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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

witchdoc187 said:
Not sure who reads this but I find it helpful to dump my cr4p here. Finally managed to find a job that is based in Spain, full Spanish contract, don't need to be fluent in Spanish and 50k a year. For 4 weeks I've been doing the interview process, managed to get to the final stage, due Wednesday. Prepared a beautiful presentation defo getting the job. Then at midday received an email stating they are no longer recruiting. They haven't filled the role it just no longer exists. Gutted doesn't cover it. The last few years my ex wife has bombarded me with sheet. Just nonsense, stuff that she tries to hurt me with. I finally thought I'd done it, now I'm back to square one. However, my confidence has taken a massive boost. Still broke as hell, still shields up against my ex wife and still daddy No1. Thanks for reading xx
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That's absolutely rubbish for you. Making you do all that work and then decide they are no longer recruiting. The cynical old union rep in me makes me wonder if they are just going to nick your ideas from your presentation and use them - having got them for free. I can understand why your confidence has taken a knock. I would be absolutely bloody furious!! However it is out of your control. You did great in the interview and presentation so don't be down hearted. Their behaviour should not affect what you did - and did extremely well.
 

witchdoc187 said:
Not sure who reads this but I find it helpful to dump my cr4p here. Finally managed to find a job that is based in Spain, full Spanish contract, don't need to be fluent in Spanish and 50k a year. For 4 weeks I've been doing the interview process, managed to get to the final stage, due Wednesday. Prepared a beautiful presentation defo getting the job. Then at midday received an email stating they are no longer recruiting. They haven't filled the role it just no longer exists. Gutted doesn't cover it. The last few years my ex wife has bombarded me with sheet. Just nonsense, stuff that she tries to hurt me with. I finally thought I'd done it, now I'm back to square one. However, my confidence has taken a massive boost. Still broke as hell, still shields up against my ex wife and still daddy No1. Thanks for reading xx
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Nightmare. But I bet when preparing for the interviews and presentation you noted your strengths down and times when you showed certain skills etc. When else would you sit down and do that? Never! Because it would feel weird. Best thing is it’s all true mate.

Hopefully despite the shocking fannying about by the company, it’s made you able to stick your chest out a bit, because you’ve become more familiar and comfortable with what you are capable of. Keep pushing 👍
 
HalfTimeSayers said:
Nightmare. But I bet when preparing for the interviews and presentation you noted your strengths down and times when you showed certain skills etc. When else would you sit down and do that? Never! Because it would feel weird. Best thing is it’s all true mate.

Hopefully despite the shocking fannying about by the company, it’s made you able to stick your chest out a bit, because you’ve become more familiar and comfortable with what you are capable of. Keep pushing 👍
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It had actually mate thanks for reiterating it for me. What's actually helped are the random texts I've got from mates just saying "you got this" etc... Didn't realise how low my confidence has dropped but yes I feel like I'm bouncing back a bit.
 
jackyboy said:
Hi mate, thanks for the lovely response.

Potentially think you could be right mate, I've recently undergone some self guided CBT to identify my thought patterns etc on the recommendation of my GP. However I get some counselling free through work so thought it can't harm to try that simultaneously.

The thing I've found most frustrating is that up until a couple of months ago when I pretty much blacked out on a night out. I'd never really experienced stuff like this before.

Now I feel like I'm actively seeking out historic things to feel lousy about. Despite receiving validation from people initially regarding the blackout where the negativity started.
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If you (or anyone else) want help on interviews or job prep etc give me a message.

I'm not a recruiter but for some reason I seem to have a knack for it. Just recently helped a lady I worked with previously in a similar position to yourself as well as a good friend too.

Don't have to disclose much but get in touch if you like.
 
jackyboy said:
Had two sessions so far with my counsellor, it's not been easy but it feels like I'm moving in the right direction. Don't think it's going to be overnight but happy I've reached out.
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Well done mate. I’ve been in therapy since January. Has made a huge difference for me. Still a lot to work on for myself but have made big strides since where I was, which was a pretty dark place. You’ll get there!
 

jamieni said:
Well done mate. I’ve been in therapy since January. Has made a huge difference for me. Still a lot to work on for myself but have made big strides since where I was, which was a pretty dark place. You’ll get there!
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Thanks bud. Yeah it's incredibly early days but I'm glad to have reached out. Can't moan I'm not feeling well and not try to do something about it.

Hope things continue to improve for you as well
 

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