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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

chrismpw said:
Don't obsess over kopites, they're not worth your time. Honestly, never bother about anything anybody says, unless it comes from somebody whom you value, or who have earned your trust. Certainly don't bite with the wums they have, if you can't handle it, just rise above it.
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I try not to, it's just this one guy. I've been obsessed with him for years.
 
I have an obsessive personality and I tend to fixate on certain people. Usually older men. It may be a BPD thing as I tend to put people on a pedestal and the minute they do something that upsets me, I go the opposite extreme.
 
shackattack said:
girlfriend suffers from bi polar, spent last week arguing and fighting- literally. something i never ever said in my life i would resort to. sees no rational , manic peaks and troughs, am no saint but very hard to live with. the slightest slight results in a huge argument, getting me down myself and i know two depressive people together is not ideal. i am usually a very positive person but it's very hard to be around such negativity
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Hey hope all works out.

I suffer from bipolar II AKA hypomania. I know my condition has been very hard on those around me which has given me a huge amount of guilt to deal with.

CBT and meds have helped a lot but there are limits. The way the illness has ravaged my career, finances, and relationships has created its own set of problems.

BP is for life (as it stands) and we don't exactly make for good partners. Not trying to sound cruel but realize being with her will require a huge commitment
 

goodisonopheliac said:
I have an obsessive personality and I tend to fixate on certain people. Usually older men. It may be a BPD thing as I tend to put people on a pedestal and the minute they do something that upsets me, I go the opposite extreme.
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No one person deserves to be in a pedestal. We are all worthy, and all flawed. Also, to obsess on another is to neglect one's self and others.

It is good that you are aware of the trait. The trick may be to remind yourself of the fact, and question yourself, ask yourself are you heading to an extreme before acting.
 
GwladysBlue said:
What’s causing you the anxiety, mate?
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Ive had some health problems (thankfully nothing life threatening) over the last month or so. Had to have an operation etc. I'm even scared to post what the problems were in case someone posts something related to it that sets me off lol

I'm doing lots of googling and convincing myself of the worst possible problems, finding it difficult to trust doctors opinions and just obsessing over everything. Then there are obviously physical symptoms of anxiety and then that feeds into the vicious cycle. I live in Germany and my mums been looking after me the last month or so. She leaves tomorrow and I'm dreading it.

I've only just realized that this is actually a condition called health anxiety. I've found a fact sheet about it on the nhs with some self help exercises. Just reading through it has soothed everything a bit. I'm gonna spend tomorrow doing the exercises. That should get me through tomorrow until I can get to my GP on tues.
 
Billy Dean said:
Ive had some health problems (thankfully nothing life threatening) over the last month or so. Had to have an operation etc. I'm even scared to post what the problems were in case someone posts something related to it that sets me off lol

I'm doing lots of googling and convincing myself of the worst possible problems, finding it difficult to trust doctors opinions and just obsessing over everything. Then there are obviously physical symptoms of anxiety and then that feeds into the vicious cycle. I live in Germany and my mums been looking after me the last month or so. She leaves tomorrow and I'm dreading it.

I've only just realized that this is actually a condition called health anxiety. I've found a fact sheet about it on the nhs with some self help exercises. Just reading through it has soothed everything a bit. I'm gonna spend tomorrow doing the exercises. That should get me through tomorrow until I can get to my GP on tues.
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Heath anxiety is horrible, I’ve carried this burden myself.

For a start, stop using Google to self diagnose. No good comes of Google, you won’t be happy until you find something on there that convinces you that you’re seriously ill.

In counselling, an exercise I had to do regarding anxiety was to write down the worst possible case that I was anxious over and believe it had happened.

Sit with this scenario over a period of time and you will notice that your anxiety levels will decrease.

In the meantime, enjoy your mum being with you for NYE.

Also, well done for going to your GP.

I wish you, and everybody else, a happy and healthy new year.
 
GwladysBlue said:
Heath anxiety is horrible, I’ve carried this burden myself.

For a start, stop using Google to self diagnose. No good comes of Google, you won’t be happy until you find something on there that convinces you that you’re seriously ill.

In counselling, an exercise I had to do regarding anxiety was to write down the worst possible case that I was anxious over and believe it had happened.

Sit with this scenario over a period of time and you will notice that your anxiety levels will decrease.

In the meantime, enjoy your mum being with you for NYE.

Also, well done for going to your GP.

I wish you, and everybody else, a happy and healthy new year.
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Thanks mate, same to you.

Yes I'm trying not to look at google today, other than for health anxiety self help exercises.

I guess the worst possible case for me in this case would be getting hospitalized with a serious illness. Would that still count as something to sit with do you reckon?
 

Billy Dean said:
Thanks mate, same to you.

Yes I'm trying not to look at google today, other than for health anxiety self help exercises.

I guess the worst possible case for me in this case would be getting hospitalized with a serious illness. Would that still count as something to sit with do you reckon?
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Yeah, definitely.

Imagine that you are seriously ill and you will be hospitalised. Every bad thought you have in your head regarding this has came true.

Make up a scenario to fit it into a narrative. E.g. you’re sitting down to watch some tele and you begin to feel unwell. This escalates and lands you in the hospital with a serious illness.

Write this down and/or record yourself saying this. Carry on playing it or reading it out. Think my counsellor said do it for 30 minutes.

Give your anxiety a score out of ten at the start of you doing this and then give your anxiety a score at the end of the 30 minute period.

Your anxiety levels should gradually start to decrease. Nobody can stay 100% anxious for every minute given.

I hope this helps you out, mate;)
 
GwladysBlue said:
Yeah, definitely.

Imagine that you are seriously ill and you will be hospitalised. Every bad thought you have in your head regarding this has came true.

Make up a scenario to fit it into a narrative. E.g. you’re sitting down to watch some tele and you begin to feel unwell. This escalates and lands you in the hospital with a serious illness.

Write this down and/or record yourself saying this. Carry on playing it or reading it out. Think my counsellor said do it for 30 minutes.

Give your anxiety a score out of ten at the start of you doing this and then give your anxiety a score at the end of the 30 minute period.

Your anxiety levels should gradually start to decrease. Nobody can stay 100% anxious for every minute given.

I hope this helps you out, mate;)
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Thanks mate I'll give it a try. Quite scary though
 
Billy Dean said:
Thanks mate I'll give it a try. Quite scary though
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Hi mate, have a look at the NHS run forum - Mentalhealth.net

You have to join, same as here.

You`ll find a thread on there relating to your condition and talk to others who have similar problems or similar.

Its a great site and as a long term anxiety sufferer I`ve found it very helpful in the past.
 
How is everyone? Not a fan of new year's eve myself. I'll be glad to get to bed tonight.

I've been feeling pretty good recently. Decided to come round to my parent's for a few hours. One comment from my dad can bring me crashing down to rock bottom. He decided to jokingly remind me of an incident when I was a teenager when he nearly 'decked' me.

I feel that our relationship has been strained in the past due to his drinking. He's now been sober for about 6 years. I've tried to make the effort but still feel uncomfortable around him.

I tried speaking to my counsellor about it but couldn't make any progress.
 

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