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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

Not entirely sure if this is the right place to post as it's not depression but I just need to write something somewhere to get it off my chest.

About 3 weeks ago I found out my girlfriend cheated on me and we broke up, we'd been together 9 months and we'd both said multiple times that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. Since then I've been getting really bad anxiety, especially at the times when I have nothing to do.

Today especially, no football to watch, all my friends are busy and I'm just sat here at home.

It's something I've never suffered from before and I'm really struggling with it and just wonders if anyone had any advice on how to keep it in check while I work through it?

Mate, you're not alone in your current situation. I've had it a couple of times during my adult years. I actually found music a help and often played these two songs one after another for what felt like days...but it helped and gave me a kick up the arse and and made me realise I'm not the first this has happened to. The first song is The Walkmen, The Rat. The second is Stone Roses, I Am The Resurrection. Cheesy I know, but they really did help me. Hope you're ok pal anyway.
 
went home for a couple of hours today. it went ok. I managed the physical things alright if I took my time, climbing the stairs getting to the kitchen and garden etc. need a chair in the kitchen as I couldn't stand up too long. the only problem I found was a mental one. being in here for the weekend has been like a mini holiday, different scenery, different people, waited on etc and of course my " discomforts " being greatly eased. being at home again was like back to the monotony just hanging around waiting again, but at least this time I won't have the problems I had before coming here, that's a bonus isn't it and it will free this bed up for someone who really needs it.
take care all.:D

Mate - You are an inspiration. What you say really gels with so many of us and pray I can show the same gritty steel, courage and determination in my life as you are evidently doing. I doff my hat to you, your family (let's not forget them) and others faced with similar trials and tribulations.
 

Been a while since I've posted/contributed in here and for that I apologise. I think about topping myself everyday and I can't escape the feeling of being trapped. My behaviour has become quite self-destructive again and I'm wracking up loads of debt. Horror story of a General Practice this year hasn't helped (didn't transfer my notes over, 3 different doctors, sending me away after reading a transcribed interview from a helpline where I mentioned suicidal thoughts because they didn't read it properly).

But upping roots and moving away soon to live with my brother will help, plus I'm doing everything practical I can to fight & ameliorate depression and sleeplessness. Went to a comedy night centred on mental health issues last night - it might sound really morbid (it was) but hilarious and comforting too.

Reading everyone's problems and people's responses to them is constantly reassuring and motivating. It's bigger than football but it really gives me pride to be in this set of supporters who are renowned for being hospitable and looking out for each other. Nice one lids.
 

Been a while since I've posted/contributed in here and for that I apologise. I think about topping myself everyday and I can't escape the feeling of being trapped. My behaviour has become quite self-destructive again and I'm wracking up loads of debt. Horror story of a General Practice this year hasn't helped (didn't transfer my notes over, 3 different doctors, sending me away after reading a transcribed interview from a helpline where I mentioned suicidal thoughts because they didn't read it properly).

But upping roots and moving away soon to live with my brother will help, plus I'm doing everything practical I can to fight & ameliorate depression and sleeplessness. Went to a comedy night centred on mental health issues last night - it might sound really morbid (it was) but hilarious and comforting too.

Reading everyone's problems and people's responses to them is constantly reassuring and motivating. It's bigger than football but it really gives me pride to be in this set of supporters who are renowned for being hospitable and looking out for each other. Nice one lids.

Sounds like you care mate. That must be a good sign?
Keep the fight ;)
 
hiya hibb, i've had that all my life with the debts thing...not gambling or anything, rather ignoring bills and forgetting due-payments. you end up paying out so much more because of late fees, lawyer involvements and the rest.

dealing with finances is pretty much near the last thing you wanna think about: it requires concentration, discipline and organisation.

in a less money-orientated society we wouldn't be under such constant pressure but alas we are and somehow have to deal with it. i never really got on top of it except to plough on working so enough money comes in to eventually get my head above water...not always easy, i know.

tho' what's really helps recently is a method of keeping track via a spreadsheet: all my balances/ins/outs i've been accurately listing for about a year now and since then i feel more in control, which in turn makes me worry about it less. and if i wanna spend money on a luxury i check the spreadsheet to see if it's doable...it pretty much makes the decision for me so functions well as a 'support' method for controlling finances.

every couple of months there'll be an unexpected bill or carefree splash so i have to right away note it in the sheet then stoically plan the next weeks around it.

stoicism...i don't know how but the finances-spreadsheet helps me be this way...it's like a zen tool, the managing of numbers is quite soothing too.

if only i had similar results with 'to-do' lists!


all the best, mate :)


Been a while since I've posted/contributed in here and for that I apologise. I think about topping myself everyday and I can't escape the feeling of being trapped. My behaviour has become quite self-destructive again and I'm wracking up loads of debt. Horror story of a General Practice this year hasn't helped (didn't transfer my notes over, 3 different doctors, sending me away after reading a transcribed interview from a helpline where I mentioned suicidal thoughts because they didn't read it properly).

But upping roots and moving away soon to live with my brother will help, plus I'm doing everything practical I can to fight & ameliorate depression and sleeplessness. Went to a comedy night centred on mental health issues last night - it might sound really morbid (it was) but hilarious and comforting too.

Reading everyone's problems and people's responses to them is constantly reassuring and motivating. It's bigger than football but it really gives me pride to be in this set of supporters who are renowned for being hospitable and looking out for each other. Nice one lids.
 

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