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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

Bryan said:
Can you do this anonymously? I mean without appearing on film?
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Yeah, it's possible.

If you were interested I would like to meet up for a coffee, or something, first - just so you have an understanding of the project. And, you can get to know me a little more.

Feel free to drop me an email and we can discuss meeting up and take it from there.

Danny
 
COYBL25 said:
I used to take mine, first thing in the morning, so they kicked by the time I was up an about.

The thing with them is that they can work slightly differently on everyone.

Try them in the evening first and take it from there.

You may have weird dreams though, that can be a side effect !
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@Bryan Good advice from @COYBL25. Citalopram was the first anti-depressant I tried. It did give me some strange nightmares, but then again every anti-depressant has done that for me too. If it's making you drowsy, night time is certainly better- whatever works for you. If you're struggling to wake up in the mornings though, may be best to take them when you wake up.

As far as side effects go, I remember this one having the strangest- it took away my sex drive completely, but it can also have a positive side effect in that department!!

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/12494286
 
wainy said:
Think I need to reconsider going back on my meds, feel horrendous all the time and if it weren't for my kids I don't know what I would do
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Sorry to hear you're feeling so bad mate.
It sounds like you know the meds will help, so just go get them. If not the whole answer in themselves, at least they'll give you a break from the worst of the feelings.
Good luck and let us know how you go.
 

I have lost all motivation for anything. I physically find it near impossible to get out of bed in the morning - I just can't be arsed. I drive to work pissed off, put a front on all day which is absolutely knackering, and then drive home pissed off. I am unhappy and people are noticing it.

I workout every day, can seriously say the only time I get away from the feeling of doom and gloom is gym. Imagine if I didn't have that to keep me going and get me through each day?

Start of the season last week and I wasn't AS arsed as I should be/normally am. I [Poor language removed] hate this.
 
RyanGordon said:
I have lost all motivation for anything. I physically find it near impossible to get out of bed in the morning - I just can't be arsed. I drive to work pissed off, put a front on all day which is absolutely knackering, and then drive home pissed off. I am unhappy and people are noticing it.

I workout every day, can seriously say the only time I get away from the feeling of doom and gloom is gym. Imagine if I didn't have that to keep me going and get me through each day?

Start of the season last week and I wasn't AS arsed as I should be/normally am. I [Poor language removed] hate this.
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Take it easy mate, go and talk to someone, like your doctor, I'm no expert but not wanting to get out of bed is a sign of depression I think.
I bet you'll feel better even after just talking to the doc, it's just an illness like having the Flu or any other illness, nothing to be ashamed of, take care.
 
I trust I don't cause any offence with this intrusion, and should that be the case, please ask the mods. to delete this post.
I am fairly new to GOT and only began posting early July. One of my first posts was 'Blues- In Memoriam', which I refresh myself by reading on a daily basis as I find it most humbling in it's sincerity.
The reason for my post today is the fact that, whilst reading that particular thread, very recently seemingly happy and healthy Blues have suffered greatly because they had not let their true feelings towards life be known to others. Their reasons are unique to themselves.
Whilst i do not wish to intrude on the feeling of the marvellous posters who have written tributes, their messages are deep and true and meaningful. They also come with a message for all.
The reason I find this particular thread relating to depression so worthwhile, is the fact people can express their misgivings with complete anonymity and privacy in the knowledge they will receive succour from empathetic comrades.
I myself suffered depression and anxiety for many years, despite my outward appearance of being a person to be envied. I would not boast to anybody, but I was privileged with many wide and varying talents and teachings.
But, like most others suffering from a depressive tendency, I could not confide in anyone. Whether I saw it as a weakness, or whether I would be perceived as a moaner, or perhaps a feeling I was inadequate, or a combination of all, I do not know. Nor would I ask.
Then I confided in my GP. Talking was easy. Not because I was talking, as it were to a veritable stranger, but also to professional. One who could help. Why I was unable to do this to those about me who cared I can only presume was perhaps out of embarrassment.
The outcome was, after admitting to myself I had a problem, was in medication. This was the second step, and it was essential at the time as psychologically I BELIEVED it would benefit me. I ceased taking them some while later, but that can only be when the individual feels it is the right time to do so.
Admission. Talking. Medication. Companionship. Whether it be empathetic or sympathetic depends on the individual.
I will NEVER use the expression along the lines of, 'If I can do it, then anybody can', as that is the most arrogant and selfish thing anybody can say to someone with deep psychological problems. The people who would use these lines, though they may be genuine and feel it helpful, do NOT have your problems. The reverse effect can sometimes be the case, as it can come across as being patronising and superior.
So returning to the point of this screed, I find this whole thread regarding BLUES with depression, and the help and advice from fellow members of GOT, to be totally worthwhile. What you are doing is providing an absolutely first rate service for all fellow BLUES who are in a momentary period of need.
Thank you GOT, and your subscribers.
For those who need advice, seek it, as there are well wishers everywhere, especially on this site.
 
RyanGordon said:
I have lost all motivation for anything. I physically find it near impossible to get out of bed in the morning - I just can't be arsed. I drive to work pissed off, put a front on all day which is absolutely knackering, and then drive home pissed off. I am unhappy and people are noticing it.

I workout every day, can seriously say the only time I get away from the feeling of doom and gloom is gym. Imagine if I didn't have that to keep me going and get me through each day?

