Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[edge]

Also the " innocent bystanders ", who`ve stood by and done nothing, tend to bottle it when they think they`re getting dragged into something and adopt the every man for him / herself attitude too

True that, i told a woman colleague years ago to keep details of bullying off a manager,
it was bad, really bad ,had her in bits.
After a few months she went into HR with it, two of her workmates had witnessed it , both left her high and dry.
I was on holiday and one of them who i gave a lift into work phoned me and said his name was mud and nobody was talking to him, i said i don't blame them you have complained about him before yourself, his reply was well he would have come after me if i said anything.
I just said he will anyway because he thinks your a gobshite, get yourself into work yourself and don't talk to me other than about work.
The woman was thankfully left alone, left shortly afterwards to change careers,
taught me a lesson i can tell you to many only interested in themselves.

 

[goodisonopheliac]

I wrote loads of things down and will take them to the occupational health meeting a week on Tuesday.

I'm not sure if 2 weeks is long enough. I had a horrible breakdown earlier. A man from Fetlife basically wanted me to do a session with him over Google Hangouts - I won't go into details, except to say that he wanted me to talk and read things to him, and repeat scripted lines he gave me, even though I repeatedly told him I hate my voice and am shy about reading aloud. The first time, I lost it and screamed my head off. Like, actually screamed. The second time, I hung on for longer, but when he sent me some erotica he wanted me to read, I couldn't do it properly because it was so stupid and unsexy. It was some stupid nurse fantasy, and I work in a hospital and then I had this horrible image in my head of me as a broken toy because I wasn't acting how I should, and I just started crying and crying and ranting about how I felt like a broken toy and that I should be sent back to the factory and melted down for parts, that I had no feelings or thoughts or desires of my own, that I wasn't even human. I'm crying just typing this. I was already a bit down after Pittsburgh, but this pushed me over the edge. He wanted me to participate in a kink I wasn't comfortable with. I just feel miserable and used. I disassociated a bit as well.

 

[dublinbluenose]

I wrote loads of things down and will take them to the occupational health meeting a week on Tuesday.

I'm not sure if 2 weeks is long enough. I had a horrible breakdown earlier. A man from Fetlife basically wanted me to do a session with him over Google Hangouts - I won't go into details, except to say that he wanted me to talk and read things to him, and repeat scripted lines he gave me, even though I repeatedly told him I hate my voice and am shy about reading aloud. The first time, I lost it and screamed my head off. Like, actually screamed. The second time, I hung on for longer, but when he sent me some erotica he wanted me to read, I couldn't do it properly because it was so stupid and unsexy. It was some stupid nurse fantasy, and I work in a hospital and then I had this horrible image in my head of me as a broken toy because I wasn't acting how I should, and I just started crying and crying and ranting about how I felt like a broken toy and that I should be sent back to the factory and melted down for parts, that I had no feelings or thoughts or desires of my own, that I wasn't even human. I'm crying just typing this. I was already a bit down after Pittsburgh, but this pushed me over the edge. He wanted me to participate in a kink I wasn't comfortable with. I just feel miserable and used. I disassociated a bit as well.

It's a good start to even type this mate. Not sure fetlife is where you need to be until you are comfortable in yourself. What do you do that makes you feel comfortable in your skin?

 

[Nymzee]

I wrote loads of things down and will take them to the occupational health meeting a week on Tuesday.

I'm not sure if 2 weeks is long enough. I had a horrible breakdown earlier. A man from Fetlife basically wanted me to do a session with him over Google Hangouts - I won't go into details, except to say that he wanted me to talk and read things to him, and repeat scripted lines he gave me, even though I repeatedly told him I hate my voice and am shy about reading aloud. The first time, I lost it and screamed my head off. Like, actually screamed. The second time, I hung on for longer, but when he sent me some erotica he wanted me to read, I couldn't do it properly because it was so stupid and unsexy. It was some stupid nurse fantasy, and I work in a hospital and then I had this horrible image in my head of me as a broken toy because I wasn't acting how I should, and I just started crying and crying and ranting about how I felt like a broken toy and that I should be sent back to the factory and melted down for parts, that I had no feelings or thoughts or desires of my own, that I wasn't even human. I'm crying just typing this. I was already a bit down after Pittsburgh, but this pushed me over the edge. He wanted me to participate in a kink I wasn't comfortable with. I just feel miserable and used. I disassociated a bit as well.

