Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[brieverton]

I would like to wish all GOT members and lurkers a very Happy and Peaceful Christmas and New Year.

Christmas can be both a tremendously uplifting time and also, very sad and difficult.

Life can feel like a lottery at times in that respect.

If this time is going to be challenging for you, then may I pass on two good pieces of advice I have received;

1) This too, will pass. And whatever it is, indeed it will.
2) Be kind to yourself at Christmas, if not materially, then with time, patience, and understanding.

 

[LinekersLegs]

Nice tweetstrom from JK Rowling
I’ve had so many lovely messages wishing me a merry Christmas. Thank you! 1/12
I’ve also heard from people who are going through very tough times. These always seem worse at Christmas. 2/12
At this time of year, we’re bombarded with images of perfect lives, which bear as little relation to reality as tinsel does to gold. 3/12
If you’re lucky enough to be with the people you love, warm and safe, with enough to eat, I’m sure you feel as blessed as I do. 4/12
But if your life is currently full of difficulties; if you aren’t where you want to be, either literally or figuratively, 5/12
remember that extraordinary transformations are possible. Everything changes. Nothing is forever. 6/12
Thinking back to my worst Christmas, I found it hard to believe that my unhappiness would pass. I was truly afraid of the future. 7/12
You never know what the future holds. Astonishing reversals of fortune happen every minute. 8/12
So if you’re sad, or lonely, or bereaved, or ill, separated from your loved ones or in any other way suffering this Christmas, 9/12
I send you love and wish you luck and better times. Millions of us have been where you are now. 10/12

 

[broughy]

I know christmas is a hard time for a few of us but i hope everyone has someone to talk too if they are feeling down. there is good people on here that have been a good help for so many people. please take care.

 

[polish]

Merry Christmas to everyone here remember we're all a family and we share the same passion and love that is Everton FC. Rooting for you all

 

[BiggyRat]

Best wishes to all of our Blue family on what can be both a wonderful & difficult day.

Beautiful clear blue sky here in Melbourne this morning, just so you know that the Sun still shines. You either need to look for it or wait for it.

Take care today!

 

[EFCPaul]

Great advice there from Ms Rowling. I'm always a bit bluesy around this time of year and tend to overthink my situation in life and beat myself up thinking about how I want things to be different. She's right though, it shouldn't be a time to be thinking about what you don't have, instead celebrate what you do even if you feel like it's not much.

Merry Christmas everyone and remember, if anyone ever wants to talk then I'm always available to chat too through messages as well. I love how everyone in here looks after each other.

 

[Groucho]

At what can be a horrible time for depressed folk, I hope you all can provide support for those alone.

 

[Jacob]

To those of us feeling blue this morning. Alone... or maybe with people/family but still feeling alone or putting on a front. Dont despair..be especially good to yourself and see what tomorrow may bring ...and moreover may you have the Christmas gift of gaining the strength to meet it and deal with it.

 

[blueloon]

Have a good day everyone, remember that as well as this forum if you need to chat to someone Samaritans is also there 24/7 , phone 116 123

 

[Blue Cheese]

How is everyone today, All is well I hope.

 

[DanEFC92]

Hope everyone here has a great Christmas x

 

[Lowste]

Hope everybody enjoyed the day and hope people are looking forward to the optimism the new year can bring

 

[anjelikaferrett]

I'm fortunate not to have had any mental ill health problems but I always read this thread -it is a wonderful thing and it always reaffirms my faith in human nature. I try to help out if ever I can. I've just got home after being in Liverpool over Christmas. In August my Mum was diagnosed with terminal bone cancer. We were told three months. It's been a very stressful time for us all- not least my Dad, her husband of 57 years. She's a feisty old girl though, we all sat down for dinner together on Christmas Day - Mum had supervised the cooking, we all mucked in and it was very special. I am truly blessed.

Happy Christmas to you all, may 2017 be all you want it to be. X

 

[EFCPaul]

Finally thought I was going to go out tonight and have a bevvy with some mates and looked forward to it all for days. Today finally arrives and it's all I think about in work. Texts one of the lads asking him to ring or text me about 12 on my dinner to fill me in on the plan for the night but get zero response, just outright blanks it.

Get home about 4 and decide to ring him myself, still no response. Ring another lad who tells me the first is in the gym and will call me later. Finally does call me about half 7. "I will come pick you up and bring you back to mine and we'll have a few pre-drinks before splitting a cab into town." Sound. Gets to about 9 and I call to ask when he's coming, he tells me "nah I can't come get you now mate, got to think of the petrol. We're all in mine now and we'll get a taxi about into town about half 10, you get one from yours and meet us."

What a joke, told them I'm not coming now so I've gotten changed back into my Christmas pyjamas because they've messed me about so much and now decided to just let me down at the last minute over a lift. Basically saying to me "I know we've left you hanging all day but we're not bothered. You pay double to get to town in a cab and we'll come meet you whenever we can be arsed leaving, we're not bothered if you're left standing around on you own on one of the worst nights of the year." No chance, P right off.

Sad but sometimes you have to realise some people are not your real friends, they're just people who pick you up and drop you whenever they feel like at their convenience. Washed my hands now, gang of melts.

 

[wilfjacko]

On my living room wall i have this quote from Helen Keller.
"Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadows. It's what the sunflowers do."

It really helps me through the dark days.