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Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

JelavicBrate2 said:
I'm currently taking anti depressants, but I'm still struggling, for years I used drink as a coping mechanism and could use Everton as a distraction. Now I just find every single day I'm on edge, only time I relax is when I sleep. I've tried AA, but TBH I don't identify, while my drinking is problematic. I don't drink shorts, I don't drink much more than 7 pints usually. Using drink as a coping mechanism isn't normal, but at same time I never drink in house. Im stuck where I don't fit in with normal drinkers and don't fit in with Alcoholics.
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Have you tried your GP mate, they may be able to refer you to a support group other than A.A ?

There’s also online support groups have you had a look at them ?
 
JelavicBrate2 said:
I'm currently taking anti depressants, but I'm still struggling, for years I used drink as a coping mechanism and could use Everton as a distraction. Now I just find every single day I'm on edge, only time I relax is when I sleep. I've tried AA, but TBH I don't identify, while my drinking is problematic. I don't drink shorts, I don't drink much more than 7 pints usually. Using drink as a coping mechanism isn't normal, but at same time I never drink in house. Im stuck where I don't fit in with normal drinkers and don't fit in with Alcoholics.
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You probably don’t need to be told again, but if nobody has explained that alcohol will make everything seem much worse and I’m not sure how they work with alcohol. What ones are you taking?

I’m not a big drinker myself so I’m not the best to give advice but I do know how difficult it can get so please take care of yourself mate. My first thought is to chat with your GP, or if you have a trusted mate you can talk to, any Employee assistance program in work you can confide in?
 

coollino said:
I hadn't been for a run in a week and a half, which is ages for me. I had been well anxious and I couldn't really work out why, I went for a run today and it all pretty disappeared.

I had no idea how much it kept me feeling good really, it's crazy. A bit worrying that maybe running papers over things but I guess that the same time there is no healthier way to cure it
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I'm exactly the same, even when the weather is bad I feel so much better when I've got out. Currently training for a marathon so the added bonus of keeping me mentally more level also
 
I have just had the best news ever ,as some on here probably know i lost my wife to cancer 4 years ago and have just been living with my daughter at home.
6 months ago I got a call from one of my sisters telling me I need to be checked out as there is a faulty dna gene in the family called BRAC1 Which makes myself and my siblings particularly vulnerable to cancer and particularly my daughter who would probably mean that should would need a double mysectomy.

It's 50/50 that I would have got the faulty gene as it comes from either your mother or your father,needless to say i copped for it.
I wasn't that arsed as I have already had Prostrate cancer but having to tell my kids that they need to get tested was tough you feel guilty even though there is nothing you can do .
Anyway after 6 months from start to finish we finally got the results for my daughter today she got the all clear.
It's a huge relief i have told it is a late Christmas present from her mum the best present she could ever have.
 
paultheblue said:
I have just had the best news ever ,as some on here probably know i lost my wife to cancer 4 years ago and have just been living with my daughter at home.
6 months ago I got a call from one of my sisters telling me I need to be checked out as there is a faulty dna gene in the family called BRAC1 Which makes myself and my siblings particularly vulnerable to cancer and particularly my daughter who would probably mean that should would need a double mysectomy.

It's 50/50 that I would have got the faulty gene as it comes from either your mother or your father,needless to say i copped for it.
I wasn't that arsed as I have already had Prostrate cancer but having to tell my kids that they need to get tested was tough you feel guilty even though there is nothing you can do .
Anyway after 6 months from start to finish we finally got the results for my daughter today she got the all clear.
It's a huge relief i have told it is a late Christmas present from her mum the best present she could ever have.
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Great news man!
 
paultheblue said:
I have just had the best news ever ,as some on here probably know i lost my wife to cancer 4 years ago and have just been living with my daughter at home.
6 months ago I got a call from one of my sisters telling me I need to be checked out as there is a faulty dna gene in the family called BRAC1 Which makes myself and my siblings particularly vulnerable to cancer and particularly my daughter who would probably mean that should would need a double mysectomy.

It's 50/50 that I would have got the faulty gene as it comes from either your mother or your father,needless to say i copped for it.
I wasn't that arsed as I have already had Prostrate cancer but having to tell my kids that they need to get tested was tough you feel guilty even though there is nothing you can do .
Anyway after 6 months from start to finish we finally got the results for my daughter today she got the all clear.
It's a huge relief i have told it is a late Christmas present from her mum the best present she could ever have.
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Wonderful news mate.

I can`t imagine the relief you must`ve felt, after having to bottle that up for so long 💙
 

paultheblue said:
I have just had the best news ever ,as some on here probably know i lost my wife to cancer 4 years ago and have just been living with my daughter at home.
6 months ago I got a call from one of my sisters telling me I need to be checked out as there is a faulty dna gene in the family called BRAC1 Which makes myself and my siblings particularly vulnerable to cancer and particularly my daughter who would probably mean that should would need a double mysectomy.

It's 50/50 that I would have got the faulty gene as it comes from either your mother or your father,needless to say i copped for it.
I wasn't that arsed as I have already had Prostrate cancer but having to tell my kids that they need to get tested was tough you feel guilty even though there is nothing you can do .
Anyway after 6 months from start to finish we finally got the results for my daughter today she got the all clear.
It's a huge relief i have told it is a late Christmas present from her mum the best present she could ever have.
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What wonderful news, so very pleased for you and your daughter.💙
 
Hi all, dunno why I'm really writing this but I just need to speak but I can't speak to those close to me.

Found out on Monday that my 18 year old sister has to go for a biopsy as the doctor is almost certain she has cancer in her lymph nodes.

She's my best friend. I'm 34 but we always have each others back. The thought of her having cancer is destroying me.

I've had quite bad mental health problems in the past and depression has took me to some dark places. I really don't want to go back there but I honestly think if her biopsy confirms it then I'm going to end up in the condition I was 10 years ago.

At one point I was suicidal, didn't want to work, drank, got in 25k of debt, depression really took control. But I have built myself up, got a stable relationship, worked my way up to become a manager in my job and I am on the verge of buying my first house. Really turned my life around.

But since I found out she very likely has cancer on Monday my dark thoughts have been coming back.

Tonight all my emotion is coming out.

I know the biopsy might come back all clear, but the thought of it not is really killing me.

I haven't put this message up for sympathy, I just felt I needed to get it off my chest and to my family, I remain strong...to this forum, I am a mess.

To the best forum in the world....thankyou all for listening.
 

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