Billy Dean
Player Valuation: £70m
Thanks mate I’ll check that out
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Hope everyone Is good tonight. It can be a tough and lonely night. I know I'm struggling with it anyway. Think avoiding social media tonight would be a better move. Looking at people with their so called perfect lives.
I hope 2018 will bring more happiness and clarity anyway
I hope 2018 will bring more happiness and clarity anyway
roydo
in memoriam - 1965-2024
Mate, despite the persona that some put up, no one has a perfect life. (especially those who lob that persona up. Its a show). Be happy as you can be in your own skin, and tell the world to do one. I did. Its ace. Happy New Year.
Oh I know they don't mate. But looking at it at times would get you down.
Thanks for the advice though. Happy new year too
roydo
in memoriam - 1965-2024
I feel sorry for them. Living a lie. But its NYE, so Happy New Year to you and yours too mate.
Console yourself with the thought that the likes of Facebook, is just a platform for the insecure, the attention seekers, along with assorted full on nutters, bigots and extremists.
As the legendary Public Enemy once said, don`t believe the hype.
Check out @AaronLennon12’s Tweet:
I hope 2018 is kind to us all here. Yet if it isnt, may we gain the strength to deal with whatever it chucks at us...and welly it right over the stand.
Glad that year is over tbh. Both my father and my father in law were diagnosed with bowel and prostate cancer respectively. Both doing well thankfully since treatment.
I've had my own health issue as well in 2017 and while in the greater scheme of things relatively minor, it has caused me to take stock.
I've always found great solace in reading this thread - although contributing little to it I've always considered it the most important thread on the site.
I've had my own health issue as well in 2017 and while in the greater scheme of things relatively minor, it has caused me to take stock.
I've always found great solace in reading this thread - although contributing little to it I've always considered it the most important thread on the site.
Happy New Year everyone, I hope everyone reading this is with their loved ones and feeling okay.
2017 was a far better than 2016 even if there were a few big bumps along the way (there always are). For me it started off mediocre, went absolutely awful during the middle, then rocketed up as the summer closed out before pretty much plateuing all over again as we got towards the end. Overall, a 7.5/10 I think which is a great result considering how low I was at one point.
Life still isn't easy, I still haven't made the type of progress I'd really like too in certain areas but do feel I've made a huge amount of progress in other areas. Got a far better job with far nicer people, have met some new friends socially and managed to cut out some really bad things that were playing a big part in dragging me down.
Goal for 2018 is simply build on this year and keep leaving the crap stuff behind. I'll probably have more blips and face more rubbish situations but hopefully last year's experiences have better equipped me to deal with them.
Again, Happy New Year everyone. Stay safe, healthy and hopeful. I'm always around to talk if anyone needs an ear.
2017 was a far better than 2016 even if there were a few big bumps along the way (there always are). For me it started off mediocre, went absolutely awful during the middle, then rocketed up as the summer closed out before pretty much plateuing all over again as we got towards the end. Overall, a 7.5/10 I think which is a great result considering how low I was at one point.
Life still isn't easy, I still haven't made the type of progress I'd really like too in certain areas but do feel I've made a huge amount of progress in other areas. Got a far better job with far nicer people, have met some new friends socially and managed to cut out some really bad things that were playing a big part in dragging me down.
Goal for 2018 is simply build on this year and keep leaving the crap stuff behind. I'll probably have more blips and face more rubbish situations but hopefully last year's experiences have better equipped me to deal with them.
Again, Happy New Year everyone. Stay safe, healthy and hopeful. I'm always around to talk if anyone needs an ear.
Billy Dean
Player Valuation: £70m
I could say very similar for myself about 2017 mate. All the best, hope 2018 will be much better for you.
