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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

efcforever said:
Had my 2nd councilling session yesterday. Went well, she's given me a few things to work on. It's about retraining my mind, my mind has worked a certain way for a long time so it needs retraining on certain things.

She compared it to going to the gym once a month and expecting to get fit. It's hard work to change your thought processes but it can be done with a lot of effort.
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Good for you mate.

Remember you get out if it what you put in, so don't feel embarrassed about opening up.

The more info they have, the more they can help you.

You'll know when it's starting to help, as you'll walk out and feel "nofmal " again.

Keep us posted mate ;)
 
Feeling like I'm a bad person again when rationally I know I've done nothing wrong. HATE this Feeling!

Things were so clear when talking to my councillor 48 hours ago.

I guess I've just got to keep working at things. I'm told that it takes around 40 days to retrain your mind/change your thought process.
 
efcforever said:
Feeling like I'm a bad person again when rationally I know I've done nothing wrong. HATE this Feeling!

Things were so clear when talking to my councillor 48 hours ago.

I guess I've just got to keep working at things. I'm told that it takes around 40 days to retrain your mind/change your thought process.
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It's a good thing that you're noticing and able to recognise that what you're feeling is a negative thought rather than sinking into a really bad place and allowing those thoughts to take over.

I went through dialectical behaviour therapy last year and my therapist highlighted this a lot and that therapy doesn't really remove issues or bad feeling but helps you deal with problems or feeling bad in a better way. Also to recognise when it's the 'negative voice inside' skewing reality.
 

Hey guys, not meaning to trivialise some of the issues being discussed here but I thought I had clicked on the 'New stadium discussion' and i was a full page and a half in thinking 'my god this thread has taken a dark turn'!

On topic, it is easy when you are being marginalised to think the obvious reason os that it must be something wrong with you? Obvious really? It cant be everyone else is wrong and you are right?

The thing is it most definitely can be that! People are in spite of everything, pack animals. If one member of the pack starts to be picked on or shunned by some of the pack, the rest of the pack will often follow blindly and join in without ever really knowing why! If you can taken any small comfort in that please do, sometimes it is the little crumbs of comfort that keep us going :)
 
Read that BBC article on the fella from the states who shot the poor victims at the batman viewing. A lot of what was said I could definitely relate to this line.

I have become fatter, ‘flatter’, dumber, number. Less tearful, yes. Unfortunately, less of everything. The sunset and the beach no longer lift my spirits.”
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And this 100%

She continues: “I sit through church service and sift through the Bible, uninspired. I’m fuzzy. Weird dreams. Crying used to be a release. Now I cannot cry, or laugh. I hate this feeling.”
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http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/resources/idt-sh/aurora_shooting
 

EFCPaul said:
Having a bit of strange night, maybe I'm overthinking and overreacting as I often do. I hate how something so small can seem so big to me, it ruins my moods.
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Try doing something else to distract your mind for a bit.

I know it's easier said than done, but if you can read a book, watch a film or do something else to flick your brain onto a different path then it can just get it out of your head for a bit, especially at this time of night. Or do something totally different and try and teach yourself a foreign language. Sounds daft I know, but while your brain's trying to work out how to say something in a different tongue, then it doesn't have time to be anxious about stuff !

Another tack ( though probably not at past midnight ! ) is to find a way of emptying your mind by doing something fairly mundane, could be housework or going for a run. If it's available near you and you havn't already tried it, give mindfulness sessions a go. Yoga and meditation work for some folk as well.
 
NCLBlue said:
One you will probably all relate to!

Coming up with a 'viable' physical excuse (stomach pain, the trots, flu) for being off sick for a few days with mental health/stress symptoms.

Hope you all have a cracking day :)
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Yeah, been there....but it is not a good 'habit' to get in to. It provides a temporary fix but you still have to face your anxieties at some point and are just putting things off.

I know it is far from easy but after many years of constant worrying about - in the main - trivialities in life it took the breakdown of my marriage twelve months ago to sort out my mind. Don't get me wrong, I was in a dark place for several months having moved out of the family home but aside from having the first two days off work and speaking to my GP who offered to sign me off for a couple of weeks I just bit the bullet, refused and got back into my work. It was very hard but I just knew that sitting alone, ruminating and (most likely) drinking would drive me down into a deeper, darker hole.

I am not trying to suggest this is the answer for everybody but sometimes we have to look beyond the moment and think about the future because believe me the sun will still come up tomorrow and the world will still continue spinning. There are good people out there who are prepared to give you a lift through your woes but you need to invite them in and hiding away will not help.

I cannot impress upon anyone enough the need to talk, talk, talk. Don't be ashamed - you can rest assure that literally everyone on this planet will face trauma of some sort in their lives. It is just a case of how each of us deal with it and that, I am afraid, is something that we need to learn for ourselves but bottling up those anxieties and fears is definitely not the way to do it.
 
My sleep always suffered if I'm stressed. Then it creates a cycle where I'm tired and stressed. Then I'm sat up dreading sleep or waking up in the middle of the night as my body lashed cortisol around my system.

Everyone is different but what works for me is to identify it and put actions in place. Alcohol is out the window, I eat very healthy, go the gym often, I turn off all electrical screens at 9pm and practice more mindfulness. Ask any of my mates and they'd say I'd be the last person who'd have a go at mindfulness but I tried it and it works. I'd urge many of you to have a go at the starter for ten from Headspace. Either on the app or website.

It's my way of staying away from tablets. Won't work for everyone but it's worth a go isn't it?
 

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