I really don’t see FetLife being a useful tool for you right now. Just my opinion.

 

[Bungle]

I was listening to something earlier where they were discussing the reasons for men not coming forward and talking about mental health, the usual things really i.e. feeling ashamed, embarrassed or like it's some sort of slight on their masculinity. I've experienced a little bit of each when trying to talk about my feelings to different people but the one thing I find myself feel with all of them is that I'm a massive burden.

I generally don't talk to people about how things are going lately, they ask but I just change the subject so as not to sound like I'm moaning on. Things have been pretty crap and I can feel myself withdrawing more and more from things, I just refuse to burden people with my issues and it's not really doing me any favours. I don't really know what the answer is and I don't really know the point of this message, I guess it's to try and stop someone else from being like me and make sure no matter how much of a burden you feel people generally do want to help and you should open up to them. Now that's advice I should take myself, but I won't, and therein lies the problem.

If only I could hide an animal humping gif in the text above somewhere to lighten the mood, maybe that's where I need to concentrate my efforts. The gifs I mean, not humping animals...

 

[goodisonopheliac]

Yeah, I'm avoiding Fetlife for the time being. I asked the guy why he didn't just hire a brass or go in one of the groups involving women reading aloud - there are groups for these things and women who read erotic fiction, and have much nicer speaking voices than mine - and he said he didn't want to pay, and it was also a VERY specific fantasy he had in mind.

At least he didn't jerk off when I started crying though. I thought he was going to.

 

[efcforever]

I was listening to something earlier where they were discussing the reasons for men not coming forward and talking about mental health, the usual things really i.e. feeling ashamed, embarrassed or like it's some sort of slight on their masculinity. I've experienced a little bit of each when trying to talk about my feelings to different people but the one thing I find myself feel with all of them is that I'm a massive burden.

I generally don't talk to people about how things are going lately, they ask but I just change the subject so as not to sound like I'm moaning on. Things have been pretty crap and I can feel myself withdrawing more and more from things, I just refuse to burden people with my issues and it's not really doing me any favours. I don't really know what the answer is and I don't really know the point of this message, I guess it's to try and stop someone else from being like me and make sure no matter how much of a burden you feel people generally do want to help and you should open up to them. Now that's advice I should take myself, but I won't, and therein lies the problem.

If only I could hide an animal humping gif in the text above somewhere to lighten the mood, maybe that's where I need to concentrate my efforts. The gifs I mean, not humping animals...

Hi mate. I think I get where you're coming from. People ask me how I am sometimes, my head is mashed and I feel anxious for no reason so I just say 'I'm fine'.

I'm doing ok overall, much better than where I was 12 months ago. Still not socialising and making excuses to miss social events. I think the social anxiety will always be an issue for me so I focus on other positives (my kids mainly).

Anyway mate I just wanted to say that you've offered me kind words and advice in the past and it's been a big help.

Try to keep posting in here. You know there's loads who will help.

 

[COYBL25]

I was listening to something earlier where they were discussing the reasons for men not coming forward and talking about mental health, the usual things really i.e. feeling ashamed, embarrassed or like it's some sort of slight on their masculinity. I've experienced a little bit of each when trying to talk about my feelings to different people but the one thing I find myself feel with all of them is that I'm a massive burden.

I generally don't talk to people about how things are going lately, they ask but I just change the subject so as not to sound like I'm moaning on. Things have been pretty crap and I can feel myself withdrawing more and more from things, I just refuse to burden people with my issues and it's not really doing me any favours. I don't really know what the answer is and I don't really know the point of this message, I guess it's to try and stop someone else from being like me and make sure no matter how much of a burden you feel people generally do want to help and you should open up to them. Now that's advice I should take myself, but I won't, and therein lies the problem.

If only I could hide an animal humping gif in the text above somewhere to lighten the mood, maybe that's where I need to concentrate my efforts. The gifs I mean, not humping animals...

Maybe request your very own animal humping gif thread, so you can unburden yourself and lighten your mood.

Let`s face it, there`ve been much worse threads over the years !

 

[Vegas Toffee Girl]

I was listening to something earlier where they were discussing the reasons for men not coming forward and talking about mental health, the usual things really i.e. feeling ashamed, embarrassed or like it's some sort of slight on their masculinity. I've experienced a little bit of each when trying to talk about my feelings to different people but the one thing I find myself feel with all of them is that I'm a massive burden.