Toffee-nerd
Player Valuation: £20m
I've had a really bad night. Got way too drunk and have hurt my missus who I am blessed with and love dearly. Can feel the start of a cycle starting today with the guilt and shame, low self esteem because of my behaviour. I know my mental health issues are exacerbated by alcohol but it's been a good year where I felt in control of it. I just went too far last night and feel like I have to start all over again. Do any of you have advise for binge drinking and how to not do it? It's so ingrained in Society but it's not good for me. I'd never forgive myself if I mess my relationship up. I know I need to stop drinking to the extent I do but how do you do it? Please help me blues.
Billy Dean
Player Valuation: £70m
Hi mate, I used to have some bad binges when I was younger. In the end I went teetotal for a few years and when I came back to drinking I was older and more sensible (and had lower tolerance) so found myself naturally much less likely to binge. I don't know if that would be a realistic option for you. I found when I was younger even when I had the best intentions not to binge then my friends would always encourage me so it was practically impossible to just have a quite 2 or 3 drinks. I'd always end up with a shot or this or that put in front of me whether I liked it or not. In the end I ended up gravitating away from them and finding new friends. Then I moved to Germany where the drinking culture is very different. People still go out and get bladdered but it's not the ultimate goal of the night out and if you're not up for a skin full then you don't get made a social outcast for it.
That's what worked for me but going teetotal, changing friends and moving abroad might not be that practical for you. If none of those are realistic, have you tried talking with your mates about it? Explain how it makes you feel and ask for their support? Have you explored counselling options? A lot of counsellors offer sessions for things like that. Have you got any friends that don't drink heavily and could you spend more time with them?
Also look at the positives. You've had a good year and been in control and then went too far on NYE. I'm sure you're far from the only person thinking that this morning. And make sure you let your girlfriend know this morning how much you love her
Toffee-nerd
Player Valuation: £20m
Thank you so much. I've moved country just this year to be with my missus. She barely drinks at all which is good for me but there's a lot of similarities in her friends and mine back in the UK. The whole binge culture thing. But yeah I'm not blaming anyone else for it, they all manage to have a good night and not behave like plonkers. I spoke to the missus today about my depression and anxiety issues which trigger the drinking but the drinking also triggers the issues. I've never told anyone about them before, not even my mum and Dad, I just felt ashamed of it. On here and with a counsellor I had a few years ago are literally the only places I've spoken about it. Maybe I'm in denial of it all I don't know. I just feel a bit lost today, like I've gone back 2 years. Thanks for your advise, I will definitely try see a counsellor again as that really helped me last time.Hi mate, I used to have some bad binges when I was younger. In the end I went teetotal for a few years and when I came back to drinking I was older and more sensible (and had lower tolerance) so found myself naturally much less likely to binge. I don't know if that would be a realistic option for you. I found when I was younger even when I had the best intentions not to binge then my friends would always encourage me so it was practically impossible to just have a quite 2 or 3 drinks. I'd always end up with a shot or this or that put in front of me whether I liked it or not. In the end I ended up gravitating away from them and finding new friends. Then I moved to Germany where the drinking culture is very different. People still go out and get bladdered but it's not the ultimate goal of the night out and if you're not up for a skin full then you don't get made a social outcast for it.
That's what worked for me but going teetotal, changing friends and moving abroad might not be that practical for you. If none of those are realistic, have you tried talking with your mates about it? Explain how it makes you feel and ask for their support? Have you explored counselling options? A lot of counsellors offer sessions for things like that. Have you got any friends that don't drink heavily and could you spend more time with them?
Also look at the positives. You've had a good year and been in control and then went too far on NYE. I'm sure you're far from the only person thinking that this morning. And make sure you let your girlfriend know this morning how much you love her
Billy Dean
Player Valuation: £70m
Good stuff mate. Good that you told her and good for getting counselling if you need it. Also, when your hangover has worn off you'll probably be able to see it in a more positive way and kinder to yourself, i.e. that you went too far but had had a good year apart from that. And yeah it is a vicious cycle with the anxiety and depression. I find that on the very rare occasions when I go above 3-4 pints these days, it's usually because I'm feeling anxious about something whether it's the people I'm with or something else going on.