Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[Groucho]

Bit concerned about my mate. He's got anxiety problems and is struggling. I've been to see him today and he was relatively ok but his mum says otherwise. He agreed with her and I've advised him to see his GP tomorrow.

His daughter is with him until the 2nd so it's not like she's spent the entire period at her mums.

I'll check him tomorrow.

 

[Blue Cheese]

Bit concerned about my mate. He's got anxiety problems and is struggling. I've been to see him today and he was relatively ok but his mum says otherwise. He agreed with her and I've advised him to see his GP tomorrow.

His daughter is with him until the 2nd so it's not like she's spent the entire period at her mums.

I'll check him tomorrow.

It will be good for him to have someone who wont judge him and is understanding, good on you Groucho

 

[Deleted member 24970]

After three years i finally admitted to someone a few weeks ago that im really struggling with what can only be described as anxiety and depression.

Basically since my Nan passed away i have become something of a hermit. Weight gain and a general conscience feeling of paranoia, anxiety and depression have followed. The only thing keeping me going was playing football with friends to take my mind off things until i had ligament/knee issues in my left knee which stopped me playing at 100% sometimes altogether.

I went from going out with friends on weekends to just hiding from everyone, i dont know why but i always felt like being alone. My whole attitude just changed from an outgoing, pleasent young lad to that of mistrust and almost hate for everything of the outside world. I went 'to the darkside' if you will. (Sorry for the star wars reference) just been to see rogue one !

I have been blaming the weight gain as a reason for not going out, without realising that the weight issues was a product of the real issues. The loss of such a influential woman in my life. Often during times of conflict or maybe a situation where i thought my temper would win the situation but ultimately ruin my life such as potential criminal records etc i always turned to my Nan. Now that she isnt here anymore i just have a constant thought trail of ifs, buts and maybes.

I have swore to myself that i will seek some sort of help in the new year and attempt to address the issues that have taken over my life, the constant sweatiness, panic attacks, weird little mannerisms - if thats the right word, that have all come about at the thought of social interaction needs to stop. Its not making me happy and its not making those around me happy when they know one mispoken word can cause me to simply lash out and potentially hurt someone. Thats not the type of person i am and not the type of person i want to be.

I guess i just look for someone to blame for watching a loved one go through so much pain and suffering, not realising that im hurting myself for not letting go and moving on.

After all im 6ft+ 20st eldest grandchild capable of handling himself with no fear of anything. Except its not true, i fear losing another loved one. Living my life in the past and future but not living in the present day with those who are here.

The only bit of advice i can give to anyone feeling the same way is to talk. Speak to someone you trust, someone who will listen to you and not look at you as some sort of 'headcase or freak', someone who will help you through the dark times and show you that life goes on - but only when your ready to do so. I know thats what i will be doing soon enough, keeping it all caged up is not going to solve anything.

 

[COYBL25]

After three years i finally admitted to someone a few weeks ago that im really struggling with what can only be described as anxiety and depression.

Basically since my Nan passed away i have become something of a hermit. Weight gain and a general conscience feeling of paranoia, anxiety and depression have followed. The only thing keeping me going was playing football with friends to take my mind off things until i had ligament/knee issues in my left knee which stopped me playing at 100% sometimes altogether.

I went from going out with friends on weekends to just hiding from everyone, i dont know why but i always felt like being alone. My whole attitude just changed from an outgoing, pleasent young lad to that of mistrust and almost hate for everything of the outside world. I went 'to the darkside' if you will. (Sorry for the star wars reference) just been to see rogue one !

I have been blaming the weight gain as a reason for not going out, without realising that the weight issues was a product of the real issues. The loss of such a influential woman in my life. Often during times of conflict or maybe a situation where i thought my temper would win the situation but ultimately ruin my life such as potential criminal records etc i always turned to my Nan. Now that she isnt here anymore i just have a constant thought trail of ifs, buts and maybes.

I have swore to myself that i will seek some sort of help in the new year and attempt to address the issues that have taken over my life, the constant sweatiness, panic attacks, weird little mannerisms - if thats the right word, that have all come about at the thought of social interaction needs to stop. Its not making me happy and its not making those around me happy when they know one mispoken word can cause me to simply lash out and potentially hurt someone. Thats not the type of person i am and not the type of person i want to be.