Start of the season last week and I wasn't AS arsed as I should be/normally am. I [Poor language removed] hate this.
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It sounds like your depressed mate everyday the same and a circle kind of thing? If your gp is any good ( they should listen anyway ) go have a chat and maybe consider trying something to help your mood. Always here to talk mate just ask away ;)
 

RyanGordon said:
I have lost all motivation for anything. I physically find it near impossible to get out of bed in the morning - I just can't be arsed. I drive to work pissed off, put a front on all day which is absolutely knackering, and then drive home pissed off. I am unhappy and people are noticing it.

I workout every day, can seriously say the only time I get away from the feeling of doom and gloom is gym. Imagine if I didn't have that to keep me going and get me through each day?

Start of the season last week and I wasn't AS arsed as I should be/normally am. I [Poor language removed] hate this.
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As others have said mate, sounds like almost txt book despression.

Have a look at the symptoms online and see what you think ?.

* the lack of motivation, tiredness and putting on a front are all signs.
 
matty1878 said:
It sounds like your depressed mate everyday the same and a circle kind of thing? If your gp is any good ( they should listen anyway ) go have a chat and maybe consider trying something to help your mood. Always here to talk mate just ask away ;)
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This really is sound advice.
I was in a similar state of anxiety some while ago, that when I woke up in the morning, I actually wished i hadn't.
Then I confided in my GP. While results aren't immediate, they are noticeable, and honestly, the confiding itself and the guidance received made me feel psychologically better. After that, it is one step forward at a time.
 
bring back the catt said:
This really is sound advice.
I was in a similar state of anxiety some while ago, that when I woke up in the morning, I actually wished i hadn't.
Then I confided in my GP. While results aren't immediate, they are noticeable, and honestly, the confiding itself and the guidance received made me feel psychologically better. After that, it is one step forward at a time.
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I have that problem myself, not wanting to wake up in the morning and when I do I just want to turn over and go back to sleep, it takes all my effort just to get out of bed. Had an appointment at the hospital today so made it easier getting up as there was a reason for it.
Had an xray and a meeting with my oncologist. Everything seems to be fine with my chest, well no worse than it should be. The oncologist is happy nothing has deteriorated (so much for 2 months lol). It's just the lethargy that gets to me I just feel like going to bed now but I fight it and try to do something but I struggle like hell.
moaning over.
 
RyanGordon said:
I have lost all motivation for anything. I physically find it near impossible to get out of bed in the morning - I just can't be arsed. I drive to work pissed off, put a front on all day which is absolutely knackering, and then drive home pissed off. I am unhappy and people are noticing it.

I workout every day, can seriously say the only time I get away from the feeling of doom and gloom is gym. Imagine if I didn't have that to keep me going and get me through each day?

Start of the season last week and I wasn't AS arsed as I should be/normally am. I [Poor language removed] hate this.
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You are suffering from depression I feel much the same and support Man City so what have I got to moan about, talk to someone, this board is the best thing to come from Everton since erm.....John Stones.
 
wbn61 said:
I have that problem myself, not wanting to wake up in the morning and when I do I just want to turn over and go back to sleep, it takes all my effort just to get out of bed. Had an appointment at the hospital today so made it easier getting up as there was a reason for it.
Had an xray and a meeting with my oncologist. Everything seems to be fine with my chest, well no worse than it should be. The oncologist is happy nothing has deteriorated (so much for 2 months lol). It's just the lethargy that gets to me I just feel like going to bed now but I fight it and try to do something but I struggle like hell.
moaning over.
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Hello wbn61. Sorry, I had to bail out yesterday and so have only just read your post.
From your post I deduce your major problems are fatigue and lack of motivation.
The knock on effects include lack of concentration, loss of appetite, lack of energy, inability to accept change, little desire to look after oneself, general disinterest and apathy in most things, an alarming lack of consistency and constancy and continuity, and to always feel knackered due to a poor and un-refreshing sleep pattern. All disturbing and debilitating.
However, and I am no doctor, but it sounds like you have all the classic symptoms associated with a condition known as Fibromyalgia.
This condition has all the classic symptoms of Glandular Fever, but without the swollen glands, and was first recognised some years ago as ME and was commonly called Yuppie Flu.
However, Fibromyalgia is the big nasty brother of ME as it not been caused by illness. Instesd it has developed due to one being constantly run down and depressed and so can be difficult to diagnose. But once detected, NOT impossible to treat
This condition saps confidence and energy and induces a depressive condition. Plus it also has the extra burden of pains. Constant and spasmodic, and these pains attack joints rather than muscle. These pains can range from spasmodic to constant, and from twinges to severe. Symptoms can also include dizziness and nausea.
But it can be countered by anti-depressants and pain killers and motion sickness tablets. Plus, the omission from your diet, whenever possible, the avoidance of white wine, and foods with MSG (monosodium glutamate), and above all, sugar-free drinks which contain Aspartame.( Please excuse my spelling for a lot of the terms I have used, as I have spelt them the way they are pronounced).
To be honest, the removal from the diet of EVERYBODY of these killer food additives is recommended, but especially those with depressive conditions.
I apologies for the lateness of my reply and also the length of it and trust I have not come across as some know-it-all.
Above all, I hope it helps.
 

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