Toffee-nerd
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Thanks mate.
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I am very lucky to be blessed (at present) with good mental health, though I'm aware enough to realise that illness can strike anybody at any time. Although not a contributor to the thread, I do find myself browsing regularly.
I am in awe at the levels of support and advice offered by the regular contributors, many of whom have had, or still have, problems of their own to deal with.
Kudos to Groucho for starting this wonderful thread and to ALL it's contributors over the years.
I would just like to wish you ALL a happier and healthier 2018.
You are ALL true stars.
I am in awe at the levels of support and advice offered by the regular contributors, many of whom have had, or still have, problems of their own to deal with.
Kudos to Groucho for starting this wonderful thread and to ALL it's contributors over the years.
I would just like to wish you ALL a happier and healthier 2018.
You are ALL true stars.
Yeah mate, had a few months of this a while back. I won't go into details but it was probably the worst time of my life.
Best advice is simple. Do not google !
Maybe you need to give up the booze altogether mate. Not easy but there is a lot of help there and if it's causing a lot of problems it might be the best solution.
Billy Dean
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Thanks mate. Yeah I'm not feeling too clever at the moment to be honest. Trying to stay off of Google as much as I can until I get to my GP tomorrow.
A good GP helps. Mine is terrific and had no qualms telling me to wake up to myself (in a nice way)
Toffee-nerd
Player Valuation: £20m
Thanks mate. Yeah I'm thinking the same.
GwladysBlue
Player Valuation: £70m
I binge drink massively and tend to always regret it. Best thing to do is to try and have some water after every third drink.
Also, this is the drink still talking. It knocks the chemicals in your brain out of sync. In reality, things won't be as bad as they seem to you right now. You'll feel so much better and think more logically when the chemicals level themselves out.
I do it myself, fear that I've done something absolutely terrible. I'd convince myself that I have.
If you're a good person out of drink, more than likely you'll be a good person in it.
Try not to overthink your situation, mate.
efcforever
Player Valuation: £10m
Happy New Year everyone, I hope everyone reading this is with their loved ones and feeling okay.
2017 was a far better than 2016 even if there were a few big bumps along the way (there always are). For me it started off mediocre, went absolutely awful during the middle, then rocketed up as the summer closed out before pretty much plateuing all over again as we got towards the end. Overall, a 7.5/10 I think which is a great result considering how low I was at one point.
Life still isn't easy, I still haven't made the type of progress I'd really like too in certain areas but do feel I've made a huge amount of progress in other areas. Got a far better job with far nicer people, have met some new friends socially and managed to cut out some really bad things that were playing a big part in dragging me down.
Goal for 2018 is simply build on this year and keep leaving the crap stuff behind. I'll probably have more blips and face more rubbish situations but hopefully last year's experiences have better equipped me to deal with them.
Again, Happy New Year everyone. Stay safe, healthy and hopeful. I'm always around to talk if anyone needs an ear.
Getting away from your old job was a great step mate. Just keep going and things will click into place. There'll be low points a long the way but there always is for all of us.
Happy new year!
I done it with gambling. It consumed me. Was a different person when I was at it. Changed my personality and nearly 5 years since a bet it's still affecting me. But things in that aspect of my life are so much better
efcforever
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Don't be too hard on yourself mate. There'll be plenty waking up this morning with sore heads who owe someone an apology after the night's exploits. It was NYE and we've all done it before.
When I've upset my wife I sneak off and get something nice in for tea. Don't tell her I'm doing it, just start getting it ready. Really go all out, and do 3 courses or something. Usually works. Even if she doesn't forgive you right away she'll see that you're making an effort.
shackattack
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not been together that long, less than a year. am committed but nothing i say or do convinces her otherwise. the violence is a new thing, putting up with it condones it in my view. am a big lad and don't want to crack her back but have had to restrain her which is bad enough. so draining emotionally for both, we snap so easy it's so sad as have had some lovely times but the peaks and troughs are cavernous. my own mental health is suffering and am not normally like that
goodisonopheliac
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My mum goes to AA and it's helped her a lot, BUT she has gone through a few groups before finding the right mix of people.
Do you know what triggers a binge? Like, do you binge drink when you're upset about something, or do you just not know when to stop if you're on a night out or whatever and you're on the ale?
Toffee-nerd
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I just take it too far on nights out and don't know when to stop. It's the first time I've done it for about a year and a half so I'm pretty down about it and disappoint in myself. When it happens its like a switch goes off and I just turn into a tool and become very self destructive and angry towards people. Never physical. I normally don't remember it but on nye I remember the whole episode and yeah it's just not good. Not good for the people around me or for me. I think going forward the best things for me is to just sack off drinking, since a teenager it's been an unhealthy relationship with alcohol. Because I don't drink much very often, it's just these massive benders it shouldn't impact my life too much I just need to be disciplined when I go out and stick to the sodas.
FC sexy xxx
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i rarely drink now but your NYE experience has been a regular part of my life for nearly 20 years . Because I don’t drink often now i only lose control on the booze maybe 3 times a year but it used to be a LOT more . My issue is I drink too quick and can put away a lot and mean a lot of beer and shorts quick which is a disaster . I do it because I’m uncomfortable in social situations but it just makes me depressed for a week after . I avoid it as much as possible now but as I say I still mess up when I don’t expect too . Some of the cocks ups ive made on the ale make me cringe but they’re in the past , though that doesn’t make it easy in the days straight after the incidents
I realise having discipline on the drink is so hard especially if you have a mental illness Because someone mentally unwell already has a chemical imbalance due to meds and the illness itself so ale just exacerbates everything.
My answer is to avoid social situations but by doing that it’s not healthy I’m itself to isolate myself .
Good luck . I’ll stop waffling a load of nonsense now