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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

GrandOldTeam said:
Blues,

With regards to @wbn61 we know his name, and DOB. We know his name from his Paypal transaction, and his DOB from his registration on here.

With that, for a few days now I've been trying my best to discover if he is OK. Sadly, I've just this moment had confirmation that someone of the same full name, and crucially DOB - has died and his funeral is Tuesday 22nd November at 15.30 at Pentrebychan Crematorium, Wrexham, LL14 4EP.

Without the crem confirming the DOB for me, I couldn't have posted but I think it's a 99% assumption that @wbn61 has sadly passed away. I can't say 100% because of course, there could be someone with the same full name, and DOB, in the same city but of course, chances are remote.

I'm still waiting on Michael's nephew confirming, but another organisation confirmed "I suspect it probably his him, but i'm not 100%. I note his wife says "Football shirts for those attending his funeral". But no team stated.

Of course, I'll be sending a little something to mark our respects.
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Thanks very much mate. I'm gutted and if you want to start a collection on here, I'm sure it'd be very well received.
I never met the fella, but he was an inspiration for many on this thread. Even during his darker days, he still retained a sense of humour. I feel really empty at the moment with this news and I know it's been mentioned before but I know I'm wouldn't alone in suggesting some kind of thread named after him on here, possibly even this thread ?.

The fella was a super star and my heart goes out to his family .
 
Have been through some dark times. The best thing anyone can do is open up to somebody first off. A family friend or member who will give you the encouragement to seek professional help. I had counselling and was told that the brain is a snidey b*****d that will tie you in knots. The help I got taught me to undo those knots and see the signs when they start again. Don't let no macho cack keep you in a dark place.
 
COYBL25 said:
Thanks very much mate. I'm gutted and if you want to start a collection on here, I'm sure it'd be very well received.
I never met the fella, but he was an inspiration for many on this thread. Even during his darker days, he still retained a sense of humour. I feel really empty at the moment with this news and I know it's been mentioned before but I know I'm wouldn't alone in suggesting some kind of thread named after him on here, possibly even this thread ?.

The fella was a super star and my heart goes out to his family .
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We'll cover the cost to mark our respects, I think the community here could do much more than that by leaving comments in his dedicated thread. His family may find some comfort in them;

https://www.grandoldteam.com/forum/threads/wbn61-update.92881/
 
witchdoc187 said:
going to my gp today. Have a complete sense of utter worthlessness due to my work responsibilities being taken away, no career path and nothing to aim for is killing me. Have a 5month old son and can barely look him in the eye due to feeling like a failure. Cant motivate myself to get up in the morning staying up late freaking out. Nasty feeling. Hoping to get signed off for a few weeks to sort my head but have no idea what to say and dreading my gp telling me to man up. Never met her before.
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No GP will tell you to man up bud, it will be a relief to tell her about your problems and get it off your chest. Depression is an epidemic that slowly but surely is becoming more of an issue in the public eye. Nothing to be ashamed of mate.
 

witchdoc187 said:
going to my gp today. Have a complete sense of utter worthlessness due to my work responsibilities being taken away, no career path and nothing to aim for is killing me. Have a 5month old son and can barely look him in the eye due to feeling like a failure. Cant motivate myself to get up in the morning staying up late freaking out. Nasty feeling. Hoping to get signed off for a few weeks to sort my head but have no idea what to say and dreading my gp telling me to man up. Never met her before.
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Mate, please go to your G.P and tell her everything. That is the first step to getting well. You can find another job in good time but your lad needs you to be there whatever your circumstances are. My kids kept me going through the darkest times. Honestly mate, the first step is the hardest but the most worthwhile. P.m me if you need to talk.
 
Brave and inspiring fella was wbn61. By coincidence, I was involved in a conversation with one of my team today. He opened up about his depression and anxiety, and happily, it finally gave me an opportunity to draw on my own experiences to help someone else. That's what wbn61 did right up to the point he no longer could. Like I say, inspiring fella and his presence here will be missed.
 
GrandOldTeam said:
Blues,

With regards to @wbn61 we know his name, and DOB. We know his name from his Paypal transaction, and his DOB from his registration on here.

