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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

EFCPaul said:
Not feeling particulary good.

I've been in a job for almost 2 months and it was going well. Was getting the full hang of everything (lots of different daily tasks), was making a few friendly acquaintances, was impressing my superiors.

Wednesday morning we all got pulled into the office and told that there's going to be redundancies. Of course that means those on probation still like me will gone shortly. Really P'd off, what idiot okays a recruitment drive then barely weeks later realises the company can't afford it.

Got close with another new starter, we've gone on a few dates but it doesn't feel like it's going to go anywhere. She's a bit too highly-strung for even me (can be go go from really nice to rather rude for no reason) and I sense she more just wants a friend to vent too.

Taking my medicine but it doesn't feel as if it's been working much. The days are getting harder and harder it feels like. Anyone else felt like this recently who can offer advice?
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Put this bunch of clowns into the lowest gear possible and focus on you. Although I've had my revenge ready previous I can't suggest seeing it through.
There's a labour shortage, you have skills and experience, sometimes you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince.

It aint nice, but your better off finding out what a sack of spite this crew are earlier than later. Chin up, lessons learned, it'll be ok.
 
EFCPaul said:
Not feeling particulary good.

I've been in a job for almost 2 months and it was going well. Was getting the full hang of everything (lots of different daily tasks), was making a few friendly acquaintances, was impressing my superiors.

Wednesday morning we all got pulled into the office and told that there's going to be redundancies. Of course that means those on probation still like me will gone shortly. Really P'd off, what idiot okays a recruitment drive then barely weeks later realises the company can't afford it.

Got close with another new starter, we've gone on a few dates but it doesn't feel like it's going to go anywhere. She's a bit too highly-strung for even me (can be go go from really nice to rather rude for no reason) and I sense she more just wants a friend to vent too.

Taking my medicine but it doesn't feel as if it's been working much. The days are getting harder and harder it feels like. Anyone else felt like this recently who can offer advice?
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You have had a knock back but take heart from the fact that you were offered this job and have been doing well at it. There is no reason why you shouldn’t get another and do well at that too, should you be made redundant. Best wishes.💙
 
Anybody here dealt with alcohol issues?

i'm not an alcoholic (i don't think) but i'm worried i might be heading down that road and there is family history for it

i don't tend to go on benders but i have a few cans of beer most nights and I've realised it's a habit and want to break it

gave up for lent but went back to old ways worryingly easy

(frankly i'm also a bit worried the only place i can open up about this is an anonymous football forum :drunk:)
 
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zukai12_ said:
Anybody here dealt with alcohol issues?

i'm not an alcoholic (i don't think) but i'm worried i might be heading down that road and there is family history for it

i don't tend to go on benders but i have a few cans of beer most nights and I've realised it's a habit and want to break it

gave up for lent but went back to old ways worryingly easy

(frankly i'm also a bit worried the only place i can open up about this is an anonymous football forum :drunk:)
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It can creep up on you. Tolerance, that end of the day buzz just to see you off to sleep. Going hell for leather on a weekend. If you are feeling it's getting to much, there's not a lot online can help to see and do, by that I mean it's doctor time and to be truthful, "I'm consuming 40 units weekly" for instance.

Is it boredom? routine? a treat for dealing with the daily tedium and pain of other people? It's as much about why you are boozing as it is just the booze.

I have no answers, I'm a few cans in this evening and I have it on a leash not the other way round (I hope), but fair crack for signalling it up. ;)
 
Rita_Poon said:
It can creep up on you. Tolerance, that end of the day buzz just to see you off to sleep. Going hell for leather on a weekend. If you are feeling it's getting to much, there's not a lot online can help to see and do, by that I mean it's doctor time and to be truthful, "I'm consuming 40 units weekly" for instance.

Is it boredom? routine? a treat for dealing with the daily tedium and pain of other people? It's as much about why you are boozing as it is just the booze.

I have no answers, I'm a few cans in this evening and I have it on a leash not the other way round (I hope), but fair crack for signalling it up. ;)
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Some words to think on

Thank you
 

zukai12_ said:
Anybody here dealt with alcohol issues?

i'm not an alcoholic (i don't think) but i'm worried i might be heading down that road and there is family history for it

i don't tend to go on benders but i have a few cans of beer most nights and I've realised it's a habit and want to break it

gave up for lent but went back to old ways worryingly easy

(frankly i'm also a bit worried the only place i can open up about this is an anonymous football forum :drunk:)
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You have acknowledged that there may be a problem which is a good start. Our local GP surgery (Cambs.) has a counselling/support service for people dealing with alcohol problems, there may be something similar in your area. Best wishes.💙
 
zukai12_ said:
Anybody here dealt with alcohol issues?

i'm not an alcoholic (i don't think) but i'm worried i might be heading down that road and there is family history for it

i don't tend to go on benders but i have a few cans of beer most nights and I've realised it's a habit and want to break it

gave up for lent but went back to old ways worryingly easy

(frankly i'm also a bit worried the only place i can open up about this is an anonymous football forum :drunk:)
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Definitely, although mine manifests a bit differently to yours. I've always been the weekend binge drinker, confident that I can't be an alcoholic, because I don't drink every day.

