Brendan Janus
Player Valuation: £40m
Mate, I understand exactly how you feel, & I am 61 !!!
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First counselling session booked in for 18:00, here goes nothing.
Rita_Poon
Player Valuation: £90m
Take your time, chances are if it's a first shot at this it'll be a chat about expectation and realistic outcomes.
I don't like the following but it's the honest way to say it, I've been through plenty of courses of counselling and I always treated the first session similar to the first round of a boxing match, its an opportunity to get a feel of the other person there, obviously there's no winner or judge or outcome or world titles on the line. I raise this this way because sometimes you are and sometimes you are not comfortable with the counsellor you get allocated. I've had good counsellors, less good ones, and brilliant ones. One size doesn't fit all. All's you can be is honest with them and importantly yourself.
It took time to get to this point, it took time to look for help and improvement, it'll take time to unburden yourself of what ever it is that's weighing you down. Nice and relaxed and calm and clear. You'll be fine.
As others have said, don't give up. You're getting the interviews so that is positive. There's an awful lot of jobs out there where the recruitment is a sham. They already have earmarked somebody they want but have to go through the process so their recruitment is seen to be 'open and transparent' when it is anything of the sort. I would always ask for feedback after an interview. Ask them what made the other person a better fit. Other than that - good luck, hope you find something soon.
After watching the overlap I got back in contact with my mind councillor to restart counselling.
I’m hoping I haven’t [Poor language removed] it by just ignoring them for the past 3 years.
I’m hoping I haven’t [Poor language removed] it by just ignoring them for the past 3 years.
Tipp blue
If I agreed with you, we’d both be wrong.
Past mistakes are your lessons.. use these lessons to avoid making similar mistakes in the future.
That's a really good way of looking at it. Thanks bud
Thanks for such a considered and articulate response, Rita.Take your time, chances are if it's a first shot at this it'll be a chat about expectation and realistic outcomes.
I don't like the following but it's the honest way to say it, I've been through plenty of courses of counselling and I always treated the first session similar to the first round of a boxing match, its an opportunity to get a feel of the other person there, obviously there's no winner or judge or outcome or world titles on the line. I raise this this way because sometimes you are and sometimes you are not comfortable with the counsellor you get allocated. I've had good counsellors, less good ones, and brilliant ones. One size doesn't fit all. All's you can be is honest with them and importantly yourself.
It took time to get to this point, it took time to look for help and improvement, it'll take time to unburden yourself of what ever it is that's weighing you down. Nice and relaxed and calm and clear. You'll be fine.
Yeah it's my first go at anything of the sort, will take all of what you said going into it though. Will expect the worst and hope for the best (as always).
Just really hoping for some clarity on what I can do to help myself going forward and ease off the dwelling on negativity all the time.
Rita_Poon
Player Valuation: £90m
Please go along with an open mind. Nothing from here or anywhere else. You take it as you find it, like in the majority of life. They are the professionals.
Gwladysover
Player Valuation: £35m
I had group counselling sessions. I was very reluctant to go at first and had talked myself out of attending many times before I had even entered the door. I found them really helpful, after a couple of weeks I looked forward to going and was really sorry when they ended. I realise that my experience isn’t yours but as @Rita_Poon says go with an open mind and you may be surprised. You have nothing to lose and maybe everything to gain. All the best.
Gwladysover
Player Valuation: £35m
Don’t give up, you have made it through to the second interview three times, that is a plus. Keep trying, you will win in the end. Best of luck.
witchdoc187
Player Valuation: £60m
Not sure who reads this but I find it helpful to dump my cr4p here. Finally managed to find a job that is based in Spain, full Spanish contract, don't need to be fluent in Spanish and 50k a year. For 4 weeks I've been doing the interview process, managed to get to the final stage, due Wednesday. Prepared a beautiful presentation defo getting the job. Then at midday received an email stating they are no longer recruiting. They haven't filled the role it just no longer exists. Gutted doesn't cover it. The last few years my ex wife has bombarded me with sheet. Just nonsense, stuff that she tries to hurt me with. I finally thought I'd done it, now I'm back to square one. However, my confidence has taken a massive boost. Still broke as hell, still shields up against my ex wife and still daddy No1. Thanks for reading xx
witchdoc187
Player Valuation: £60m
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This is a picture of my boy that you can't see properly. He's my world and today, as is the same every single day I took him out to live his best life. Love to everybody who posts in here and to all those who respond xx
This is a picture of my boy that you can't see properly. He's my world and today, as is the same every single day I took him out to live his best life. Love to everybody who posts in here and to all those who respond xx
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witchdoc187
Player Valuation: £60m
I'm gonna get this boy to goodison and in gonna get him a Pickford shirt if it kills me x