I guess i just look for someone to blame for watching a loved one go through so much pain and suffering, not realising that im hurting myself for not letting go and moving on.

After all im 6ft+ 20st eldest grandchild capable of handling himself with no fear of anything. Except its not true, i fear losing another loved one. Living my life in the past and future but not living in the present day with those who are here.

The only bit of advice i can give to anyone feeling the same way is to talk. Speak to someone you trust, someone who will listen to you and not look at you as some sort of 'headcase or freak', someone who will help you through the dark times and show you that life goes on - but only when your ready to do so. I know thats what i will be doing soon enough, keeping it all caged up is not going to solve anything.

The honesty in that post is incredible mate.

You've almost described txt book depression there. If you told any GP half of that, they'd know you weren't well in seconds.

Forgive me for asking, but why have you waited so long to seek help ?.

I know how hard it is to make the first step to seek help, but the way I read it, is that you've known and understood that your not well for a while ?.

 

[jaycee]

The honesty in that post is incredible mate.

You've almost described txt book depression there. If you told any GP half of that, they'd know you weren't well in seconds.

Forgive me for asking, but why have you waited so long to seek help ?.

I know how hard it is to make the first step to seek help, but the way I read it, is that you've known and understood that your not well for a while ?.

You know yourself mate knowing something and actually doing something in these situations are two completely different matters,sometimes it can sufdenly dawn on you or times someone makes you realise, it could be a loved one, a stranger a doctor,i went decades of thinking I was anti social,aggresive,a bit odd,evsry type of description thats thrown about,it took a complete outsider to say what was wrong with me

 

[Elong]

After three years i finally admitted to someone a few weeks ago that im really struggling with what can only be described as anxiety and depression.

Basically since my Nan passed away i have become something of a hermit. Weight gain and a general conscience feeling of paranoia, anxiety and depression have followed. The only thing keeping me going was playing football with friends to take my mind off things until i had ligament/knee issues in my left knee which stopped me playing at 100% sometimes altogether.

I went from going out with friends on weekends to just hiding from everyone, i dont know why but i always felt like being alone. My whole attitude just changed from an outgoing, pleasent young lad to that of mistrust and almost hate for everything of the outside world. I went 'to the darkside' if you will. (Sorry for the star wars reference) just been to see rogue one !

I have been blaming the weight gain as a reason for not going out, without realising that the weight issues was a product of the real issues. The loss of such a influential woman in my life. Often during times of conflict or maybe a situation where i thought my temper would win the situation but ultimately ruin my life such as potential criminal records etc i always turned to my Nan. Now that she isnt here anymore i just have a constant thought trail of ifs, buts and maybes.

I have swore to myself that i will seek some sort of help in the new year and attempt to address the issues that have taken over my life, the constant sweatiness, panic attacks, weird little mannerisms - if thats the right word, that have all come about at the thought of social interaction needs to stop. Its not making me happy and its not making those around me happy when they know one mispoken word can cause me to simply lash out and potentially hurt someone. Thats not the type of person i am and not the type of person i want to be.

I guess i just look for someone to blame for watching a loved one go through so much pain and suffering, not realising that im hurting myself for not letting go and moving on.

After all im 6ft+ 20st eldest grandchild capable of handling himself with no fear of anything. Except its not true, i fear losing another loved one. Living my life in the past and future but not living in the present day with those who are here.

The only bit of advice i can give to anyone feeling the same way is to talk. Speak to someone you trust, someone who will listen to you and not look at you as some sort of 'headcase or freak', someone who will help you through the dark times and show you that life goes on - but only when your ready to do so. I know thats what i will be doing soon enough, keeping it all caged up is not going to solve anything.

This is incredibly similar to what happened to me. Seeing somebody about it is the first step.

It's not weak to speak!

 

[eLPatron]

It is mate, people can be cruel when they want and a pack mentality ensues so even quiet people will join in when feeling buoyed by the crowd. Meet people who want to know you and try and forget the rest. Not as easy with depression because even the smallest slights can seem huge. Don't let people drive you from your job.

cheers

 

[Gordon Bennett]

I'm really new to this forum and didn't even realise this one existed
I've only got through the first 8-9 pages & both me and the wife are in tears!
Everyone who has contributed to this part of the site is amazing
Im noticing names who usually take the mick in the rest of the site offering genuine help to people who immediately need it
Sorry to clog up this area but collectively your all doing a fantastic job
And it has certainly changed my initial perception of this site
Well done
Keep up the good work guy as im sure you will

 

[COYBL25]

I'm really new to this forum and didn't even realise this one existed
I've only got through the first 8-9 pages & both me and the wife are in tears!
Everyone who has contributed to this part of the site is amazing
Im noticing names who usually take the mick in the rest of the site offering genuine help to people who immediately need it
Sorry to clog up this area but collectively your all doing a fantastic job
And it has certainly changed my initial perception of this site
Well done
Keep up the good work guy as im sure you will

That's the beauty of the forum mate.

