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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

kithnou said:
Sorry to hear. Strange place? What's the prognosis/game plan going forward?
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Radiation therapy in the end mate, as it crossed the joint so wasn’t suitable for operation.

Combined with immunotherapy, which is basically an aural form of chemo without the worst side effects.

Special mention must go to the Everton disabled supporters association who have been absolutely brilliant in finding me a seat (as I’m now on crutches) btw.
 
Foot Long Hot Dog said:
Radiation therapy in the end mate, as it crossed the joint so wasn’t suitable for operation.

Combined with immunotherapy, which is basically an aural form of chemo without the worst side effects.

Special mention must go to the Everton disabled supporters association who have been absolutely brilliant in finding me a seat (as I’m now on crutches) btw.
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i hope things look up for you soon mate
 
Foot Long Hot Dog said:
Radiation therapy in the end mate, as it crossed the joint so wasn’t suitable for operation.

Combined with immunotherapy, which is basically an aural form of chemo without the worst side effects.

Special mention must go to the Everton disabled supporters association who have been absolutely brilliant in finding me a seat (as I’m now on crutches) btw.
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All the best mate. Fight it hard ;)
 
Just catching up on some of the above, office politics is absolutely shocking and i sympathize with you all. I don't get involved with much or any of the people i work with unless i have to, and i am very much made aware of that as a result...
 

Foot Long Hot Dog said:
Radiation therapy in the end mate, as it crossed the joint so wasn’t suitable for operation.

Combined with immunotherapy, which is basically an aural form of chemo without the worst side effects.

Special mention must go to the Everton disabled supporters association who have been absolutely brilliant in finding me a seat (as I’m now on crutches) btw.
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You've made the first big step,getting a therapy programme sorted.However bad you feel there will have been people in the hospital on the same day as you who were told to go home and wait for a contact from McMillan.Just try to stay as positive as possible,saw our friend on the BBC boring everyone as usual after Arsenals slip up at Forest.I've been involved with a cancer charity here in Spain and we are trying to get Jose Carreras involved in a yearly opera concert we put on to raise funds.Back in the 80s he was given a 1 in 10 chance and he's still performing today.Keep the faith!
 
Foot Long Hot Dog said:
Radiation therapy in the end mate, as it crossed the joint so wasn’t suitable for operation.

Combined with immunotherapy, which is basically an aural form of chemo without the worst side effects.

Special mention must go to the Everton disabled supporters association who have been absolutely brilliant in finding me a seat (as I’m now on crutches) btw.
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Good luck. Hope it goes well. Keep posting x
 
chrismpw said:
Not everything we do or say has an effect straight away, mate, hang in there.
What are you trying to get done?
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efcforever said:
Anything in particular that you're trying to achieve mate?
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I was trying to reach out to a friend who I'd fell out with, but he took it the wrong way.
Did me head in at the time I felt let down as when it was the other way it was different. It is what it is tho. There are some things you can't force.

Been in a bit of a rut since me nan died. Its not constant like it used to be, its more up and down throughout the day. Found myself getting worse, forgetting to take me tablets, and the other stuff that happens. Sleep being messed up.
That was causing my anxiety then id be getting anxiety about getting anxiety. Thru the worst of it now tho I hope.

When im down ive learnt to put my phone down aswell.
Which has saved me alot of grief

What's helped is I've been listening to an audio book. My sister sent me it on audible, it's called 'the subtle art of not giving a duck'(if you spell duck with an f. Not an attempt to bypass the filter mod it's just what it's called) by Mark Manson. It's not a title I'd even look at twice usually and there's no way I'd have bought it so it's a good job she did, because it's boss

I find really insightful, funny too. And it makes sense. Defiantly worth a look.
 

the golden visionary said:
I was trying to reach out to a friend who I'd fell out with, but he took it the wrong way.
Did me head in at the time I felt let down as when it was the other way it was different. It is what it is tho. There are some things you can't force.

Been in a bit of a rut since me nan died. Its not constant like it used to be, its more up and down throughout the day. Found myself getting worse, forgetting to take me tablets, and the other stuff that happens. Sleep being messed up.
That was causing my anxiety then id be getting anxiety about getting anxiety. Thru the worst of it now tho I hope.

When im down ive learnt to put my phone down aswell.
Which has saved me alot of grief

What's helped is I've been listening to an audio book. My sister sent me it on audible, it's called 'the subtle art of not giving a duck'(if you spell duck with an f. Not an attempt to bypass the filter mod it's just what it's called) by Mark Manson. It's not a title I'd even look at twice usually and there's no way I'd have bought it so it's a good job she did, because it's boss

I find really insightful, funny too. And it makes sense. Defiantly worth a look.
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I might have to have a look at that book myself. It sounds good.

