That is a rough hit. No doubt. Try not to spiral with it, the surrounding fog of loss often leaves us directionless, as you have your parents they'll be the influence that get's you back level.
Ya mate. Very important to keep busy and the mind off things a bit too
How terrible for you. You have the loving support of your parents which is absolutely the best thing as you come to terms with your new situation. My best wishes to you.
Bebo I'm interested in the " came out of nowhere ..." part of your comment. Might I suggest you feeling low, anxious and down - is a period of time where you have somehow, managed to cope or subdue. " Came out of nowhere ..." is the sudden feeling where you are struggling to think of anything other than your depression. That vile, grotesque period of constance, where you can't think of nothing but how bad you feel and you can't shake it off.
Bebo I'm interested in the " came out of nowhere ..." part of your comment. Might I suggest you feeling low, anxious and down - is a period of time where you have somehow, managed to cope or subdue. " Came out of nowhere ..." is the sudden feeling where you are struggling to think of anything other than your depression. That vile, grotesque period of constance, where you can't think of nothing but how bad you feel and you can't shake it off.
Exactly this. You work it all out.
I'm so sorry about this. It must be awful for you. Mums and Dads are very important. We've had a rough time over the last few months and I have many times wished my Dad was still with us so I could get his advice and support.
Apologies for the late reply @Preki the above is really sound advice. Suspension is a neutral act while they investigate the situation - it should have no impact on any settlement and @Lobworm is also right in that grievances can take ages - in my experiences they rarely come in within the time scales. If you do get signed off, make sure your fit note says workplace stress/anxiety whatever but ensure that the cause of your poor mental health is recoded as being entirely work based and that it is recorded in the accident book like any other workplace injuryI don't know the whole story mate, obviously. But I think jumping ship now would be premature, professionally and financially. Take as long as possible with a phased return, you dictate the timescale. Obviously if the mental health issue gets too much, go with your gut.
Take your time with the grievances, make sure you log every single event, lay it out precisely and professionally, mention witnesses etc. Timing is everything. Once done, then you can let the grievances run their course (making further grievances if anything new comes to light, especially if they don't follow policy*).
IMO the financial value is in the sick leave. I respectfully disagree with the union saying wtte "as I've been paid during my suspension it's unlikely I'll get much of a payout" I was told the exact opposite, though in all fairness it was a long time ago. When they gets a series of grievances in their inbox, then you get signed off, I will be very surprised if they don't offer you at least 3 months for everything to go away.
WRT your union rep, get a second opinion. One union rep who I used, high flyer for NASUWT, later became CEO or thereabouts at a local borough council. Some of them know which side their bread is buttered.
* make sure you familiarise yourself with every single policy and be a totalend. If they stray from any policy, even slightly, file another grievance.
Thanks. Negotiations are taking place.
Glad you're back, there's nothing to be embarrassed about. And as a conscript to the sarcastic knobhead crew, I for one welcome one of our leading officers back into the fold. Hoorah!
Nice hear from you. Sarcastic knobheads are the fabric of society!
Absolutely this.
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