With that, for a few days now I've been trying my best to discover if he is OK. Sadly, I've just this moment had confirmation that someone of the same full name, and crucially DOB - has died and his funeral is Tuesday 22nd November at 15.30 at Pentrebychan Crematorium, Wrexham, LL14 4EP.

Without the crem confirming the DOB for me, I couldn't have posted but I think it's a 99% assumption that @wbn61 has sadly passed away. I can't say 100% because of course, there could be someone with the same full name, and DOB, in the same city but of course, chances are remote.

I'm still waiting on Michael's nephew confirming, but another organisation confirmed "I suspect it probably his him, but i'm not 100%. I note his wife says "Football shirts for those attending his funeral". But no team stated.

Of course, I'll be sending a little something to mark our respects.

[EDIT] A dedicated thread has been created here: https://www.grandoldteam.com/forum/threads/wbn61-update.92881/
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I was feeling pretty glum about this and started thinking about when I grew up in Wales in the '60s/70s - tough times. Then I remembered this advert - it used to be on the side of pubs everywhere, but this was the only one I could find:

BT-welsh-bitter-never-forget-towel.jpg

As Max Boyce famously said - the signs to Heaven are all in Welsh, Hell signs are painted green ;-)
 

In light of the sad news today, I've been reading through my previous posts in this thread. It is truly amazing the support that has always been offered.

In some of my darkest times, I have posted in here as a way gaining comfort in being in the company, albeit it virtually, of some really brave and brilliant people.

I came out in this thread and got advice on how others they've known have to their families, etc. Now 2 1/2 years on my mum and dad don't care one bit. There was actually words of encouragement from @wbn61 when I did, which shows what a truly great man he was.

The fact that @wbn61 chose to post in here during the final year of his life as a way of finding comfort is testament to this thread and this forum.

I'm very proud to be a regular on this forum.

I hope everyone is keeping well, and if not, take comfort in the help and advice of this thread.
 
RetroCat said:
I was feeling pretty glum about this and started thinking about when I grew up in Wales in the '60s/70s - tough times. Then I remembered this advert - it used to be on the side of pubs everywhere, but this was the only one I could find:

BT-welsh-bitter-never-forget-towel.jpg

As Max Boyce famously said - the signs to Heaven are all in Welsh, Hell signs are painted green ;-)
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I know from talking to him that there were times when he was down about his illness that he came on here and talking to folk helped him through some tough times.

He'll be hugely missed, but he's left a real legacy here and has touched a lot of lives. In the end, I think it's fair to say he knew it was time for him to leave his family and friends behind and he accepted that, but he never gave in to the depression which went hand in hand with his illness, which he could easily have done.

Although a lot's been said about the positive things that @wbn61 did here, all the folk on this thread who took the time to chat to him should be proud of what GOT has done here. Without this thread, Mike would probably have found life a little less bearable.
 
I awake down here to read the news late. The news I was unfortunately expecting for a few days now.
You have all written beautiful messages. I don't know if I can contrive much more.

@wbn61, Michael, you were an absolute gem that has been taken from us all far too early.

You fought the battle with honour and respect. Suffered in levels most will never appreciate or understand. Yet you were always there for everyone that needed you.

I lost my cousin to cancer around 18 months ago, and the pain was there just as @wbn61 informed us all his cancer had returned. There are some great people in the Depression Related Issues Thread. While I have been fortunate in life to not have endured this issue, I decided a couple of years back to take a look at that thread on top of the Everton Forum page and see what it was all about. In there I have witnessed levels of generosity and humanity I may well not see " in the real world". After losing my cousin, I must confess to taking a soft spot to Michael as his news surfaced soon after.

Michael, you are pain free mate. You have left behind a family in your "real world", and an even bigger family in here who will never forget you and what you have done for many others.

I'm sure @GrandOldTeam and the moderators will find the appropriate way to permanently remember him in here, but for now may I pass on my condolences to Michael's family and friends.

RIP mate. Yet another good one taken far too soon...
xxx
 
Raining here today and I'm as flat as a pancake from this news. Amazing how one reacts to sad news about a person you've never met.

But, we keep moving forward and our thread is still here helping those that need it. We've lost our mate but we all know how much he'd want us to carry on.

If you're new to the thread, welcome & feel free to use it as you need. There are no real rules aside from respect.

;)
 

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