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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

Does anyone have much experience with anxiety? Feel like I've been getting increasingly stressed and anxious recently and now I've got a bit of mild vertigo. Could they be linked?

Cheers.
 
tim cahill said:
Does anyone have much experience with anxiety? Feel like I've been getting increasingly stressed and anxious recently and now I've got a bit of mild vertigo. Could they be linked?

Cheers.
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Not linked as such but stress can trigger all sorts of stuff.

You may have developed vertigo in a mild form and anxiety has kicked it off.

On the other hand, could be totally unrelated mate.
 
PaulieMc said:
Had a very strange few days, was VERY low earlier in the week, so low I didn't even want to post in here, I just wanted to isolate myself. It also started effecting me badly at work, I was VERY late on Monday and was pulled into the office by two of the supervisors. In a very gentle way they basically said "Look, this is out of character, we've noticed something is the matter with you, is everything okay?"

I decided to tell them about how I've been on an off medication since Christmas and how that and lack of sleep has been badly screwing with my head. They seemed a bit taken aback by what I told them but were very understanding and urged me to carry on taking my medication consistently. I told them the reason I hadn't said anything to anyone before then was because I'm a very private person who doesn't want work colleagues knowing my business outside of the place (I've explained there is a clique mentality with many of the other workers and I'm not part of it). I'm pleased I told them, I think it has helped them understand me more. Instead of assuming I'm a cold fish they now know why I'm sometimes quiet or a bit irritable, it's helped me feel a bit more settled and not constantly overthinking things.

An interesting side note was I spoke to another colleague to whom I explained what happened with the girl. She explained to me that our mutual friend is just a very shy girl who hasn't had a lad show any interest in her for a long time so that explained why she was acting so evasive with me. She kept asking if I'd text the girl since and I said no I hadn't

She said; "So you're giving up then?"

Me; "Look I like her but I'm not going to pester the girl. She doesn't seem interested so I'm going to just leave her be and not embarrass myself."

Her: "But if she came up to you you'd still want to talk to her?"

Me: "Yeah definitely but like I said, she seemed so desperate to avoid me that I think that says she doesn't want to know."

It's got me thinking that maybe our colleague was trying to very subtly hint at me to keep trying. I know they're good friends and talk a lot outside of work, hopefully she can put in a good word for me. But for now I'm just trying to live day to day and get more sleep of a night so I can feel far better during the days. I was hit by a big setback and I haven't gotten fully back on track yet. Hopefully by next week I will have. :)
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Haha see mate. I told you there would be another reason behind it.

And good of your work to notice a change in you, you can use that as a method of support in the future
 
Morning all on this nervous Derby morning! I haven't posted for ages in here, to be honest I haven't even been browsing that much. 3 ish months on from citalopram and now cbt in there also and I feel great. Way back to my usual positive self. I want to share this as its only a short time ago I was in such a bad place. I have mentioned on here that my bro in law is a therapist, it was him who told me that most people needed the cbt alongside meds to truly get a grip on their conditions. I had cbt twice before through work but would not touch meds as I thought it was weakness. I gave in after this advice combined with knowing I had driven my wife to the point of wanting a divorce. I would like to thank each and everyone of you on here who posts. I found it very comforting to know I wasnt the only hairy arsed football fan who was going through this horrible condition(s). I will continue to read and post if applicable (especially if I read someone going through what I experienced) it's just that now my life has become so busy again now that I can focus properly on work and home life plus we just had the news that we have a 2nd kid on the way. 3 months ago this would have made me a quivering wreck, now I can't wait to bring another blue into the world (especially now we can see good times ahead!) COYB
 
barmcake said:
Hi,

I can't believe it was the 15th of Feb when I last posted about the situation with my son. Six weeks on and this nightmare is still no closer to being resolved.......in fact I can't see an end to it. The last time I posted we'd just come out of hospital after he physically attacked us and threatened to kill himself. I could spend all night writing about what's been going on since. Help is beginning to mobilise..........school have been fantastic, we now have a child advocate on board, we've been referred to tier three of CAMHS and we have an 'early help' meeting on the first day back at school after Easter. Friends and family have equally been very supportive. However, whilst I tell myself that help is coming and this will get better it's simply not. Every day is a struggle. My wife is off sick again with stress/depression as a result of this so I've got two people to support.

