Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[kithnou]

Same here . Very worrying about wbn61

I know we all have our privacy to respect, but does anyone know him outside of this forum, or is it possible for someone to contact him or his family somehow?

 

[l4toffee]

I know we all have our privacy to respect, but does anyone know him outside of this forum, or is it possible for someone to contact him or his family somehow?

No idea mate

 

[kithnou]

@GrandOldTeam @The Esk @Groucho

I know we all have our privacy to respect, but does anyone know him outside of this forum, or is it possible for someone to contact him or his family somehow?

 

[The Esk]

@GrandOldTeam @The Esk @Groucho

We're trying mate, no luck so far. Thoughts and prayers with @wbn61 and family, whatever their current circumstances.

 

[kithnou]

We're trying mate, no luck so far. Thoughts and prayers with @wbn61 and family, whatever their current circumstances.

I thought you would mate. That's all we can do really.

 

[BiggyRat]

We're trying mate, no luck so far. Thoughts and prayers with @wbn61 and family, whatever their current circumstances.

Indeed. I recall other times when a colleague hasn't checked in, the Mods have allayed any fears by stating that they've been active on the site elsewhere.

Keep us in the loop, as best you can Mods...please.

 

[GrandOldTeam]

I'll have an update on @wbn61 soon, just waiting on confirmation.

 

[anjelikaferrett]

Had a few rants in here over my time, nothing much is changing though, and I felt like writing again to get some stuff off my chest and potentially combat how I've been feeling.

Over the past 8 months I have dis-connected with a lot of friends, naturally after finishing Uni many of us were to part different ways etc, some were bad influences or not my kind of people, whilst others I'd do anything just to hang out with again yet I'll probably never see them again.

At the time this is maybe what I wanted, essentially starting fresh albeit my closest of friends... The real problem here though is that I barely believe in myself and I'm finding it particularly difficult to meet new people, or when I do I'm finding it very hard to keep up the relationship I have with them. I also could not have messed up more relations with girls I really liked since I broke up with my ex a couple of years ago, having begun to largely feel as though I might not find what I want/ I don't deserve better anyway. There is always something I manage to do to mess it up.

Much of this is all contributing to me thinking I'm largely ungrateful for many things I have, despite doing my best efforts to show that I do appreciate it all and give something back (be it my family or friends etc..). I can go through short moments, or long days, of telling myself I'll do or say this and that, only to come to it and do something completely different.

I'm currently doing relatively well in a job I didn't actually want to take on, and it has consumed my time immeasurably. I long and long for a day off, or a day to look forward to with something planned like going to the match today, but ultimately come back feeling beat no matter the present situation. I am permanently tired, have been for as long as I can remember (way before work), and I've been feeling as though it is a vicious cycle, especially when I have no energy or enthusiasm whatsoever to do anything worthwhile in the first place, even stepping foot outside of the house feels like an enormous weight on my shoulders at the minute unless I'm escaping to Goodson. Working is essentially just giving me time to be so occupied I can't have too many bad thoughts. Despite absolutely hating being cooked up and doing nothing alone, it's almost what I'm thriving for given any other social situation as I find it all so draining...

Above all else, I can go from (briefly) feeling on top of the world and somewhat invincible/overconfident to the grim opposite within what feels like a matter of seconds, and find it particularly difficult to shake the mood. There isn't really an in-between or a 'normal' mode.

Tl,dr All in all I feel a bit crap. I hope everybody else is doing ok and sorry for the essay.

Have you seen your GP about feeling permanently tired? There could be an underlying, easily treatable, medical condition like anaemia or glandular fever. And without sounding like your Mum- do you eat properly? I'm no expert but from your post you seem to have had a lot going on - you've finished uni, got a job and have left behind the things you felt comfortable with. It's a big deal and sometimes things catch up with you. Are you due for any holidays. I know you say you don't like doing things on your own but could you take some time off and do what you want to do. If it's any consolation you are not alone in telling yourself what you are going to do then ignoring your own advice. I do it all the time "I'm going to do x y and z." I tell myself, then when it comes to the moment I do a,b and c.

Hope you feel better soon

 

[kithnou]

I'll have an update on @wbn61 soon, just waiting on confirmation.

While I fear it won't be pleasant, we thank you mate for making the effort. It's a special family in here.

 

[JelavicBrate2]

 

[JelavicBrate2]

Tough times produce tough people, if our overpaid players could meet some football fans in the Balkans and see what football does to peoples lives maybe they would get their act together. My baba is going to Southampton next week, hopefully our players can actually give our loyal fans something to shout about rather than moan about.

 

[blueloon]

I know we all have our privacy to respect, but does anyone know him outside of this forum, or is it possible for someone to contact him or his family somehow?

I tried a couple of possible mutual sources were I thought I might find something but no. I then stopped as it felt intrusive and maybe not what wbn61 wanted. Hopefully GOT can find something, he's in our thoughts though.

 

[Bruce Wayne]

Saw this today and thought it was quite nicely put.

 

[COYBL25]

I'll have an update on @wbn61 soon, just waiting on confirmation.

Any update yet ?

 

[GrandOldTeam]

I'll have an update on @wbn61 soon, just waiting on confirmation.

Blues,

With regards to @wbn61 we know his name, and DOB. We know his name from his Paypal transaction, and his DOB from his registration on here.

With that, for a few days now I've been trying my best to discover if he is OK. Sadly, I've just this moment had confirmation that someone of the same full name, and crucially DOB - has died and his funeral is Tuesday 22nd November at 15.30 at Pentrebychan Crematorium, Wrexham, LL14 4EP.

Without the crem confirming the DOB for me, I couldn't have posted but I think it's a 99% assumption that @wbn61 has sadly passed away. I can't say 100% because of course, there could be someone with the same full name, and DOB, in the same city but of course, chances are remote.

I'm still waiting on Michael's nephew confirming, but another organisation confirmed "I suspect it probably his him, but i'm not 100%. I note his wife says "Football shirts for those attending his funeral". But no team stated.

Of course, I'll be sending a little something to mark our respects.

[EDIT] A dedicated thread has been created here: https://www.grandoldteam.com/forum/threads/wbn61-update.92881/