Tooley1878
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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues
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ScouseClown
Player Valuation: £25k
Been awhile since I posted but been feeling really down lately and worse than usual.
I generally feel like leaving my job and possibly claiming ESA (if it's still that) while I look for a new one. I think being there makes me feel worse than I should and it's mentally draining me. My mum thinks I need to just stick at it and don't leave until I find something else, but I just don't feel comfortable there at all, they're messing all my hours up too despite me giving them days I can and can't work. Just curious what other people would do in this situation, hand my notice in or stick at it while looking elsewhere?
I generally feel like leaving my job and possibly claiming ESA (if it's still that) while I look for a new one. I think being there makes me feel worse than I should and it's mentally draining me. My mum thinks I need to just stick at it and don't leave until I find something else, but I just don't feel comfortable there at all, they're messing all my hours up too despite me giving them days I can and can't work. Just curious what other people would do in this situation, hand my notice in or stick at it while looking elsewhere?
I don't think you can claim for a few months if you leave voluntarily mate ?.
I've always found it easier to find another job, when I was working, as you get to hear about other jobs word of mouth.
If you're not going to get ESA, you'll need to build up a few quid just to tide you over if you leave.
I'm pretty sure a lot on here have been in a similar situation, where they've hated their job and being treated badly at the same time.
If you're job is messing badly with your head it's not worth staying mate x
trebilcock66
Player Valuation: £8m
Useful 5 minute video here about depression.
http://ed.ted.com/lessons/what-is-depression-helen-m-farrell#review
http://ed.ted.com/lessons/what-is-depression-helen-m-farrell#review
Billy Dean
Player Valuation: £70m
Just been firing off some emails to Counsellors for an appointment. Feeling pretty low. I feel like I'm back on the verge of burnout. I'm not sleeping well at all. Exhausted the whole time, as if I'm on a sedative or something. Unable to do what I usually do to relieve stress (playing footie, tennis, going out on the he ale or for long walks) due to injury and spending too much time on my own. Sometimes I'm desperate for company but don't meet anyone as too tired to sit and talk to people. I feel like I might have to get myself signed off from work soon but don't want to admit defeat. Just feel like I'm wasting my life feeling like this.
Depression sucks the life out if you mate, it's a vicious circle.
Are you taking any meds ?.
If so the dosage may need tweaking to get you back on an even keel or you may need to change meds.
What injury have you got ?
Could manage swimming or an excercise bike ?.
I know it's not the same, but it's just to get those feel good chemicals back into your brain again.
Even borrow a dog if you haven't got one and take it for a gentle walk.
Don't give up mate, many on here have been exactly where you are now x
Billy Dean
Player Valuation: £70m
Thanks mate
No I'm not on meds, apart from valerian to try and help me sleep. It works occasionally, as does mindfulness, but not always. The last month or so has been quite bad. 4 hours sleep is a good night at the moment. But I think I'm gonna try some counselling before meds. I feel like I haven't got to the point where I need meds. Although something to knock me out at night would be good. The cure to all of it would just be quitting my job I think. Can't seem to do it though. Threw a big internal tantrum today over something really minor and spent the rest of the day walking round looking like I wanted to punch someone. Not good. I'm quite repressed usually so when I can't keep a lid on things then I'm not in a good place.
It's an ankle injury. Only a sprain but it's been 6 months and not healed and I've spent most of that time very inactive and I live on my own and don't have a big social network. I am allowed to cycle and do certain weights in the gym so it could be much worse and I'm probably being a bit of a drama queen. I cycle to and from work and go to the gym twice a week.
Thanks mate
No I'm not on meds, apart from valerian to try and help me sleep. It works occasionally, as does mindfulness, but not always. The last month or so has been quite bad. 4 hours sleep is a good night at the moment. But I think I'm gonna try some counselling before meds. I feel like I haven't got to the point where I need meds. Although something to knock me out at night would be good. The cure to all of it would just be quitting my job I think. Can't seem to do it though. Threw a big internal tantrum today over something really minor and spent the rest of the day walking round looking like I wanted to punch someone. Not good. I'm quite repressed usually so when I can't keep a lid on things then I'm not in a good place.
It's an ankle injury. Only a sprain but it's been 6 months and not healed and I've spent most of that time very inactive and I live on my own and don't have a big social network. I am allowed to cycle and do certain weights in the gym so it could be much worse and I'm probably being a bit of a drama queen. I cycle to and from work and go to the gym twice a week.
I've used Valerian in the past and I found that it works for a while, then your body gets used to it and you need to keep upping the dose to get the same effects - not good.