Hope you sort things out with your friend. My anxiety prevents me from forming close friendships (I'm fine with that). Maybe they just need time to come round.

Sorry about your Nan.
 
the golden visionary said:
I was trying to reach out to a friend who I'd fell out with, but he took it the wrong way.
Did me head in at the time I felt let down as when it was the other way it was different. It is what it is tho. There are some things you can't force.

Been in a bit of a rut since me nan died. Its not constant like it used to be, its more up and down throughout the day. Found myself getting worse, forgetting to take me tablets, and the other stuff that happens. Sleep being messed up.
That was causing my anxiety then id be getting anxiety about getting anxiety. Thru the worst of it now tho I hope.

When im down ive learnt to put my phone down aswell.
Which has saved me alot of grief

What's helped is I've been listening to an audio book. My sister sent me it on audible, it's called 'the subtle art of not giving a duck'(if you spell duck with an f. Not an attempt to bypass the filter mod it's just what it's called) by Mark Manson. It's not a title I'd even look at twice usually and there's no way I'd have bought it so it's a good job she did, because it's boss

I find really insightful, funny too. And it makes sense. Defiantly worth a look.
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You're right, you can't force friendship. I don't know how old you are, but you'll find that most friendships change as you (and they) grow older. Some are just too much like hard work!

I am awful at getting into routines eg with tablets. What I found helped was by having daily reminders repeated on my phone. Also, I leave them by my toothbrush as a visual reminder.
 
chrismpw said:
You're right, you can't force friendship. I don't know how old you are, but you'll find that most friendships change as you (and they) grow older. Some are just too much like hard work!

I am awful at getting into routines eg with tablets. What I found helped was by having daily reminders repeated on my phone. Also, I leave them by my toothbrush as a visual reminder.
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true all this . You only need a few close mates .
 
the golden visionary said:
I was trying to reach out to a friend who I'd fell out with, but he took it the wrong way.
Did me head in at the time I felt let down as when it was the other way it was different. It is what it is tho. There are some things you can't force.

Been in a bit of a rut since me nan died. Its not constant like it used to be, its more up and down throughout the day. Found myself getting worse, forgetting to take me tablets, and the other stuff that happens. Sleep being messed up.
That was causing my anxiety then id be getting anxiety about getting anxiety. Thru the worst of it now tho I hope.

When im down ive learnt to put my phone down aswell.
Which has saved me alot of grief

What's helped is I've been listening to an audio book. My sister sent me it on audible, it's called 'the subtle art of not giving a duck'(if you spell duck with an f. Not an attempt to bypass the filter mod it's just what it's called) by Mark Manson. It's not a title I'd even look at twice usually and there's no way I'd have bought it so it's a good job she did, because it's boss

I find really insightful, funny too. And it makes sense. Defiantly worth a look.
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efcforever said:
I might have to have a look at that book myself. It sounds good.

Hope you sort things out with your friend. My anxiety prevents me from forming close friendships (I'm fine with that). Maybe they just need time to come round.

Sorry about your Nan.
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I can vouch for the book - " The subtle art of not giving a f*** ".

It`s very easy to read, very funny and a real eye opener.

It`s the total opposite of all the preachy self help books and the big thing about it, that the fella that wrote it, explains why it`s a natural human condition to go on downers and rather than fight it, you should go with it and manage it.
 
efcforever said:
I might have to have a look at that book myself. It sounds good.

Hope you sort things out with your friend. My anxiety prevents me from forming close friendships (I'm fine with that). Maybe they just need time to come round.

Sorry about your Nan.
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Thanks man. The books a great read defiantly worth the 20£


chrismpw said:
You're right, you can't force friendship. I don't know how old you are, but you'll find that most friendships change as you (and they) grow older. Some are just too much like hard work!

I am awful at getting into routines eg with tablets. What I found helped was by having daily reminders repeated on my phone. Also, I leave them by my toothbrush as a visual reminder.
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We were friends for 25 years before we fell out. Found out he was sleeping with my ex so i threatened to fill him in an he melted. I felt guilty about it so I took the first step to sort it out.

That toothbrush shout is a good one. Thanks lad


COYBL25 said:
I can vouch for the book - " The subtle art of not giving a f*** ".

It`s very easy to read, very funny and a real eye opener.

It`s the total opposite of all the preachy self help books and the big thing about it, that the fella that wrote it, explains why it`s a natural human condition to go on downers and rather than fight it, you should go with it and manage it.
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I'm listening to it, there's a bit in chapter one were he lists a lot of things asking the reader if they recognise any of it happening to them. I was laughing in the end because everything in the list applied to me.

Really enjoyable. I

It might be an idea to start a sub forum in this section were people can list books they've read what could help others
 

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