Hi mate,
You`re going to know this already and I know it`s only natural to fear the worst, but just try to stay positive as you can until the results of the biopsy come back
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Hi mate,
You`re going to know this already and I know it`s only natural to fear the worst, but just try to stay positive as you can until the results of the biopsy come back
Hi mate,Hi mate,
You`re going to know this already and I know it`s only natural to fear the worst, but just try to stay positive as you can until the results of the biopsy come back
Thanks for the response.
I'm trying my best but as I'm sure you'll appreciate, it's not easy.
In my opinion I don't think the doctor should of said he's almost certain as that doesn't help anyone.
I just think it's all got to me today.
Tomorrow's a new day and I'll be back to my hard faced self haha.
Thanks again mate.
We’ve just been through something similar with my mother in law mate, so I’ve got a good idea where you are at the mo, as my missus was beside herself with worry.
It’s all sorted now and the old witch is moaning about the fact she has to go to go in periodically for check ups, so is back to doing everyone’s heads in again
Rita_Poon
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It's not serious until it is.
Worry and anxiety and stress, and getting wound up only hypes the situation to breaking point.
Waiting sucks. It does, but sometimes it's all that's left.
Reading this doesn't actually help because it's natural to care because you're so concerned. It's fine to vent and get something out in the open, it means being more prepared for those that might need it when the time comes.
Calm cool heads, remember to breathe, going to have to be ready to go the distance. Hopefully not, because it's not serious until it is.
Take care and chill if you can, music, a film, computer game, even watching this evenings sport. A bit of respite.
Worry and anxiety and stress, and getting wound up only hypes the situation to breaking point.
Waiting sucks. It does, but sometimes it's all that's left.
Reading this doesn't actually help because it's natural to care because you're so concerned. It's fine to vent and get something out in the open, it means being more prepared for those that might need it when the time comes.
Calm cool heads, remember to breathe, going to have to be ready to go the distance. Hopefully not, because it's not serious until it is.
Take care and chill if you can, music, a film, computer game, even watching this evenings sport. A bit of respite.
YoboCopter
Player Valuation: £50m
Hope the results are negative mate praying they are
You’ve done brilliantly to turn your life around there mate. Well in.
It’s hard, but try not to worry too much until you get some news on your sister.
It might be all clear, if not, it could be very treatable.
It’s a cliche, but the power of positivity is important and will help yourself and your sister.
Hoping it’s good news for you both.
BiggyRat
Player Valuation: £35m
You’ve got some good responses already but I just wanted to touch on this point.
Regardless of the results, she’s still your best friend and, with respect, she’s going to need you watching her back more than ever. If the dark thoughts return, tell them to **** off! Your Sister needs her Brother more than ever.
Yeah, that’s easy to type & hard to do but cling onto it mate. Fight those thoughts as hard as your Sister might have to, God forbid!
Good luck to you both!
Can you talk to your partner about this? You might be surprised. We don't need to be "strong" all the time, especially when we assume strength is having our [Poor language removed] together rather than admitting that we're struggling
This was a difficult read but there are so many encouraging things to take away from it especially the manner in which you have turned your life around.
Nevertheless, I can fully understand your current predicament as I am also one of those who tends to think the worst but hope for the best albeit I often struggle to get beyond the 'worst'
However, you clearly have strength in character epitomised by your accomplishments over the past ten years and it is now, I guess, that you need to dig deep into those same reserves to carry you through these challenging times.
As much as you are worrying your Sis needs to see that inner strength of yours come to the fore. Please don't allow yourself to disappear down that rabbit hole you have worked so hard to climb out from but, instead, continue being the Big Brother your Sis has, needs and deserves.
I hope and pray things work out positively for you both.
Congratulations on the turn around mate, that's huge.
I'm sorry to hear about your sister's issues and potential diagnosis. Fingers crossed for the best possible outcome. If it is anything other than that, though, consider how you're feeling now and that she would be feeling exactly the same were you to come to any harm.
Just because you're the man/older one/big brother in the relationship, it doesn't mean you can't open up to her. The message doesn't have to be "I am so scared to lose you that I want to hurt myself", it could be "you mean so much to me that I am gonna fight tooth and nail by your side to help you get through this" you could also tag on "but I might need a bit of extra help from you to do it."
I know it's all much easier said than done, but if you're after a silver lining then somewhere in all this is an opportunity to further strengthen what sounds like a lovely relationship that has made both of your lives better so far. Best of luck to you both.
Gwladysover
Player Valuation: £35m
You have done so well on turning your life round. It is only natural to worry and confiding in your family could be a good thing for you. Bottling things up and remaining strong is not necessarily the best course of action, it certainly wasn’t for me. I do so hope that your fears prove unfounded. Best wishes.
Oh that's lovely news. So happy for you x
I'm sorry to hear this. I hope you get good news. If you don't then it is absolutely not the end of the world. My son , aged 31, was diagnosed with Stage 3 melanoma last year. Basically the melanoma cells had spread to his lymph nodes. He had an operation to remove the lymph nodes containing the cancer cells which was a success He's now having immunotherapy as a preventative measure. Everything is positive at the moment. So what I'm trying to say is, the advances in treatment are so great that your sister will have every chance to recover. I fully understand how you feel, having been there. It's horrible, because you want to make things better but you have no control over the situation. Just be there for her. I wish you both all the love in the world x
Hi folks. I was going to post today with a little update. My son has restarted his immunotherapy and the crazy itchy side effects seem to be under control. His last scan was clear - apparently the first three after the op are the most crucial. That was his second , so fingers crossed for the next one. Unfortunately though 2024 had one more curve ball for us. Our daughter is expecting our first grandchild. We know it's a boy ( I've already bought him an Everton kit - consigning him to a life of misery!) Her 20 week scan revealed the baby only has one kidney The other one has not developed properly. Nobody seems very concerned about it, apparently it happens in 1 in every 4000 pregnancies. She is just going to be monitored more closely. However it is just one more thing for me to stress about. I've got an appointment at the docs next week because I think everything that has gone on recently has caught up with me. My face is red and blotchy, I'm not sleeping properly and things I usually like to do are no longer fun. I feel, and look, like a wreck!
Rita_Poon
Player Valuation: £90m
Best of luck with the little un, trauma and anguish take a toll, there is no off button, slowly being ground down and trying to soldier on. Good news about your son though, one more hurdle so to speak to go. Poor weather, poor sleep, not the best diet, and a ton of stress, it'll turn - not sure when but it will.
One thing at a time, be honest with the Dr, especially if you know what you need.