I generally don't talk to people about how things are going lately, they ask but I just change the subject so as not to sound like I'm moaning on. Things have been pretty crap and I can feel myself withdrawing more and more from things, I just refuse to burden people with my issues and it's not really doing me any favours. I don't really know what the answer is and I don't really know the point of this message, I guess it's to try and stop someone else from being like me and make sure no matter how much of a burden you feel people generally do want to help and you should open up to them. Now that's advice I should take myself, but I won't, and therein lies the problem.

If only I could hide an animal humping gif in the text above somewhere to lighten the mood, maybe that's where I need to concentrate my efforts. The gifs I mean, not humping animals...

I do the same thing. When I'm going through a lot, I don't really tell anybody. I pretend everything is fine. The only way someone might notice is that I withdraw and people don't hear from me much. I have one friend that is going through the same type of problems that I have right now, but I don't even talk to her much.

So we're here to listen or to offer advice. If you don't want to list your problems on this thread, you might PM one or two of your GOT friends to chat.

I'm going to go create a Health & Wellness thread in the Alehouse so we can post things/tips that have helped all of us with tough situations as well as things that brighten your day. You can post humping animal gifs if you want, but not too many, alright?? haha lol

 

[Nymzee]

I was listening to something earlier where they were discussing the reasons for men not coming forward and talking about mental health, the usual things really i.e. feeling ashamed, embarrassed or like it's some sort of slight on their masculinity. I've experienced a little bit of each when trying to talk about my feelings to different people but the one thing I find myself feel with all of them is that I'm a massive burden.

I generally don't talk to people about how things are going lately, they ask but I just change the subject so as not to sound like I'm moaning on. Things have been pretty crap and I can feel myself withdrawing more and more from things, I just refuse to burden people with my issues and it's not really doing me any favours. I don't really know what the answer is and I don't really know the point of this message, I guess it's to try and stop someone else from being like me and make sure no matter how much of a burden you feel people generally do want to help and you should open up to them. Now that's advice I should take myself, but I won't, and therein lies the problem.

If only I could hide an animal humping gif in the text above somewhere to lighten the mood, maybe that's where I need to concentrate my efforts. The gifs I mean, not humping animals...

I find I mostly just can’t be arsed trying to clearly explain what’s going on (if I even know). Nowadays though it seems everyone has something going on so you can feel like they have enough to think/worry about without your problems. Sometimes it’s good to find someone you can bounce your issues off - you tell them yours and they reciprocate.

 

[Nymzee]

Yeah, I'm avoiding Fetlife for the time being. I asked the guy why he didn't just hire a brass or go in one of the groups involving women reading aloud - there are groups for these things and women who read erotic fiction, and have much nicer speaking voices than mine - and he said he didn't want to pay, and it was also a VERY specific fantasy he had in mind.

At least he didn't jerk off when I started crying though. I thought he was going to.

Sounds like a dodgy place to be. On topic though I’d concentrate on your mental health before you roam around a fetish social media.

 

[blue to the bone]

Great readin in this thread as usual.
Can feel one of my dips coming on again. Think the changing of the clocks and the dark nights take effect on me.
Hopefully it don't last too long.
A year yesterday since my relationship ended so thinking of that too.
But I think I now know better how to deal with it.

 

[goodisonopheliac]

I find I mostly just can’t be arsed trying to clearly explain what’s going on (if I even know). Nowadays though it seems everyone has something going on so you can feel like they have enough to think/worry about without your problems. Sometimes it’s good to find someone you can bounce your issues off - you tell them yours and they reciprocate.

Same. I know so many people who've got their own crap going on that I feel guilty venting about stuff.

 

[YoboCopter]

Great readin in this thread as usual.
Can feel one of my dips coming on again. Think the changing of the clocks and the dark nights take effect on me.
Hopefully it don't last too long.
A year yesterday since my relationship ended so thinking of that too.
But I think I now know better how to deal with it.

A sunbed once or twice a week helps abit i find..

Winter can be long cant it

 

[blue to the bone]

A sunbed once or twice a week helps abit i find..

Winter can be long cant it

I hate it. The dark evenings and then Christmas on top of. Next three months are the 3 I hate.