Disgruntledgoat
Player Valuation: £50m
Your wedding day isn't about you. It's not even about your wife... its about her mother.
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Your wedding day isn't about you. It's not even about your wife... its about her mother.
Mate I was a nervous wreck leading up to my wedding day as I'm really shy and quiet. The next day I woke up and realised it was the best day of my life and regretted all the fear I had held in side me as it held me back from enjoying it even more
I also missed all the fun leading up to the big day day as I was so worried.
The funny thing is now though 8 years later we are divorcing and we are lucky it lasted that long!
Start looking forward mate. It will be a brilliant day if you relax.
Really stressful... life, recently, has me anxious as hell.
Basically just sharing this cuz I don't have many places to do so - currently my job is demanding as hell, but not rewarding at all, frustrations everywhere, coming home mentally exhausted every day.
To add to that I'm doing uni so the recently-passed exams didn't help alleviate the stress - tests and things like that once or twice a week for the past month and a half, meaning spare time is scarce.
To add further on - my flatmate decided it's time to move in with his gf (of a few months I might add, feels pretty odd as he's not that type of guy, but happy for him), so I'm gonna be sleeping on couches and at my gf's whenever possible after next month... but I decided that I'd forego the rent part and get my own place, which adds a lot more stress as dealing with banks and having to go check out places and stuff. Our landlord is also selling our current flat anyway, so we've got people doing check outs of this flat every few days.
Just mentally not feeling great. I know it's gonna turn out good in the long run, but FFS.
Thanks for listening x
Basically just sharing this cuz I don't have many places to do so - currently my job is demanding as hell, but not rewarding at all, frustrations everywhere, coming home mentally exhausted every day.
To add to that I'm doing uni so the recently-passed exams didn't help alleviate the stress - tests and things like that once or twice a week for the past month and a half, meaning spare time is scarce.
To add further on - my flatmate decided it's time to move in with his gf (of a few months I might add, feels pretty odd as he's not that type of guy, but happy for him), so I'm gonna be sleeping on couches and at my gf's whenever possible after next month... but I decided that I'd forego the rent part and get my own place, which adds a lot more stress as dealing with banks and having to go check out places and stuff. Our landlord is also selling our current flat anyway, so we've got people doing check outs of this flat every few days.
Just mentally not feeling great. I know it's gonna turn out good in the long run, but FFS.
Thanks for listening x
the golden visionary
Player Valuation: £35m
So, had a good day, i booked in a floatation tank. Thought it would send me insane but actually had the opposite effect.
There was something calming about floating there in the dark.
I managed somehow to calm all the randomness of my mind , and think clearly. Then i could see the stresses of work for what they were, good problems, ive got a decent job and its not that hard, i just need to remain calm and prioritise work, see thru the blame game and only respond with facts and processes.
Ive booked in again for 2 weeks time.
There was something calming about floating there in the dark.
I managed somehow to calm all the randomness of my mind , and think clearly. Then i could see the stresses of work for what they were, good problems, ive got a decent job and its not that hard, i just need to remain calm and prioritise work, see thru the blame game and only respond with facts and processes.
Ive booked in again for 2 weeks time.
Tim's tourettes
Player Valuation: £10m
Really stressful... life, recently, has me anxious as hell.
Basically just sharing this cuz I don't have many places to do so - currently my job is demanding as hell, but not rewarding at all, frustrations everywhere, coming home mentally exhausted every day.
To add to that I'm doing uni so the recently-passed exams didn't help alleviate the stress - tests and things like that once or twice a week for the past month and a half, meaning spare time is scarce.
To add further on - my flatmate decided it's time to move in with his gf (of a few months I might add, feels pretty odd as he's not that type of guy, but happy for him), so I'm gonna be sleeping on couches and at my gf's whenever possible after next month... but I decided that I'd forego the rent part and get my own place, which adds a lot more stress as dealing with banks and having to go check out places and stuff. Our landlord is also selling our current flat anyway, so we've got people doing check outs of this flat every few days.
Just mentally not feeling great. I know it's gonna turn out good in the long run, but FFS.
Thanks for listening x
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Anxiety is horrible mate. U got time to fit in some exercise? Get out for a run, 5 a side once a week etc. Really helps me when my anxiety kicks off..
Basically just sharing this cuz I don't have many places to do so - currently my job is demanding as hell, but not rewarding at all, frustrations everywhere, coming home mentally exhausted every day.
To add to that I'm doing uni so the recently-passed exams didn't help alleviate the stress - tests and things like that once or twice a week for the past month and a half, meaning spare time is scarce.
