, those baby steps will become larger ones in their/your own time.
Lovely to hear that you are improving, I really can’t imagine being in a packed out place, I’d be in the same state that you were in. You are right though, my doctor told me I should start going for a walk where it’s quiet first and build up from there. The pub we were going to eat in was only 2 minutes away and pretty quiet with nice discreet corners so thought I would be okay and it was easy to get back if I was too stressed out. Alas, that will have to wait for another day which maybe for the best. Baby steps x
roydo
in memoriam - 1965-2024
Thats exactly the right way to do it. I occasionally, maybe twice a month, pop down the pub. Everyone, pretty much, knew Nikki, and me Dad, so know I have had a rough year or so. But to not look daft by bolting half way through a pint, I have a half. I also put my supper on, and a large log on the burner, so, I can finish me drink, have a nice chat, and have a genuine reason get back safe.
There was one occasion a few months back, where even the half didnt quite work. Was nattering to a bloke I have known for 20 years, and I needed to get back. Just like that. In an instant, I shouldnt be there.
Next time I saw him, said "soz Stu, needed to get back, y'know" "No worries from us Roydo, its great to see you when you fancy it".
Folk are more aware/comfortable with this stuff than we sometimes think.
I get panic attacks pretty regularly not even leaving the house, been happening for years. It’s so hard trying to do stuff that others take for granted but we’ll get there slowly but surely.