I've always been a very positive person, never experienced any depression in any way. Right now though I'm really struggling. It's not depression and I can't compare it to the struggles people genuinely have (including my own son and wife) as I know if all this wasn't happening I would be fine but I just feel like I can't take it anymore. Each morning I'm anxious about getting a call at work as he's refusing to go to school, each afternoon its how is he after school and then the evenings who knows what will happen. I've got no choice but to soldier on though and be the strong one because I've got a wife and son with their own real issues and another child to look after. I'm really frustrated as my wife has very different ways of managing all this and it's just making it worse. I fear for our own relationship. We've been together since the age of 16 (22 years) and I would never want to leave but I just don't know how this will end.

I don't really know what I'm feeling to be honest. Just lost I guess. We've had some issues this evening so I've taken myself out of the way and to this thread for a catch up......hence the update.
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I can't offer any better advice but I can give you a personal story. My uncle attempted suicide when he was a young man. After he got help (and the right drugs) he went on to great things in the NHS, get an award from the Queen, and help countless people turn their lives around. A tricky start to life can be turned around, there is always hope.
 

barmcake said:
Hi,

I can't believe it was the 15th of Feb when I last posted about the situation with my son. Six weeks on and this nightmare is still no closer to being resolved.......in fact I can't see an end to it. The last time I posted we'd just come out of hospital after he physically attacked us and threatened to kill himself. I could spend all night writing about what's been going on since. Help is beginning to mobilise..........school have been fantastic, we now have a child advocate on board, we've been referred to tier three of CAMHS and we have an 'early help' meeting on the first day back at school after Easter. Friends and family have equally been very supportive. However, whilst I tell myself that help is coming and this will get better it's simply not. Every day is a struggle. My wife is off sick again with stress/depression as a result of this so I've got two people to support.

I've always been a very positive person, never experienced any depression in any way. Right now though I'm really struggling. It's not depression and I can't compare it to the struggles people genuinely have (including my own son and wife) as I know if all this wasn't happening I would be fine but I just feel like I can't take it anymore. Each morning I'm anxious about getting a call at work as he's refusing to go to school, each afternoon its how is he after school and then the evenings who knows what will happen. I've got no choice but to soldier on though and be the strong one because I've got a wife and son with their own real issues and another child to look after. I'm really frustrated as my wife has very different ways of managing all this and it's just making it worse. I fear for our own relationship. We've been together since the age of 16 (22 years) and I would never want to leave but I just don't know how this will end.

I don't really know what I'm feeling to be honest. Just lost I guess. We've had some issues this evening so I've taken myself out of the way and to this thread for a catch up......hence the update.
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Hi mate.

I do voluntary work for the charity Scope, supporting parents of children with disabilities and with conditions similar to that of your lad.

The purpose of the support service is not only to support parents emotionally, but to keep families together too.

The stats for families splitting up in situations like yours are horrendous.

Please PM me mate if you think this service is something that could be of help to you.

Even if you're outside Liverpool, I can put you in touch with a group that covers your area x
 
Went to see the doctor today, told him about how my past few very up and down weeks. He said I definitely should stick with my citalopram for the next few months because I've seen now what a difference going cold turkey with them can do to your moods, even when you're only on a small dosage. Came away feeling better, hopefully it carries on for the foreseeable future.

I spoke to my mum yesterday and she gently suggested that perhaps I go see a psychiatrist and see if there's any condition I have that can be diagnosed, she says she has noticed my unusual behavioural traits in me for years that are similar to a person we know who was recently diagnosed with Aspergers. I have thought myself about doing this sort of but the honest truth is I've been too scared, scared of discovering something about myself that I think I'd rather not know because of social stigmas. I self-diagnosed myself with bi-polar years ago because when I read up on the symptoms it seemed to really fit me, e.g. intense feelings of high and low, bad anxiety, intensely self-critical, etc. But I've also read up about something called Cyclothymia which is a more mild version and seems to fit what I go through a lot more so I'd definitely bet that's what I suffer from if anything rather than the full-blown version of the condition.

