Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[Titus Bramble]

Reality of moving from the school I've been at for 6 years has finally set in. Got a promotion, and excited about the challenge, but I'm leaving some amazing friends behind and I won't be able to make the same attachments to people there if I'm a senior leader.

I'll even miss the kids. When you go from knowing 350 people's names, to knowing about 5 people, it's a culture shock that you don't always prepare for.

Now nobody knows my narrative; I have nothing of the reputation I'd built up, I don't know who I can and can't trust.

Sorry to be such a whining git! It's obviously a great opportunity, but I can't help feeling I've jumped out of my comfort zone at a time when I was just establishing some continuity for myself.

My girlfriend was on the phone to me in tears a couple of weeks ago. She's in a small village in Liberia working with the Peace Corps, learning how to teach maths to all ages (she's never taught before), surrounded by locals who speak another language, she has to wash in a bucket, use an outhouse full of bugs, share a bedroom with a family of mice, live on a diet of rice and bread and wash her clothes with a washboard. She's happy as Larry 2 weeks later.

Throw yourself into it lad, it'll be difficult to begin with but you'll be up and running in no time

 

[sheedys big toe]

Thank you for all the likes and messages. And a big thank you to all the fellow members of got whom we both met in Lille. That was our 1st trip together after I noticed the self harming. Good luck to the people on here who are having their own problems with, keep up the good work GOT. And hope we all have a good year, and good season. Coyb

 

[sheedys big toe]

Christ! That's tough to hear. Especially as my 2 girls are around that age. Thank God, or whoever saved her that she's pulled through. (Assumption on my part)

Have a great trip & cherish the moment.

Luckily a dog walker saw her do it and saved her.. Hope your girls are good.

 

[hallamblue]

Reality of moving from the school I've been at for 6 years has finally set in. Got a promotion, and excited about the challenge, but I'm leaving some amazing friends behind and I won't be able to make the same attachments to people there if I'm a senior leader.

I'll even miss the kids. When you go from knowing 350 people's names, to knowing about 5 people, it's a culture shock that you don't always prepare for.

Now nobody knows my narrative; I have nothing of the reputation I'd built up, I don't know who I can and can't trust.

Sorry to be such a whining git! It's obviously a great opportunity, but I can't help feeling I've jumped out of my comfort zone at a time when I was just establishing some continuity for myself.

Remind yourself of the reasons why you've done it. It takes courage to pursue ambition, so you obviously have it. Take each day at a time and you will make friends, learn who you can trust and best of all get to know some amazing kids at your new school who will inspire and motivate you.

 

[wbn61]

awake again. lets see what today brings. lost a friend on Tuesday our local councillor and ex mayor. he had done so much for us over the years and will be sorely missed.

 

[BiggyRat]

awake again. lets see what today brings.

If you're up to it, I reckon you should Get out of the House!!!

 

[DualityNSNO]

awake again. lets see what today brings. lost a friend on Tuesday our local councillor and ex mayor. he had done so much for us over the years and will be sorely missed.

Sorry to hear that mate, he sounds like a good man.

 

[wbn61]

If you're up to it, I reckon you should Get out of the House!!!

maybe tomorrow I hope. today I have to sit in waiting for the macmillan nurse.

 

[COYBL25]

maybe tomorrow I hope. today I have to sit in waiting for the macmillan nurse.

Maybe after she's been, it's a nice day ?

 

[hallamblue]

awake again. lets see what today brings. lost a friend on Tuesday our local councillor and ex mayor. he had done so much for us over the years and will be sorely missed.

maybe tomorrow I hope. today I have to sit in waiting for the macmillan nurse.

 

[wbn61]

lol that was one I was keeping to use.

 

[wbn61]

Maybe after she's been, it's a nice day ?

she has just left, now I need a bath lol been a few days and I need a good soak and shave etc. so tomorrow it is.

 

[hallamblue]

lol that was one I was keeping to use.

Possibly the most relaxing tune of all time, especially with the whistling at the end.

 

[wbn61]

seen the macmillan nurse and had a good chat. she specialises in palliative care and made a few suggestions. I have decided to try anti depressant and a bit of physio. I know I said I was against more pills but I have also said to others why not try something before you dismiss it.
only thing left to wait for is blood tests.

 

[anjelikaferrett]

Reality of moving from the school I've been at for 6 years has finally set in. Got a promotion, and excited about the challenge, but I'm leaving some amazing friends behind and I won't be able to make the same attachments to people there if I'm a senior leader.

I'll even miss the kids. When you go from knowing 350 people's names, to knowing about 5 people, it's a culture shock that you don't always prepare for.

Now nobody knows my narrative; I have nothing of the reputation I'd built up, I don't know who I can and can't trust.

Sorry to be such a whining git! It's obviously a great opportunity, but I can't help feeling I've jumped out of my comfort zone at a time when I was just establishing some continuity for myself.

You'll cope with it. Just don't expect it all to happen at once. I got a new job in April, a promotion, different department, stopped working in Durham, now work in Darlington. I had spent 26 years in my previous job, knew everybody, also knew people in our other offices around the country. It was a huge change. My new colleagues are lovely, I've already made new genuine friends. You will stay in touch with the people you really want to from your old job. Good luck. You'll be great x