I've suffered sleep problems for well over a decade due to anxiety and the biggest thing that made a difference for me was a sleep mask - seriously.
Make your room as dark as possible - blackout blinds, heavy curtains, take out anything that makes a noise and don't have anything electrical switched on - it's reckoned that electrical currents mess up sleep.
Add a sleep mask on top, so your sleeping in total silence and pitch blackness.
The first time I used one, I went from 4hrs sleep a night to 6 in one go.
I felt drunk from sleep the first morning I woke up.
@chicoazul whats the name of that mind thing you recommend?
Yogi
Player Valuation: £500k
Not sure if its been posted but this local lad is apparently setting up an app to make it easy for people to find help when they need it most? Not checked it out but thought it may be worth posting and if it helps one person, then thats brilliant. Mods can remove this if its not appropriate
http://www.liverpoolecho.co.uk/news...de-attempt-survivor-launches-nations-13285504
http://www.liverpoolecho.co.uk/news...de-attempt-survivor-launches-nations-13285504
Magnesium citrate, its good stuff. Go easy at first until your stomach gets used to it. Also tart cherry is really good for sleep. Both are natural which is sound as sleep is not be messed with by pharmaceuticals for too long.Thanks mate
No I'm not on meds, apart from valerian to try and help me sleep. It works occasionally, as does mindfulness, but not always. The last month or so has been quite bad. 4 hours sleep is a good night at the moment. But I think I'm gonna try some counselling before meds. I feel like I haven't got to the point where I need meds. Although something to knock me out at night would be good. The cure to all of it would just be quitting my job I think. Can't seem to do it though. Threw a big internal tantrum today over something really minor and spent the rest of the day walking round looking like I wanted to punch someone. Not good. I'm quite repressed usually so when I can't keep a lid on things then I'm not in a good place.
It's an ankle injury. Only a sprain but it's been 6 months and not healed and I've spent most of that time very inactive and I live on my own and don't have a big social network. I am allowed to cycle and do certain weights in the gym so it could be much worse and I'm probably being a bit of a drama queen. I cycle to and from work and go to the gym twice a week.
If you find yourself waking up in the middle of the night then look up simple breathing exercises and try that. Works for me nearly every time and I suffered with sleep for too long.
Thing is it will can get better and will get better so rest easy in that knowledge.
It's been a strange few weeks, head has been in a very confused space and the clogs have been turning at rapid pace.
My insecurities had reached fever pitch and I was desperate to get some sort of idea of where things are heading. I decided to take the out of the box step of having a tarot card reading for the first time ever in order to try and make so some sense of myself and of the future. I know a lot of people don't believe in that sort of thing but I decided have an open mind and give it a try, I spoke to friends who'd had it done who told me it was a positive experience for them.
I went to see a chap who did my reading and he was lovely. His first question was after he held my hand;
"This is about a relationships isn't it? A specific girl you have your eye on but don't know how to approach. You're scared." He then accurately described someone I know and quite fancy. I hadn't told him anything about that but that was exactly what my anxieties have been over the past while. That's either the flukiest cold reading ever or he's scored some definite credibility points.
You choose 1 small card to begin with that stays folded over, the you pick 3 more which stay folded over too, then 16 more.
We turned 16 cards over and went through them, I can't remember most of them specifically but the supposed meaning behind them made a lot of sense in regards to myself and my life situation. I told him about my problems with anxieties and constant worries and struggles with self-confidence. We then went over the 3 turned over cards that are meant to represent Past, Present, and Future.
My Past card was The Hanged Man. The card can supposedly mean several different things depending on how it's drawn out. Mine came out upright (so it looks like he's standing up and balancing on one leg) which he said is a good thing, it means I'm a person who can accomplish anything as long as I set my mind to it and that's been the case all along.
The Present card was the Tower. This supposedly means a big decision is coming that I will make that will result in me throwing away something and start afresh with something else, it could be anything from my job to my attitude to relationships with certain people.
The Future card was the most interesteing. He braced me before he flipped it over and reminded me of what the main reason for me coming was (relationships). He flipped over the card and it was the Lovers. Basically, what I want is there for me just as long as I believe in myself and tell myself I am good enough to go for it, that I can achieve things instead of being defeatist.
The final card, which was the first one I'd chosen, was then flipped over and it was Forgiveness. He asked me to read the little message on the card which basically said you should forgive yourself for anything that has caused you to hate yourself or your life, the past is the past and it can't be changed. It's time to embrace the future and make it bright.
