Yep true, do you drink booze at all now ? I haven't had a drop for about 5 months now and haven't missed it, going to the races in a few weeks with some mates and undecided if I'll drink there but never had a day at the races sober lol
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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues
- Thread starter Groucho
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I drink in moderation, usually three / four pints max, as I find that hangovers almost turbo charge the anxiety the following day - " the fear " as the Irish call it.
I had a bender for the first time in years at a wedding reception in a pub a few weeks ago - 3.30am finish and I wasn't right for days afterwards. From what I've read, the hangover excerbates the chemical imbalance in your brain, hence the feelings of extreme anxiety following a big drink.
Cheers mate.
l4toffee
Player Valuation: £40m
How are you mate ?
Those with anxiety issues. Dont suppose you smoked weed when you were younger? Genuine question. A friend of mine suffers with anxiety, has panick attacks too.. He thinks its down to smoking a lot of weed when he was younger..
I know where you're going with this - two of my old mates suffered serious mental health problems which were deffo weed related. Tough one to prove for though, as what's to say they wouldn't have gone on to have problems anyway ?.
There's a lad by me who suffers massive anxiety problems and he swears weed helps him stay on top of it.
Ying and Yang !
l4toffee
Player Valuation: £40m
not me no . Plenty of beak in the past and ale though
I'm sinking into surrealism and depression mate but it's probably guna take me time. You ok anyway?
Abraders
Player Valuation: £60m
Had a few rants in here over my time, nothing much is changing though, and I felt like writing again to get some stuff off my chest and potentially combat how I've been feeling.
Over the past 8 months I have dis-connected with a lot of friends, naturally after finishing Uni many of us were to part different ways etc, some were bad influences or not my kind of people, whilst others I'd do anything just to hang out with again yet I'll probably never see them again.
At the time this is maybe what I wanted, essentially starting fresh albeit my closest of friends... The real problem here though is that I barely believe in myself and I'm finding it particularly difficult to meet new people, or when I do I'm finding it very hard to keep up the relationship I have with them. I also could not have messed up more relations with girls I really liked since I broke up with my ex a couple of years ago, having begun to largely feel as though I might not find what I want/ I don't deserve better anyway. There is always something I manage to do to mess it up.
Much of this is all contributing to me thinking I'm largely ungrateful for many things I have, despite doing my best efforts to show that I do appreciate it all and give something back (be it my family or friends etc..). I can go through short moments, or long days, of telling myself I'll do or say this and that, only to come to it and do something completely different.
I'm currently doing relatively well in a job I didn't actually want to take on, and it has consumed my time immeasurably. I long and long for a day off, or a day to look forward to with something planned like going to the match today, but ultimately come back feeling beat no matter the present situation. I am permanently tired, have been for as long as I can remember (way before work), and I've been feeling as though it is a vicious cycle, especially when I have no energy or enthusiasm whatsoever to do anything worthwhile in the first place, even stepping foot outside of the house feels like an enormous weight on my shoulders at the minute unless I'm escaping to Goodson. Working is essentially just giving me time to be so occupied I can't have too many bad thoughts. Despite absolutely hating being cooked up and doing nothing alone, it's almost what I'm thriving for given any other social situation as I find it all so draining...
Above all else, I can go from (briefly) feeling on top of the world and somewhat invincible/overconfident to the grim opposite within what feels like a matter of seconds, and find it particularly difficult to shake the mood. There isn't really an in-between or a 'normal' mode.
Tl,dr All in all I feel a bit crap. I hope everybody else is doing ok and sorry for the essay.
Over the past 8 months I have dis-connected with a lot of friends, naturally after finishing Uni many of us were to part different ways etc, some were bad influences or not my kind of people, whilst others I'd do anything just to hang out with again yet I'll probably never see them again.
At the time this is maybe what I wanted, essentially starting fresh albeit my closest of friends... The real problem here though is that I barely believe in myself and I'm finding it particularly difficult to meet new people, or when I do I'm finding it very hard to keep up the relationship I have with them. I also could not have messed up more relations with girls I really liked since I broke up with my ex a couple of years ago, having begun to largely feel as though I might not find what I want/ I don't deserve better anyway. There is always something I manage to do to mess it up.
Much of this is all contributing to me thinking I'm largely ungrateful for many things I have, despite doing my best efforts to show that I do appreciate it all and give something back (be it my family or friends etc..). I can go through short moments, or long days, of telling myself I'll do or say this and that, only to come to it and do something completely different.
I'm currently doing relatively well in a job I didn't actually want to take on, and it has consumed my time immeasurably. I long and long for a day off, or a day to look forward to with something planned like going to the match today, but ultimately come back feeling beat no matter the present situation. I am permanently tired, have been for as long as I can remember (way before work), and I've been feeling as though it is a vicious cycle, especially when I have no energy or enthusiasm whatsoever to do anything worthwhile in the first place, even stepping foot outside of the house feels like an enormous weight on my shoulders at the minute unless I'm escaping to Goodson. Working is essentially just giving me time to be so occupied I can't have too many bad thoughts. Despite absolutely hating being cooked up and doing nothing alone, it's almost what I'm thriving for given any other social situation as I find it all so draining...
Above all else, I can go from (briefly) feeling on top of the world and somewhat invincible/overconfident to the grim opposite within what feels like a matter of seconds, and find it particularly difficult to shake the mood. There isn't really an in-between or a 'normal' mode.
Tl,dr All in all I feel a bit crap. I hope everybody else is doing ok and sorry for the essay.
Hi Matty sorry to hear about the little fella,thought things were a little quiet with you,it has obviously been a difficult time for you but it's good to have you back posting, things will gradually get better for you mate.
brieverton
Player Valuation: £50m
I can identify so much with these posts regarding anxiety. My issue to an extent is that I normalise it, with my family and GP when at times, it would be more honest and beneficial to say I'm not quite ok.
I am a guy with family and career responsibilities like all of you and there is inward and outward pressure just to "get on with things".
I would be interested to hear if anyone has had any issues with paranoid aspects of anxiety, this is something that crept up on me gradually over time and can be both debilitating and exhausting.
I have three triggers - phone calls from unknown numbers, parked cars that move off whilst I walk past, and bank account transactions.
It will sound ridiculous but the heart of these fears is that some bogey man is out to get me. Even in the midst of the thoughts I accept that there is no logical basis for fear but that doesn't lessen the intensity much.
CBT has been most effective but I don't ever think it will go away.
I am a guy with family and career responsibilities like all of you and there is inward and outward pressure just to "get on with things".
I would be interested to hear if anyone has had any issues with paranoid aspects of anxiety, this is something that crept up on me gradually over time and can be both debilitating and exhausting.
I have three triggers - phone calls from unknown numbers, parked cars that move off whilst I walk past, and bank account transactions.
It will sound ridiculous but the heart of these fears is that some bogey man is out to get me. Even in the midst of the thoughts I accept that there is no logical basis for fear but that doesn't lessen the intensity much.
CBT has been most effective but I don't ever think it will go away.
l4toffee
Player Valuation: £40m
Yes mate im ok . Get in touch anytime . If you fancy going for a scran in the week just to get out the house let me know .
brieverton
Player Valuation: £50m
The support and kindness in this thread is lovely to read and ponder on. I should drop in more often.
l4toffee
Player Valuation: £40m
Same here . Very worrying about wbn61