The last couple of years, alongside a general health kick, I have tried to address it. I haven't binned it completely, but I reckon I drink once every 2-3 weeks on average now, as opposed to every Fri & Sat.

I do drum lessons and gym sessions on Saturday mornings, now, which ensures I don't touch the stuff on Friday nights. Saturday late morning/afternoon/evening I'll do as much as I can with the missus and kids, to generally keep myself occupied and my thoughts off the sauce. Occasionally I will fail, and drink when I hadn't planned to, but these things happen, and the clock resets the next morning and we go again.

Bit odd, but I often try to replace that first drink, the one that takes the edge off a stressful day, with a cuppa. Has a similar, satisfying feeling to it, but crucially doesn't get me started on that old, slippery slope.

Good luck mate. The fact you've identified the habit and are keen to break it is a massive step in the right direction.
 
EFCPaul said:
Not feeling particulary good.

I've been in a job for almost 2 months and it was going well. Was getting the full hang of everything (lots of different daily tasks), was making a few friendly acquaintances, was impressing my superiors.

Wednesday morning we all got pulled into the office and told that there's going to be redundancies. Of course that means those on probation still like me will gone shortly. Really P'd off, what idiot okays a recruitment drive then barely weeks later realises the company can't afford it.

Got close with another new starter, we've gone on a few dates but it doesn't feel like it's going to go anywhere. She's a bit too highly-strung for even me (can be go go from really nice to rather rude for no reason) and I sense she more just wants a friend to vent too.

Taking my medicine but it doesn't feel as if it's been working much. The days are getting harder and harder it feels like. Anyone else felt like this recently who can offer advice?
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Listened to this recently,

Interesting hypothesis that a lot of mental health issues may be related to metabolic disorders and resistant to medication and can be effectively treated with a ketogenic diet, may sound quackish but the guy behind it is a professor of psychiatry from Harvard.

 
zukai12_ said:
Anybody here dealt with alcohol issues?

i'm not an alcoholic (i don't think) but i'm worried i might be heading down that road and there is family history for it

i don't tend to go on benders but i have a few cans of beer most nights and I've realised it's a habit and want to break it

gave up for lent but went back to old ways worryingly easy

(frankly i'm also a bit worried the only place i can open up about this is an anonymous football forum :drunk:)
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I am absolutely not someone who is going to give you "good" advice on this. But I'll chime in here as I kind of feel like I stand at the top of a muddy hill. I absolutely HATE waking up during the week with a hangover. Abhor it. But I also know that I don't like stopping once I start. Like...REALLY don't like stopping. Bourbon after 7 beers? Sure!

I justify it trying to keep it to "the weekend". Tho my weekend days seem to get flexible.

And, yes, I know what that sounds like, but I don't have an issue with just not drinking at all. It's sole when I start.
 

jackyboy said:
Sorry mate should have responded earlier! Thanks so much for taking the time to reply.

I found myself constantly seeking reassurance from them despite them all confirming that I'd been completely fine. Then even when they did I was trying to come up with things that "might have happened" etc.

I'm just trying to focus on not taking them seriously as you said as that seems to have helped so far for sure. It's when I dwell on them that my thought process tends to spiral
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Just as a follow-up to this really.

Has been a little bit better over the past couple of weeks thankfully. I'm sleeping a lot better now and my appetite is okay too.

Have tried to stop myself from seeking reassurance over and over again from mates as it doesn't actually make me anymore likely to believe them or convince myself.

I've found the hardest part is being kinder to myself and just letting go and stopping the obsessing over what "might have happened".

I know deep down that I'm not a bad person or evil etc. But that's the bit that I'm struggling with the most.

It's especially frustrating as I was starting to feel back to normal until relapsing following seeing a poster in a train station of all things.
 
DanEFC92 said:
Anyone else just flap it in social situations? Had a party thing at the weekend and it was pretty miserable. Barely knew anyone there. Unless I'm hammered I'm useless at it.

Self confidence/esteem is low atm. Have been ruminating about it since.
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Myself and just about everyone I know. Anyone who’s not freaking out is weird.

It’s why people like football chat.
 
DanEFC92 said:
Anyone else just flap it in social situations? Had a party thing at the weekend and it was pretty miserable. Barely knew anyone there. Unless I'm hammered I'm useless at it.

Self confidence/esteem is low atm. Have been ruminating about it since.
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i totally understand this, i'm terrible in social situations.

though i am in a position where i don't really like many people. So i guess it doesn't help my standpoint, so the drink allows tolerance of them. It isn't right, and maybe something i need to discuss with someone.

But i have esteem issues and have had all my life. That in itself is a challenge to deal with, i think they go hand in hand with being rubbish in social situations.

Not an answer for you at all, but i can totally understand your position with social situations.

if there are answers, i am all ears!
 
DanEFC92 said:
Anyone else just flap it in social situations? Had a party thing at the weekend and it was pretty miserable. Barely knew anyone there. Unless I'm hammered I'm useless at it.

Self confidence/esteem is low atm. Have been ruminating about it since.
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Thats perfectly fine. When I am in that kind of a situation I usually just cut it short. Theres no point if you feel outsider or you just dont feel like it.
 

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