Billy Dean
Player Valuation: £70m
I think this is good advice. I know when I went to see a councillor she got me to focus on my own happiness. If you can be happy with yourself, and in your own skin, then that makes it easier to a)Be on your own and b)For others to like you.
I can identify a lot with this. Broke up with my long term missus a couple of years ago and found myself having to re-enter the social world which I'd previously neglected a bit. Found it really hard to make new friends and still do. For some reason I don't connect with people like I used to. Initially I thought I'd become socially inept and devoid of confidence so I started doing "comfort zone challenges " (I posted about them a few pages back) to improve it and they helped a lot. But I found that any levels of confidence I built up were destroyed by my job. Which I hate in all honesty. And I hate the town I live in. Then it dawned on me, if I basically hate about 90% of my life then it's probably no wonder I don't come across as a person people want to spend their time with. I thought I was inept, serious and boring but it's all the effects of unhappiness with my life. This year has taught me that when I'm getting so,e kind of satisfaction out of life I'm not that person. I just need to find a way to make some permanent changes in my situation. It's my goal for the next 12 months.