I told the doctor about me and my mum's conversation, about my behavioural traits that are a perhaps a little abnormal which leads us to believe there's something undiagnosed. I asked if perhaps I'm mildly autistic (my big fear). He said to me; "You're not autistic, not at all and I can tell you that now. From all the time I've ever spent with you I've never observed any autistic traits, for example you meet my eyes when we're talking and you're clearly concentrating fully. I would have told you years ago I perhaps thought you could be."

It was a big relief to put that fear to bed but I realise it really shouldn't even be something to be frightened/ashamed of. Everyone is born unique, it's not right to make someone feel labelled because of a condition they may or may not have.
 
PaulieMc said:
Went to see the doctor today, told him about how my past few very up and down weeks. He said I definitely should stick with my citalopram for the next few months because I've seen now what a difference going cold turkey with them can do to your moods, even when you're only on a small dosage. Came away feeling better, hopefully it carries on for the foreseeable future.

I spoke to my mum yesterday and she gently suggested that perhaps I go see a psychiatrist and see if there's any condition I have that can be diagnosed, she says she has noticed my unusual behavioural traits in me for years that are similar to a person we know who was recently diagnosed with Aspergers. I have thought myself about doing this sort of but the honest truth is I've been too scared, scared of discovering something about myself that I think I'd rather not know because of social stigmas. I self-diagnosed myself with bi-polar years ago because when I read up on the symptoms it seemed to really fit me, e.g. intense feelings of high and low, bad anxiety, intensely self-critical, etc. But I've also read up about something called Cyclothymia which is a more mild version and seems to fit what I go through a lot more so I'd definitely bet that's what I suffer from if anything rather than the full-blown version of the condition.

I told the doctor about me and my mum's conversation, about my behavioural traits that are a perhaps a little abnormal which leads us to believe there's something undiagnosed. I asked if perhaps I'm mildly autistic (my big fear). He said to me; "You're not autistic, not at all and I can tell you that now. From all the time I've ever spent with you I've never observed any autistic traits, for example you meet my eyes when we're talking and you're clearly concentrating fully. I would have told you years ago I perhaps thought you could be."

It was a big relief to put that fear to bed but I realise it really shouldn't even be something to be frightened/ashamed of. Everyone is born unique, it's not right to make someone feel labelled because of a condition they may or may not have.
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Rule number one - never self diagnose yourself mate. You're always looking for the worst scenario, rather than being objective and impartial like a professional, who has spent years and years of training.

Did you're GP recommend any form of counselling, as I reckon it would help enormously in allaying your fears, help you come to terms with what's wrong and teach you coping mechanisms ?.

Ps - you haven't gone cold turkey on the meds mate, as they aren't like that. What's happened is that you've gone from stabilising, to unstable again - chemicals in your brain out of kilter.

Get back on them asap, if you haven't already x
 
Funny old game, life.

I thought everything was perfect and now my heart's been ripped out and I stand to lose everything.

The horrible, yet familiar, anxious feeling in my heart and the pit of my stomach won't go away no matter how hard I try to be positive.

I can only compare it to the feeling of mourning a loved one.
 

larrygobfiend said:
I took someone I love dearly for granted, mate. I dropped the ball and I don't think there's any hope of her giving me a chance to make it right.

I think I lost myself over the past few months and became very cynical... I've not been my usual outgoing self for whatever reason.
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Has it been a gradual distance that has emerged over time? Are you distracted by something?
 
larrygobfiend said:
I took someone I love dearly for granted, mate. I dropped the ball and I don't think there's any hope of her giving me a chance to make it right.

I think I lost myself over the past few months and became very cynical... I've not been my usual outgoing self for whatever reason.
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Tell her that. If there was an underlying reason why you haven't been yourself, just come clean to her.

She must've loved the person you were before you changed over the past few months.
 
Durham Toffee said:
Has it been a gradual distance that has emerged over time? Are you distracted by something?
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Not really. We've been together 8 years and had a really good relationship. We never really argued or anything.

I guess things have changed since Christmas. She's got into her fitness and is away with work quite a bit.

I've thought in my head about her playing away, but she's not that kind of girl at all. But who is, I guess?

We got a mortgage together about a year and a half ago. Maybe I've just gotten a little too comfortable.

I'm a tit!
 

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