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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

Nearly 3 years on from first going to the dr’s with depression and anxiety and still it’s not sorted . It’s a heavy weight to carry round . And I feel sorry for anyone close to me who has to put up with my miserable mood and vibes .

I’d rather have a broken leg than this crap it’s torture .

Supposed to be going for a family meal tonight with my brother and his family and I’m dreading it .
 
FC sexy xxx said:
Nearly 3 years on from first going to the dr’s with depression and anxiety and still it’s not sorted . It’s a heavy weight to carry round . And I feel sorry for anyone close to me who has to put up with my miserable mood and vibes .

I’d rather have a broken leg than this crap it’s torture .

Supposed to be going for a family meal tonight with my brother and his family and I’m dreading it .
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The build is always worse than the event mate.

You get yourself that wound up beforehand, panicking about non existent stuff.

Tell yourself that it's only for a few hours and you can do it ;)
 

How do people move on here? Im 40 next year I can't move on from several things that happened during my teen years and possibly before. I always say I feel young but I think it's because im stuck. Sorry this makes little sense but someone may relate
 
witchdoc187 said:
How do people move on here? Im 40 next year I can't move on from several things that happened during my teen years and possibly before. I always say I feel young but I think it's because im stuck. Sorry this makes little sense but someone may relate
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Exactly the same, and age! I’ve begun to accept what happens as a path of rites almost - I’m sure you have some blinding successes in your life that you may use to try and paper over them?

I know I do.
 
Bryan said:
Exactly the same, and age! I’ve begun to accept what happens as a path of rites almost - I’m sure you have some blinding successes in your life that you may use to try and paper over them?

I know I do.
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It's funny mate because from the outside people would say im a success in many ways nothing big like but just life in general. Often seen as level headed and voice of reason. But from the inside I just can't recognise or accept it. Many many small victories but always focus on my weaknesses. It's mad that I know it too but often focus on the negative.
 
Bryan said:
Exactly the same, and age! I’ve begun to accept what happens as a path of rites almost - I’m sure you have some blinding successes in your life that you may use to try and paper over them?

I know I do.
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Also recently started drinking a lot. Just to block out reality. When actually the reality should be embraced. Roll on dry January and moments of clarity and self confidence
 
hallamblue said:
Update on mum. She's had a tracheostomy but has started doing some breathing on her own. We've said we will have Christmas in summer, fingers crossed she will make a good recovery.
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Great news that.

witchdoc187 said:
Also recently started drinking a lot. Just to block out reality. When actually the reality should be embraced. Roll on dry January and moments of clarity and self confidence
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Drink can be a crutch to lean on occasionally, but you already know that it's not the answer. If it's causing more problems than it's solving, then try just knocking it on the head.

FC sexy xxx said:
Nearly 3 years on from first going to the dr’s with depression and anxiety and still it’s not sorted . It’s a heavy weight to carry round . And I feel sorry for anyone close to me who has to put up with my miserable mood and vibes .

I’d rather have a broken leg than this crap it’s torture .

Supposed to be going for a family meal tonight with my brother and his family and I’m dreading it .
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How did the meal go mate ?
 

Woolly Blue said:
Great news that.



Drink can be a crutch to lean on occasionally, but you already know that it's not the answer. If it's causing more problems than it's solving, then try just knocking it on the head.



How did the meal go mate ?
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It was ok mate but I can’t get my head round the mood swings and wanting to isolate myself all the time . It’s starting to wear me down tbh .
 
wgtwiddle said:
The Assassin's Creed reference goes over my head but not the one relating to ruminations. Not a clue what the answer is, or if there is one, but I try to ignore them and carry on regardless. My future self needs to have good memories to look back on so I try to compartmentalise it. Ok, I'm having such thoughts, no idea why but if I do 'x' then by the end of the day i will have done 'x', something beneficial. I'm sure you get my drift.

This resonated with me ... http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-5075829/Why-know-happiness-wrong.html
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Thanks for reading and taking the time to reply
I know exactly what you mean. It's hard to do that, stay in the now.

As far as the ruminations go there is no exact answer. It's just what works best for you. I know why they've kicked off I lost both nans this year and my uncle passed aswell.
It starts innocently enough I sat there rememberin the good times. But when you've trained your brain to bypass any positive thought for a negative version that supercedes the process.

When Im busy I don't do it at all. So I try to keep myself like that. But all that does is create a mental dam that breaks as so as you sit down.

A funny one is low blood sugar, when you get up you naturally have less so you feel bad and your though process responds accordingly. So I have a routine for when I get up, I distract myself until I've eaten. The amount of arguments I've had with people before 10am is a joke.
 

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