Rita_Poon
Player Valuation: £90m
It is the circle of people you choose to put yourself around. They all act like they're johnny-big-balls, but really, they're all as miserable and pissed off as you.
Bin em.
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DanEFC92
Player Valuation: £90m
Tried to explain how I felt and made it worse haha. A classic.
Jimmy Grimble
Player Valuation: £20m
I could probably have done with my Dad around during my divorce but on the flip side, I'm glad he wasn't there to se it
Jimmy Grimble
Player Valuation: £20m
It's a horrible experience. Glad you've got good support- it will get you through. It's like a death, but the person you're mourning is still alive. The process is like grief- you go through stages but the old adage is true: time heals. You're at an age where you can rebuild your life when you are ready. Good times are on the horizon and you will come through it stronger and wiser. Lean on your friends and family and then when they go through similar you will be well placed to support them. Exercise is good. Try to steer clear of booze.
A lad I drink with nearly lost his home and business to it mate. Plus it was probably on it`s way to killing him, as at the weekend he`d be on it for anywhere up to 48hrs solid and then be so destroyed, he`d sleep for 24hrs, missing work appointments, which ended up with his work drying up, as he let that many people down.
He isolated himself from all of the lads he knocked round with, who weren`t really his mates, just fellow coke heads, who all enabled each other.
Once he was clean, he kept away from them and deleted all their details from his phone and blocked all their numbers.
He`s been clean now for a good for years and is really happy and doing well.
From one sarcastic knobhead to another there's absolutely nothing for you to be embarrassed about mate.
It'll be a little weird and different for a while but you'll settle down to some kind of norm at some point.
You keep fighting mate, because your worth it.
Hellerad
j'accuse!
Life is relentless. I watched my dad die when I was 15. I took care of my mom while she died from breast cancer when I was 16. I had my own fight with cancer at 30. I got divorced last year after a 23 year relationship. Co-parenting 2 kids with their mom has been difficult. I don’t have any family to help. Juggling that with running a business is exhausting.
As somebody who has lived with loss, anxiety, OCD, and depression, I can speak from experience: It always gets better. People want to help. But you have to be honest with the people you have.
I heard a lyric to a random song the other day - “We’re all on your team, but we can’t read your mind.” It has been stuck in my head and made me want to post here.
I’ve refused to eat because I’m not worth it. I’ve sat in dark rooms because I don’t deserve my hobbies. I’ve slept because it feels better than being awake. I’ve given up a few times.
But it’s always gotten better. Every time. And it’s always been the friends around me who pulled me out of my own head when my head was the worst place I could be.
It’s okay to ask for help. For me, it’s been the best way to live.
As somebody who has lived with loss, anxiety, OCD, and depression, I can speak from experience: It always gets better. People want to help. But you have to be honest with the people you have.
I heard a lyric to a random song the other day - “We’re all on your team, but we can’t read your mind.” It has been stuck in my head and made me want to post here.
I’ve refused to eat because I’m not worth it. I’ve sat in dark rooms because I don’t deserve my hobbies. I’ve slept because it feels better than being awake. I’ve given up a few times.
But it’s always gotten better. Every time. And it’s always been the friends around me who pulled me out of my own head when my head was the worst place I could be.
It’s okay to ask for help. For me, it’s been the best way to live.
Tim's tourettes
Player Valuation: £10m
That was powerful mate. Thank u for posting it
Vintage
Player Valuation: £60m
Thanks for the advice mate appreciate it
Your post is simple succinct and says everything I would want to hear / read should I be looking for support. I loved it, thanks for posting it and well done
PKwalnuts
Player Valuation: £15m
Wow thanks mate resonates that
the golden visionary
Player Valuation: £35m
I've done this, I was lonely at first, but that was due to the fact I never knew how great alone time is.
Now they're gone completely and the people I choose to be around now are great
Raino85
Player Valuation: £35m
Change your social group, take yourself out of those sort of scenarios, and try and do things that occupy your mind!
Boredom is the biggest stumbling block!
I don't know from personal experience but from seeing friends turn themselves around, there isn't an easy solution. Stay away from negative energy, and if you have something in your day that makes you feel down, don't self medicate!
SchwartzEFC
Player Valuation: £25k
Going through it at the moment.
Bear with me and sorry if this story sounds ridiculous.
My long term partner and I were told we'd find it difficult to have kids.
We were both pretty down about it. Decided we'd take less precaution down the line with trying to stop pregnancy but never really had a plan.
4 days ago we've found out she's pregnant. Now I know this should sound like amazing news but it's like a bus has hit us. I've suffered from OCD, anxiety and depression in the past and it has all flared up at once with this news.
There's a feeling we should be thankful but we both feel absolutely terrified and unsure how to proceed. We can't even confide in close family and friends in case we decide to not go through with it.
I've been crying for 4 days straight with worry and catastrophising going through with it, and not going through with it. My appetite is also completely gone and I can't stop sleeping to find reprieve from my thoughts.
I just needed to get that out somewhere so decided to post on GOT.
Bear with me and sorry if this story sounds ridiculous.
My long term partner and I were told we'd find it difficult to have kids.
We were both pretty down about it. Decided we'd take less precaution down the line with trying to stop pregnancy but never really had a plan.
4 days ago we've found out she's pregnant. Now I know this should sound like amazing news but it's like a bus has hit us. I've suffered from OCD, anxiety and depression in the past and it has all flared up at once with this news.
There's a feeling we should be thankful but we both feel absolutely terrified and unsure how to proceed. We can't even confide in close family and friends in case we decide to not go through with it.
I've been crying for 4 days straight with worry and catastrophising going through with it, and not going through with it. My appetite is also completely gone and I can't stop sleeping to find reprieve from my thoughts.
I just needed to get that out somewhere so decided to post on GOT.