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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

@AaronTheBlue @GwladysBlue as you can gather from this thread and peoples reactions to famous people struggling with mental health issues, attitudes towards this area are improving. I imagine it isn't easy but it seems this best way is to be open with people around you and seek some type of professional help. Good luck x
 
Alan Brazil's comments today about Robin Williams are nothing short of disgusting in my opinion. He basically said that people who commit suicide because of depression are selfish cowards. To make such an uneducated comment like that means there clearly is a man who has never experienced or dealt with depression in any way, shape or form. It's that sort of attitude that makes it feel so difficult for someone to seek help about their depression and open up.

It really angers me when people say "how can he/she be depressed? He/she had or has everything, they had nothing to be upset about compared to others". Depression absolutely doesn't work like that, that can't be stressed enough. They say depression is rage directed inwards. Some of the most successful people in the world are some of the most empty-feeling inside. Something is happening in their life they feel upset about and don't know how to deal with. To judge them without fully understanding what it is that's affecting them is not acceptable in my opinion.

As a depression sufferer, I was absolutely appalled that this uneducated man was allowed to say such a hurtful and judgmental thing on national radio. Talksport should sack him, that's my view.
 
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Yet, no one would dare say it is selfish to stop cancer treatment; increase pain meds to the point of unconsciousness; to stop the fight when there is no hope. There is only an outcry about this horrible disease that takes loved ones before their time.

Depression alters reality in the mind of the afflicted. It skews perceptions. They may believe they are not worth the love of their family/friends, are a burden or the world would be better off without them. They have lost all hope and think to stop the fight.

I feel for the family/friends of these people who believe suicide is a selfish act - people so selfish themselves as to only see how a suicide would affect them, not the suffering, the dark, awful place the depressed must be in.
 
I'd encourage anyone who's going through depression at the moment to read through Stan Collymore's twitter feed. Like him or not he really knows what he's talking about.
 

RAFUH said:
Yet, no one would dare say it is selfish to stop cancer treatment; increase pain meds to the point of unconsciousness; to stop the fight when there is no hope. There is only an outcry about this horrible disease that takes loved ones before their time.

Depression alters reality in the mind of the afflicted. It skews perceptions. They may believe they are not worth the love of their family/friends, are a burden or the world would be better off without them. They have lost all hope and think to stop the fight.

I feel for the family/friends of these people who believe suicide is a selfish act - people so selfish themselves as to only see how a suicide would affect them, not the suffering, the dark, awful place the depressed must be in.
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I'm on borrowed time (not cancer) and haven't been able to work for 6 months. The GP referred me to Inclusion Matters, the lady I see there is brilliant and although I am still thinking about ending it, not as often though. I no longer feel so worthless and am actively trying to break out of the dark moods altogether.
 
Bluefin said:
I'm on borrowed time (not cancer) and haven't been able to work for 6 months. The GP referred me to Inclusion Matters, the lady I see there is brilliant and although I am still thinking about ending it, not as often though. I no longer feel so worthless and am actively trying to break out of the dark moods altogether.
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My wife has been to inclusion matters.

Hope you found it helpful.
 
Bluefin said:
I'm on borrowed time (not cancer) and haven't been able to work for 6 months. The GP referred me to Inclusion Matters, the lady I see there is brilliant and although I am still thinking about ending it, not as often though. I no longer feel so worthless and am actively trying to break out of the dark moods altogether.
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I've been to Inclusion Matters in 2012 at the Stella Nova in Bootle. I thought I should have had more sessions than I did.
 
Groucho said:
I've heard this before.

Did you get any other follow up?
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No it really felt like I was being booted out by them. It was just sprung on me as well.

I never got a follow up option, I always remember her saying a lot of people end up back there so when I went the doctors again roughly around last October I rejected the counselling and went straight for the tablets. When you get into a routine of being in a 'safe place' for it to be dragged from under your feet relatively quickly is unsettling to say the least.
 

GwladysBlue said:
No it really felt like I was being booted out by them. It was just sprung on me as well.

I never got a follow up option, I always remember her saying a lot of people end up back there so when I went the doctors again roughly around last October I rejected the counselling and went straight for the tablets. When you get into a routine of being in a 'safe place' for it to be dragged from under your feet relatively quickly is unsettling to say the least.
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Not good that is it?

This needs to change, the follow up process and Inclusion Matters in general, if that's how people are feeling.
 
So I thought with what's currently in the news I'd just like to share a little of what I went through.

Over the past 26 months my life has changed massively, back then I was married, fit as a fiddle, happy at work and a relatively new dad.

Things started to turn pretty rapidly, I ended up having to have an operation (cyst on me arse if anyone's interested) and was off work for 8 weeks and was just a general pain in the arse for my ex. Gets over the lay off and back to work but my due to laying around from the operation I seem to have developed sciatica, and am persistently niggled by it, so plenty of physiotherapy and not really doing much fitness hence why I'm a chubby little git now.

Not soon after I noticed the exes attitude and behaviour had changed, she was forever on her phone and very secretive, we lived away from home and always wanted to go back, something she'd never been too bothered by. I found out a few months later she'd been having an affair with a friend. Totally messed me up as it was just out of nowhere.

She moved back home and I just felt abandoned, being in the RAF I felt a sense of having to bottle it up but it just got too much. Spoke with my Sergeant who allowed me 4 weeks leave to try and sort things out. I went home with a slight hope that I could sort something but it was too far gone.

When I got back to work I just couldn't cope, couldn't sleep, constant migraines and the bit of chub I'd gained just dropped off me due to no appetite.

Eventually I got over it, I spent a lot of time with the doctor and speaking to my Sergeant, who surprisingly said he'd been through this with a few lads before.

Anywho, I'm now completely over it and her, I've moved back home and life is pretty good, I see my little lad on a regular basis and despite what the ex thought, her new relationship fell flat on it's arse.

What I took away from the whole thing is it's good to talk to people, they may have had the same experiences or helped others before.

TL;DR - Sore arse, got fat, wife left me, now I'm fine, talk to people.
 

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