On the main site you can be wumming someone to death and on here you can be offering the same poster support and advice.

We're all blues together x

 

[BiggyRat]

The loss of such a influential woman in my life. Often during times of conflict or maybe a situation where i thought my temper would win the situation but ultimately ruin my life such as potential criminal records etc i always turned to my Nan. Now that she isnt here anymore i just have a constant thought trail of ifs, buts and maybes.

Mate, with all due respect, she's not gone. She lives on in your heart & you need only think of her & what she'd say to you if you asked her a question. It sounds like you spent enough time with her to know her answers. Also, you've shared her memory with us so that memory will live on.

I only spent roughly 5 months in the presence of my Grandma, being on the wrong side of the planet & all. She lived to the ripe old age of 105 & I count her as the most influential relative of mine, outside of my immediate family.

Remember her love & wisdom at your darkest moments & she'll help you pull through.

 

[wainy]

Feeling poo lately. Had battled depressing for past couple of years. Finally thought I was getting somewhere this year, had a beautiful baby girl in September and felt great. Found out my Mrs is pregnant again the other day (I must have the most potent swimmers going, barely touched her since the baby) and I've plunged back in to it. Don't want to move out of bed, hearing the babies crying drives me insane, work has been a nightmare and I'm dreading starting my new job in January. Feel like it's gonna be a nightmare to try and deal with 2 babies so young, just don't think am mentally up to it. I'm probably just being a little bitch but it's scared me how I'm having all the dark thoughts I used to have. I know this is a nothing problem compared to some on here but just needed to vent it!

 

[Prevenger17]

I know this is a nothing problem compared to some on here but just needed to vent it!

Mate, that doesn't sound like a nothing problem. What ways did you deal with your depression previously?

 

[shackattack]

sometimes the first step is the hardest but it's a brave person that does it. many see depression as a weakness and believe you can just pull yourself together, yeah if only if it was that easy eh ! but it does get better and life becomes more tolerable, speaking about it helps and the weight lifted in just that alone is half the battle. many people suffer from depression be it knowingly or unknowingly, and a decent friend or ally would never leave you. build up your self esteem, get your body in good shape, and talk, to anyone or anything , it helps. it's why threads like this are vital.

 

[jaycee]

Feeling poo lately. Had battled depressing for past couple of years. Finally thought I was getting somewhere this year, had a beautiful baby girl in September and felt great. Found out my Mrs is pregnant again the other day (I must have the most potent swimmers going, barely touched her since the baby) and I've plunged back in to it. Don't want to move out of bed, hearing the babies crying drives me insane, work has been a nightmare and I'm dreading starting my new job in January. Feel like it's gonna be a nightmare to try and deal with 2 babies so young, just don't think am mentally up to it. I'm probably just being a little bitch but it's scared me how I'm having all the dark thoughts I used to have. I know this is a nothing problem compared to some on here but just needed to vent it!

Mate anybody would get stressed with 2 young ones and a new job to start,nothing being a little bitch about it,get to your GP and get yourself sorted again,as much for the sake of the young ones and your wife as for yourself good luck in the job bud

 

[wainy]

Mate, that doesn't sound like a nothing problem. What ways did you deal with your depression previously?

I did quite a lot of counselling with a specialist who was amazing to be honest. That was all organised through my old job though so not sure if I could see him again!

Mate anybody would get stressed with 2 young ones and a new job to start,nothing being a little bitch about it,get to your GP and get yourself sorted again,as much for the sake of the young ones and your wife as for yourself good luck in the job bud

Think I'll have too mate. Not being able to work is not an option with 2 (soon to be 3) kids and a wife on maternity leave. Hoping once I get my head around it I'll be ok, and as you say, starting a new job is stressful too so hoping once that's out the way I'll get back to something like normal.