Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[Jacob]

Finally thought I was going to go out tonight and have a bevvy with some mates and looked forward to it all for days. Today finally arrives and it's all I think about in work. Texts one of the lads asking him to ring or text me about 12 on my dinner to fill me in on the plan for the night but get zero response, just outright blanks it.

Get home about 4 and decide to ring him myself, still no response. Ring another lad who tells me the first is in the gym and will call me later. Finally does call me about half 7. "I will come pick you up and bring you back to mine and we'll have a few pre-drinks before splitting a cab into town." Sound. Gets to about 9 and I call to ask when he's coming, he tells me "nah I can't come get you now mate, got to think of the petrol. We're all in mine now and we'll get a taxi about into town about half 10, you get one from yours and meet us."

What a joke, told them I'm not coming now so I've gotten changed back into my Christmas pyjamas because they've messed me about so much and now decided to just let me down at the last minute over a lift. Basically saying to me "I know we've left you hanging all day but we're not bothered. You pay double to get to town in a cab and we'll come meet you whenever we can be arsed leaving, we're not bothered if you're left standing around on you own on one of the worst nights of the year." No chance, P right off.

Sad but sometimes you have to realise some people are not your real friends, they're just people who pick you up and drop you whenever they feel like at their convenience. Washed my hands now, gang of melts.

A painful disappointing experience for you. But it will make you stronger and theyve actually done you a favour by behaving so hurtfully. They sound like a bunch of horrors to be honest...cut the cord and stick to those who respect you. New friends in the New Year could be a bonus too.

 

[Huyton Layne]

Pretty much at rock bottom.

 

[Huyton Layne]

Sorry for being all teenage girl on Facebook in that last post. Arl fella causing grief by doing his best to drink himself to death. Might never speak to me again and the wife's kicked him out to a hotel.

 

[granter79]

Sorry for being all teenage girl on Facebook in that last post. Arl fella causing grief by doing his best to drink himself to death. Might never speak to me again and the wife's kicked him out to a hotel.

No need for apologies on here mate. Very difficult situation when alcohol is involved. Realisation that he is not in his own house and away from the family could be a wake up for him.
Seen the damage these situations can have on families as it's very common. No easy fix but keep posting mate.

 

[edge]

Spot on there. If your work colleagues are bellends, nothing is going to change that. Why should you open up to them, when they don't sound like they're being very friendly towards you ?

With regards to " Kalms " . They're a mild natural sedative, there's many similar on the market. The best one I found was called " Valerian Root ". You can get it off the likes of Ebay really cheap. It does work for some people, but shouldn't be taken with prescription meds. The best sleep aid used to be " Night Nurse " . However druggies found that if you mixed it with other stuff it gave you a massive high ( seriously ) , so whatever the good stuff was got taken out off Night Nurse and it doesn't work anymore

get the chemist own brand , if you need night nurse , I get it from the one by my mums cheaper and still works

 

[Tim's tourettes]

Finally thought I was going to go out tonight and have a bevvy with some mates and looked forward to it all for days. Today finally arrives and it's all I think about in work. Texts one of the lads asking him to ring or text me about 12 on my dinner to fill me in on the plan for the night but get zero response, just outright blanks it.

Get home about 4 and decide to ring him myself, still no response. Ring another lad who tells me the first is in the gym and will call me later. Finally does call me about half 7. "I will come pick you up and bring you back to mine and we'll have a few pre-drinks before splitting a cab into town." Sound. Gets to about 9 and I call to ask when he's coming, he tells me "nah I can't come get you now mate, got to think of the petrol. We're all in mine now and we'll get a taxi about into town about half 10, you get one from yours and meet us."

What a joke, told them I'm not coming now so I've gotten changed back into my Christmas pyjamas because they've messed me about so much and now decided to just let me down at the last minute over a lift. Basically saying to me "I know we've left you hanging all day but we're not bothered. You pay double to get to town in a cab and we'll come meet you whenever we can be arsed leaving, we're not bothered if you're left standing around on you own on one of the worst nights of the year." No chance, P right off.

Sad but sometimes you have to realise some people are not your real friends, they're just people who pick you up and drop you whenever they feel like at their convenience. Washed my hands now, gang of melts.

Hello mate. I don't know how old you are from your posts but I would say you find out your true mates when hitting 30's! When the nights out stop and marriage plans/buying a house and maintaining it/ having kids etc starts. Then u find out ur actual mates, those who willingly come and help you out at home, are happy to sit in with u the wife and kids. I went from a group of 10 plus drinking mates in my 20's to now having a handful of true friends and I am more than happy with that! Hope u find the same

 

[COYBL25]

Hello mate. I don't know how old you are from your posts but I would say you find out your true mates when hitting 30's! When the nights out stop and marriage plans/buying a house and maintaining it/ having kids etc starts. Then u find out ur actual mates, those who willingly come and help you out at home, are happy to sit in with u the wife and kids. I went from a group of 10 plus drinking mates in my 20's to now having a handful of true friends and I am more than happy with that! Hope u find the same

Spot on, excellent post

 

[anjelikaferrett]

Finally thought I was going to go out tonight and have a bevvy with some mates and looked forward to it all for days. Today finally arrives and it's all I think about in work. Texts one of the lads asking him to ring or text me about 12 on my dinner to fill me in on the plan for the night but get zero response, just outright blanks it.

Get home about 4 and decide to ring him myself, still no response. Ring another lad who tells me the first is in the gym and will call me later. Finally does call me about half 7. "I will come pick you up and bring you back to mine and we'll have a few pre-drinks before splitting a cab into town." Sound. Gets to about 9 and I call to ask when he's coming, he tells me "nah I can't come get you now mate, got to think of the petrol. We're all in mine now and we'll get a taxi about into town about half 10, you get one from yours and meet us."