I came away with even more questions but with less anxiety. It was the confidence boost I needed, even if none of what he described actually comes to pass. Who knows, maybe it will come to pass, but only because I know have the confidence take the steps required ensure it all does.
My insecurities had reached fever pitch and I was desperate to get some sort of idea of where things are heading. I decided to take the out of the box step of having a tarot card reading for the first time ever in order to try and make so some sense of myself and of the future. I know a lot of people don't believe in that sort of thing but I decided have an open mind and give it a try, I spoke to friends who'd had it done who told me it was a positive experience for them.
I went to see a chap who did my reading and he was lovely. His first question was after he held my hand;
"This is about a relationships isn't it? A specific girl you have your eye on but don't know how to approach. You're scared." He then accurately described someone I know and quite fancy. I hadn't told him anything about that but that was exactly what my anxieties have been over the past while. That's either the flukiest cold reading ever or he's scored some definite credibility points.
You choose 1 small card to begin with that stays folded over, the you pick 3 more which stay folded over too, then 16 more.
We turned 16 cards over and went through them, I can't remember most of them specifically but the supposed meaning behind them made a lot of sense in regards to myself and my life situation. I told him about my problems with anxieties and constant worries and struggles with self-confidence. We then went over the 3 turned over cards that are meant to represent Past, Present, and Future.
My Past card was The Hanged Man. The card can supposedly mean several different things depending on how it's drawn out. Mine came out upright (so it looks like he's standing up and balancing on one leg) which he said is a good thing, it means I'm a person who can accomplish anything as long as I set my mind to it and that's been the case all along.
The Present card was the Tower. This supposedly means a big decision is coming that I will make that will result in me throwing away something and start afresh with something else, it could be anything from my job to my attitude to relationships with certain people.
The Future card was the most interesteing. He braced me before he flipped it over and reminded me of what the main reason for me coming was (relationships). He flipped over the card and it was the Lovers. Basically, what I want is there for me just as long as I believe in myself and tell myself I am good enough to go for it, that I can achieve things instead of being defeatist.
The final card, which was the first one I'd chosen, was then flipped over and it was Forgiveness. He asked me to read the little message on the card which basically said you should forgive yourself for anything that has caused you to hate yourself or your life, the past is the past and it can't be changed. It's time to embrace the future and make it bright.
I came away with even more questions but with less anxiety. It was the confidence boost I needed, even if none of what he described actually comes to pass. Who knows, maybe it will come to pass, but only because I know have the confidence take the steps required ensure it all does.
Re. Your 'sprained ankle'. Sounds like it could be a bit more than that if it hasn't cleared up after six months. I had summat similar and was eventually sent for a CT scan which diagnosed that l had actually torn the major of the two tendons servicing the outer lower leg/ankle. The specialist showed me the scan and you could clearly see how the tendon was barely attached. Was told l could either have a repair done (which he wasnt too keen on, surprisingly) or to allow the minor tendon - the smaller of the two - to take up the slack. Opted for the latter option and unbelievably within a matter of only a few weeks the pain and instability in the ankle dissipated. Mind you, l had been suffering with the problem for a bit longer than you have but if the problem is similar it could well be that yours will go the same way but may take time. Just be careful not to place too much undue stress on your ankle as it does take time to resolve.Thanks mate
No I'm not on meds, apart from valerian to try and help me sleep. It works occasionally, as does mindfulness, but not always. The last month or so has been quite bad. 4 hours sleep is a good night at the moment. But I think I'm gonna try some counselling before meds. I feel like I haven't got to the point where I need meds. Although something to knock me out at night would be good. The cure to all of it would just be quitting my job I think. Can't seem to do it though. Threw a big internal tantrum today over something really minor and spent the rest of the day walking round looking like I wanted to punch someone. Not good. I'm quite repressed usually so when I can't keep a lid on things then I'm not in a good place.
It's an ankle injury. Only a sprain but it's been 6 months and not healed and I've spent most of that time very inactive and I live on my own and don't have a big social network. I am allowed to cycle and do certain weights in the gym so it could be much worse and I'm probably being a bit of a drama queen. I cycle to and from work and go to the gym twice a week.
Billy Dean
Player Valuation: £70m
I've got some Mag Citrate at home. My chemist gave it me for muscle fatigue. What dose do you take?
Yes trying not to mate - it's hard to find the right balance. Could be worse though so I shouldn't complain. I have had a couple of scans on it. Thankfully no tendon damage. Just some bruised bones, a torn ligament and synovitis