To add further on - my flatmate decided it's time to move in with his gf (of a few months I might add, feels pretty odd as he's not that type of guy, but happy for him), so I'm gonna be sleeping on couches and at my gf's whenever possible after next month... but I decided that I'd forego the rent part and get my own place, which adds a lot more stress as dealing with banks and having to go check out places and stuff. Our landlord is also selling our current flat anyway, so we've got people doing check outs of this flat every few days.
Just mentally not feeling great. I know it's gonna turn out good in the long run, but FFS.
Thanks for listening x
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Anxiety is horrible mate. U got time to fit in some exercise? Get out for a run, 5 a side once a week etc. Really helps me when my anxiety kicks off..
the golden visionary
Player Valuation: £35m
Better to share than to bottle it up mate
I do mate, gym at least 2 times a week, but I feel it's not enough? It gets me motivated and pumped up but the rest of the time bugs me, can't get my mind off stuff, can't even sleep properly.
Tim's tourettes
Player Valuation: £10m
Mate, I'm a big gym addict, 5 x week plus 1/2 martial art classes weekly. I still suffer anxiety big time. Dont be scared of meds/cbt. Wish I would have done it sooner. The exercise does help but wont cure u. I'm guessing ur a lot younger than me (I'm 41), when I look back I've had anxiety since late teens...
Vegas Toffee Girl
Player Valuation: £8m
I've been thinking about trying this. I'm happy it worked for you!
the golden visionary
Player Valuation: £35m
Definitely try it.
Not as affordable or doable here as it is for you though, sadly, otherwise I would.
I know this will pass, it has happened before, just idk, feels somehow worse this time around - probably cuz buying a place is a big step and more long term than renting, so there's more 'attached' to it...
Kenshin
Player Valuation: £40m
I didn't want to clog this thread up with my updates so have left it until now , just if anyone is interested.
All the stuff with my auntie had came out now, without any drama with the funeral in mind. So she has been even more hands off than usual and the couple of jobs she had to do she hasn't actually done. Or hasn't done yet , given the short time frame now it's clearly as she has no money to do it.
On the other side of things. After the police wouldn't help , safeguarding couldn't help, work and pensions didn't want anything to do with it neither so we have hit a brick wall in terms and of doing anything about it. Speaking to the bank they said she wouldn't have power of attorney though which I'm hoping gives us something.
On Friday we are going back the bank to get a proper understanding of what the agreement was on the account and then if promising , back to the police again with all the evidence. I'm praying that this is something we can finally progress with , for my own mental health at least.
I think generally my mind is still up in the air with everything. I'm finally starting to open up a little in terms of grieving so close to the funeral. I broke down last week after arguing with the other half and I'm starting to get emotional now thinking of the funeral and what I'm going to say. Good signs hopefully that I can sort my head out finally as I haven't felt myself the last few weeks. Just in a bubble having to support more than one person in my life whilst keeping strong for the kids.
Hopefully getting up on Tuesday and talking about her life is what I need to finally grieve given the last few weeks of feeling helpless whilst trying to support those around me
All the stuff with my auntie had came out now, without any drama with the funeral in mind. So she has been even more hands off than usual and the couple of jobs she had to do she hasn't actually done. Or hasn't done yet , given the short time frame now it's clearly as she has no money to do it.
On the other side of things. After the police wouldn't help , safeguarding couldn't help, work and pensions didn't want anything to do with it neither so we have hit a brick wall in terms and of doing anything about it. Speaking to the bank they said she wouldn't have power of attorney though which I'm hoping gives us something.
On Friday we are going back the bank to get a proper understanding of what the agreement was on the account and then if promising , back to the police again with all the evidence. I'm praying that this is something we can finally progress with , for my own mental health at least.
I think generally my mind is still up in the air with everything. I'm finally starting to open up a little in terms of grieving so close to the funeral. I broke down last week after arguing with the other half and I'm starting to get emotional now thinking of the funeral and what I'm going to say. Good signs hopefully that I can sort my head out finally as I haven't felt myself the last few weeks. Just in a bubble having to support more than one person in my life whilst keeping strong for the kids.
Hopefully getting up on Tuesday and talking about her life is what I need to finally grieve given the last few weeks of feeling helpless whilst trying to support those around me
Is your aunt going to be at the funeral mate ?
If so I think it would be wise to have as little contact as possible with her on the day.
carlos21
KING OF REP
Are you watching the super bowl.
Kenshin
Player Valuation: £40m
She is but she isn't travelling in the car. My guess is that she will be last one in first one out on the day which is good for everyone all round. She won't be at the wake