Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[Deleted member 28206]

I don't want to start a thread to draw further attention to the scummy rag, so I'll just post in here.

The exposing of Gazza, a man with clear mental health issues, by The S*n today is an absolute disgrace - if I could swear to emphasise it, I would.

"Britain's most popular paper"... says it all about this country. Disgusting.

It's their bread and butter sadly, using the misfortune of others to sell papers.

 

[anjelikaferrett]

I can afford it, but it isn't ideal.

I've been trying to save up to buy my own place for the past year, and some of these counsellors charge £40 p/h.

The money isn't the important thing, though. I felt comfortable in the environment I was in.

It is me phoning them up asking if she is back. They phoned me once to tell me she wouldn't be in. The week before last I turned up expecting her to be back because I heard nothing, only to be told she weren't there.

Once somebody is signed up under their care, they can't be leaving that person hanging around for weeks without any help at all. I've really needed her this past month.

I agree, it does seem unprofessional that there is nobody else available. Dumb question, and probably stating the bleedin' obvious, but have you asked about a replacement person. Are you getting counselling via your GP? Have you contacted MIND? I'm fairly sure they offer some kind of free counselling via telephone as do an organisation called MHM- Mental Health Matters.

 

[Groucho]

I don't want to start a thread to draw further attention to the scummy rag, so I'll just post in here.

The exposing of Gazza, a man with clear mental health issues, by The S*n today is an absolute disgrace - if I could swear to emphasise it, I would.

"Britain's most popular paper"... says it all about this country. Disgusting.

Says it all about that joke of a 'publication'.

 

[Groucho]

 

[GwladysBlue]

This may sound a bit leftfield, but how about going to the gym / run / swim etc on the days that you normally see her, whilst she's off sick ?.

It would give you a bit of purpose rather than doing nothing and feeling crap ?.

I go the gym every night as it is. I'm quite an active person, tbh.

I just get into down/anxiety phases and nothing shifts them.

 

[GwladysBlue]

Can't help but agree with you there. The service they provide cannot be simply put on hold. You'd think they'd have some form of back up plan in these instances.

Anyway, if you feel you do need to get some help, I'd be getting them to recommend someone & line it up for you. Let the Receptionist know how much you've come to rely on them & will continue to do so but right now, you need to talk!

I'm just really disappointed in them more than anything.

I know that somebody being off work can't be avoided sometimes, but to leave me a month is just far too much to not have any sort of contingency plan in place. After all, they are dealing with vulnerable people.

 

[GwladysBlue]

I agree, it does seem unprofessional that there is nobody else available. Dumb question, and probably stating the bleedin' obvious, but have you asked about a replacement person. Are you getting counselling via your GP? Have you contacted MIND? I'm fairly sure they offer some kind of free counselling via telephone as do an organisation called MHM- Mental Health Matters.

I haven't asked about a replacement. I'd been waiting since October just to get this counsellor in the first place. They said their resources are really stretched with cuts to their budget, etc.

I went to the same counselling building years ago when it was called Inclusion Matters, opposite the Strand in Bootle. It used to be a lot bigger. It's called Access Sefton now, down to just the one office room.

I'd just like some clarity on what sort of timescale I'm expected to go without. Leaving an ambiguous 'we don't really know when she'll be back' just isn't good enough, imo.

It takes a lot just to go to counselling in the first place.

 

[wbn61]

You have inadvertently taught us so much about ourselves despite not intending to. I read your posts and, at the very least, it emphasises perspective but more importantly, it makes me evaluate where I am now, & where I am going. I don't mean to load you up with any more 'issues' at the moment but you really have helped others just by sharing.

Years ago, I had my palm read in Singapore. It was uncannily accurate in a number of areas that I won't bore you with but I will let you know two of her predictions. One was that I'd never be wealthy...(#@$%!!!!)...and the other was that I'd live to 91. Now, apart from taking out Life Insurance when I'm 90, that number has made me feel somewhat bullet proof. Sure, it's a bit silly to accept the word of an elderly Chinese Lady who didn't speak English but I realised that I hadn't been concerned with my own mortality because of it. Hell, that's 40 years away! What it didn't predict was the quality of those 91 years.

Now, how does that relate to your posts? Well, perspective and context. If what she said in Singapore is all true, then there's a fair chance that the way I have treated myself these past few years could lead to the worst case scenario, low quality of life. You see, I had assumed the number was correct, but not the condition I would arrive at that number.

Some will recall my own workplace issues and the fact that although out of the toxic environment, I'm still affected by it somewhat. I don't think I'm in a spiral down, but I feel I've 'bottomed out' but haven't done anything that would help me climb back into the sunlight. Please forgive my indulgence but I have read many of your posts & I can see how they have slowly changed. It is hard to read despite not knowing you personally & not being able to simply pop over for a chat to do something...anything.

What you have reminded me of is that fact that if I do go on to 91, then I can't simply coast in from here. I have time to correct my course & use those 'alleged' years ahead.

Again, please forgive me if this is too close to the bone or harsh, but I'm speaking from the heart & avoiding any edits.

I just wanted you to know...

thank you. I am glad I have been of help and reading this post has made me realise I should still be trying to improve whats left of my life. see we help each other and that's the best thing about this thread.

 

[wbn61]

He's an inspiration to all on here mate and I honestly don't know if I'd be as brave under the circumstances.

I'm with you, I really wish I there was something more I could do.

I really don't get this inspiration thing. I just moan and vent about my problems like everyone else on here.

 

[blueloon]

I really don't get this inspiration thing. I just moan and vent about my problems like everyone else on here.

Don't be so harsh on yourself mate, your " moaning and venting" is Champions League quality, the rest pfft, they're just National League Vanarama Conference standard

 

[blueloon]

The Samaratans are advertising their latest "Talk to us" campaign which amongst other things is about getting people to understand how they can listen to people better, particularly those with mental health issues. My Mrs volunteers with Samarartans and the other day she was talking with the local mental health help group helping them understand what they do. It is an organisation which is accessible face to face, via the phone or by txt and email and may be a useful contact for some who need to make the first step or don't want to try other routes.

 

[DualityNSNO]

I really don't get this inspiration thing. I just moan and vent about my problems like everyone else on here.

Are you kidding me?! I wish I had your will and strength mate. When I read your posts I realise that, in a way, we've all gotten/are getting screwed by life, one way or another, but we must keep fighting, otherwise what's the point? In a way what I'm trying to say is, you might be 'accidentally' helping others by sharing your hardships with us, if that makes sense?

Also venting and moaning is fine mate, a problem shared is a problem halved after all!

 

[wbn61]

awake again



going to see my cancer nurse today, need to get out. I'm trying, or very trying as my wife says.

 

[Degs62]

If you think you're slipping again mate, I'd advise going to see your GP and possibly going back on the meds, even if it's for a short period of time, just to tide you over this difficult period.

I know it's something that you probably don't want to do, but as you mention, it's the first time you've felt this since stopping your meds 12 mths ago ?

Thanks for the reply, we had a good family talk last night and I've moved way back from the abyss.

Meds is the last place I need to go again.

 

[wbn61]

Thanks for the reply, we had a good family talk last night and I've moved way back from the abyss.

Meds is the last place I need to go again.

that's my problem the meds, I am averse to using meds