What a joke, told them I'm not coming now so I've gotten changed back into my Christmas pyjamas because they've messed me about so much and now decided to just let me down at the last minute over a lift. Basically saying to me "I know we've left you hanging all day but we're not bothered. You pay double to get to town in a cab and we'll come meet you whenever we can be arsed leaving, we're not bothered if you're left standing around on you own on one of the worst nights of the year." No chance, P right off.

Sad but sometimes you have to realise some people are not your real friends, they're just people who pick you up and drop you whenever they feel like at their convenience. Washed my hands now, gang of melts.

You've nailed it right there. Sometimes it takes a pivotal moment to make you see that the people you thought were friends were not. You are better off without them.

 

[eLPatron]

Honestly not sure mate, it's something I've thought about doing particulary with a girl I quite fancy who I know is single.

We had our Christmas works' night out a few weeks back though where I thought "right this is my chance to bond with them all here". We started off in a bar and everything was cool, everyone having bevvies and laughing. Then all of a sudden everyone just left leaving me and a few old timers behind not knowing where they'd gone so I just went home. Found out the next day that about 6 or 7 of them went back to an apartment for a party without me. One of the older gents in work couldn't believe it when I told him and called them all b******s and I tend to agree with him, I take that as a clear snub. Again there's no problems between me and anyone at all, my assumption is that they maybe think I'm a stiff because my anxiety stops me from opening up sometimes even though I do try to be as sound as I can.

Probably going to give the kalms a go and see if they make me feel better and more at ease which is all I want really. If I manage that then I think everything else will sort itself out naturally.

Exactly the same as me mate. Always been a shy lad since being bullied in school, finally thought I was starting to fit in with them but every single one try to avoid me in work. One guy has even got up and moved computer (2 rows of computers facing each other) just to get away from me. I even heard him say "I'm not sitting next to him, are you joking me?" and quite a few of them giggled like I wasn't in the room.
I'm shy but I open up once you get to know me or once there is only 3/4 people including myself are in the room.
I finally thought I was getting in with them but on Tuesday they were all laughing saying I don't say a word and I'm quite.
I've had this problem before and I've just left the workplace and walked into another job. However I'm determined to stick at this one for as long as I can. [Poor language removed] them.
This probably sounds stupid to you lot but I definitely have issues that need fixing, it's just getting the bottle to speak to someone about it.

You leave school and realise the workplace is different. 2 faced, backstabbers everywhere.
Literally as soon as people shut that door to go home, within 30secs people are talking about them. What a horrible world.

 

[Blue Cheese]

Hi everyone, hope all is well.

My current status is a positive one, for the last week I've been feeling much more like my normal self, I'm feeling confident about returning to work in January.

Without jinxing, I'm hopeful the sertraline are working and this latest episode can be put behind me. I hope so anyway, don't know how much more I can take otherwise.

 

[Blue Cheese]

Exactly the same as me mate. Always been a shy lad since being bullied in school, finally thought I was starting to fit in with them but every single one try to avoid me in work. One guy has even got up and moved computer (2 rows of computers facing each other) just to get away from me. I even heard him say "I'm not sitting next to him, are you joking me?" and quite a few of them giggled like I wasn't in the room.
I'm shy but I open up once you get to know me or once there is only 3/4 people including myself are in the room.
I finally thought I was getting in with them but on Tuesday they were all laughing saying I don't say a word and I'm quite.
I've had this problem before and I've just left the workplace and walked into another job. However I'm determined to stick at this one for as long as I can. [Poor language removed] them.
This probably sounds stupid to you lot but I definitely have issues that need fixing, it's just getting the bottle to speak to someone about it.

You leave school and realise the workplace is different. 2 faced, backstabbers everywhere.
Literally as soon as people shut that door to go home, within 30secs people are talking about them. What a horrible world.

It is mate, people can be cruel when they want and a pack mentality ensues so even quiet people will join in when feeling buoyed by the crowd. Meet people who want to know you and try and forget the rest. Not as easy with depression because even the smallest slights can seem huge. Don't let people drive you from your job.

 

[COYBL25]

Hi everyone, hope all is well.

My current status is a positive one, for the last week I've been feeling much more like my normal self, I'm feeling confident about returning to work in January.

Without jinxing, I'm hopeful the sertraline are working and this latest episode can be put behind me. I hope so anyway, don't know how much more I can take otherwise.

That's excellent news. I'd wager that the meds have started working properly hence you feeling like your old self again.

Something positive to look forward to for the New Year

Ps - isn't feeling " normal " again a wonderful feeling !

 

[Blue Cheese]

That's excellent news. I'd wager that the meds have started working properly hence you feeling like your old self again.

Something positive to look forward to for the New Year

Ps - isn't feeling " normal " again a wonderful feeling !

It certainly is, I'm worried that it's because I've been on my own a lot and isn't real. On the other hand, normally when on my own a lot I'm at my worse, so definitely a step in the right direction.

Just need to get back to work and get stuck in now in the new year. Onwards and upwards and hopefully for the better.

 

[granter79]

Hi everyone, hope all is well.

My current status is a positive one, for the last week I've been feeling much more like my normal self, I'm feeling confident about returning to work in January.

Without jinxing, I'm hopeful the sertraline are working and this latest episode can be put behind me. I hope so anyway, don't know how much more I can take otherwise.

Excellent pal. Great to hear

 

[anjelikaferrett]

Hi everyone, hope all is well.

My current status is a positive one, for the last week I've been feeling much more like my normal self, I'm feeling confident about returning to work in January.

Without jinxing, I'm hopeful the sertraline are working and this latest episode can be put behind me. I hope so anyway, don't know how much more I can take otherwise.

Nice one.