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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

Wrote a couple of months back about progressed made, offering support and talking how things can get better. Yet no i'm struggling and positive thoughts are few and far between. My anxiety has become horrendous. Example being..yesterday walking up and down the highstreet, struggling to bring myself to go get a haircut. Something that small is becoming such a problem, i'm not sure why. I don't know if its the thought of making conversation with someone i dont know, sat in a chair knowing i don't have the freedom to really move. I went for dinner a couple of weeks back with the mrs, half way through the meal i had to get up and leave. Not even sure why i felt i had to leave, maybe to many people close to me its a strange one. I'm still taking my tablets like i have done for years so now the sudden cause of anxiety is worrying.
 
dano195 said:
Wrote a couple of months back about progressed made, offering support and talking how things can get better. Yet no i'm struggling and positive thoughts are few and far between. My anxiety has become horrendous. Example being..yesterday walking up and down the highstreet, struggling to bring myself to go get a haircut. Something that small is becoming such a problem, i'm not sure why. I don't know if its the thought of making conversation with someone i dont know, sat in a chair knowing i don't have the freedom to really move. I went for dinner a couple of weeks back with the mrs, half way through the meal i had to get up and leave. Not even sure why i felt i had to leave, maybe to many people close to me its a strange one. I'm still taking my tablets like i have done for years so now the sudden cause of anxiety is worrying.
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Have you tried CBT before mate? I've had some fairly severe bouts of anxiety and the last set of sessions I had have helped massively. I went into the sessions not really expecting much as I'm fairly sceptical but it did me the world of good. I've done exactly what you mentioned about going for a hair cut, even walked passed and not gone in unless there was nobody else waiting and gone home and told my mrs it was packed and that's why I hadn't had it cut. I also used to send my mrs up to order food in restaurants or get the drinks because it took just about all my effort to get through the door and sit down at a table and the thought of moving again until I had to leave was frightening.

If you haven't spoken to your GP about it already I'd definitely recommend asking about CBT based on my experiences of it. The most important thing if you do it is to get fully involved in it, do the work that they tell you to do away from the sessions and start putting what you learn into practice in small steps. It took me about 3-4 sessions to start noticing any difference but it lifts your mood hugely when you notice yourself do something that you'd normally avoid, and then you'll start actively seeking out situations that you didn't used to feel comfortable in to test yourself.
 
dano195 said:
Wrote a couple of months back about progressed made, offering support and talking how things can get better. Yet no i'm struggling and positive thoughts are few and far between. My anxiety has become horrendous. Example being..yesterday walking up and down the highstreet, struggling to bring myself to go get a haircut. Something that small is becoming such a problem, i'm not sure why. I don't know if its the thought of making conversation with someone i dont know, sat in a chair knowing i don't have the freedom to really move. I went for dinner a couple of weeks back with the mrs, half way through the meal i had to get up and leave. Not even sure why i felt i had to leave, maybe to many people close to me its a strange one. I'm still taking my tablets like i have done for years so now the sudden cause of anxiety is worrying.
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This was me a few years ago to a " t " mate. I always remember going to a massive wedding in the Lake District over looking Windermere and spent almost the entire reception sat outside the hotel with a pint, as I couldn't face talking to anyone. The thought of any social functions used to have me in near panic attacks.

@Bungle gives some cracking advice on CBT there, but I'd advise going to back to your GP and tell them what's going on, as it may be that the dosage of your meds needs altering - higher / lower. If your body has become used to the dose you're on, it may be that they aren't working as they should be and hence the massive increase in anxiety.
 
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Bungle said:
Have you tried CBT before mate? I've had some fairly severe bouts of anxiety and the last set of sessions I had have helped massively. I went into the sessions not really expecting much as I'm fairly sceptical but it did me the world of good. I've done exactly what you mentioned about going for a hair cut, even walked passed and not gone in unless there was nobody else waiting and gone home and told my mrs it was packed and that's why I hadn't had it cut. I also used to send my mrs up to order food in restaurants or get the drinks because it took just about all my effort to get through the door and sit down at a table and the thought of moving again until I had to leave was frightening.

If you haven't spoken to your GP about it already I'd definitely recommend asking about CBT based on my experiences of it. The most important thing if you do it is to get fully involved in it, do the work that they tell you to do away from the sessions and start putting what you learn into practice in small steps. It took me about 3-4 sessions to start noticing any difference but it lifts your mood hugely when you notice yourself do something that you'd normally avoid, and then you'll start actively seeking out situations that you didn't used to feel comfortable in to test yourself.
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i did CBT about 3 years ago, that was mainly for depression and if i'm honest i can't remember much from it. I've always struggle with anxiety but never to extent is at now. I will go see my GP and see about attending sessions again because it helped before. For me its the struggle of being social or going for things like haircuts etc. Struggled massively with depression for years, i dont often feel i struggle with that anymore, its more the anxiety side which is the real issue now. Thanks for the advice, appreciate it!!
 

COYBL25 said:
This was me a few years ago to a " t " mate. I always remember going to a massive wedding in the Lake District over looking Windermere and spent almost the entire reception sat outside the hotel with a pint, as I couldn't face talking to anyone. The thought of any social functions used to have me in near panic attacks.

@Bungle gives some cracking advice on CBT there, but I'd advice going to back to your GP and tell them what's going on, as it may be that the dosage of your meds needs altering - higher / lower. If your body has become used to the dose you're on, it may be that they aren't working as they should be and hence the massive increase in anxiety.
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I think the meds could need altering, but like i said in my last comment CBT is something i've done before which i could feel would benefit me now with my current situation. Thanks for the advice mate, means alot.
 
Ashtonian said:
mate, one thing i will say to you.

you won't be anything less than your son's hero in his eyes as he grows up, you could be the most horrible person and he will still grow up looking up to you.

So remember that, whenever you are feeling the way you are, at least there is your 5 month old best mate, the one who will look up to you and learn from you. You are his superhero mate, so never leave yourself to think otherwise.
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Hello mate, just wanted to say thanks for your words. They brought tears to my eyes thinking about my little lad. I got signed off for a month so hopefully will get my head straight in that time. Already feeling a massive weight off my shoulders. Thanks again
 
witchdoc187 said:
Hello mate, just wanted to say thanks for your words. They brought tears to my eyes thinking about my little lad. I got signed off for a month so hopefully will get my head straight in that time. Already feeling a massive weight off my shoulders. Thanks again
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As well as being a nice fella he also comes with the benefit of some superb DIY advice should you need it. Just something to bear in mind for the future.

Glad you're feeling a sense of relief, hope things work out mate.
 

Bungle said:
......then you should really re-evaluate your life and possibly consider lashing yourself in the nearest bin.
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Ha ha! Sorry I am in team vape - stopped me smoking four months ago - NEVER thought I would be able to. So a big thanks to @Ashtonian as he got me thinking about giving it a go . Not mad for it but it stops my cravings and is better than ciggies, but we will leave that debate for the ale house threaad!!
 
witchdoc187 said:
Can he fix a toilet?
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He's not the man for you.

big bobs beard said:
Ha ha! Sorry I am in team vape - stopped me smoking four months ago - NEVER thought I would be able to. So a big thanks to @Ashtonian as he got me thinking about giving it a go . Not mad for it but it stops my cravings and is better than ciggies, but we will leave that debate for the ale house threaad!!
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I shan't use this thread to express my dislike of the vast majority of vapists.

Have a good weekend all, and if you're lurking @wbn61 then check-in.
 

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