Yes indeed, everybody is different , although they also do phone call help. What’s most important is that you’ve found solutions that work for you, well done on that.
Gwladysover
Player Valuation: £35m
Agree 100%. I was referred for group therapy sessions for anxiety and panic and to say I was apprehensive is putting it mildly.
We were immediately put at our ease though. We were told on arrival that the door to the hall would be left open, we were free to leave at any time no questions asked and if we felt able to return after gathering our thoughts we could just return to our seats and carry on as if nothing had happened or we could go home and try again next week if we felt able. There were a dozen of us and a complete cross section of society. I enjoyed the meetings and from having to be practically dragged to the first session I was sad when they ended. I realise that they may not be everybody but from personal experience they were very helpful and I’m very glad I took the plunge.
barmcake
Player Valuation: £225k
"I can't see an end to it."
I've been reading some of my posts in this thread from 4 years ago and that line really hit me. As a family we had 4+ horrific years when my eldest son had serious issues with anxiety and depression. We really were struggling and my son was in a dark place. He missed so much school, was physically abusive to us, was suicidal and we had the police/ambulance out to us on more than one occasion. I was lost, couldn't see how we'd get out of it and as a family we were falling apart.
I provided further updates to the thread on his improvements but today seemed like a good time to say how proud I am of where he's at now. He's 16 today. This all started around 6 years ago. After he was put on medication and switched schools he achieved 100% attendance at school until covid hit. He made new friends at his new school and maintained his friends from his old school. He coped with covid, home learning and all the extra assessments. He's got a girlfriend now too who he's been with for a while. He got his GCSE results recently and did fantastically well and got what he needed for a levels at college. He went on a two week work experience over summer and impressed them that much that they offered him a job/apprenticeship. He's decided to do that and hopefully starts in two weeks. He's funny, articulate, intelligent and caring. All the things I knew were buried in there.
Whilst on work experience he was given a lift home by someone who worked there. They were talking and they established that the paramedic who came to see my son and talked to him for three hours was this guys brother in law. This paramedic didn't give up on my son and eventually convinced him to go to hospital. That day was a turning point. Sadly, the paramedic died of covid last year. My son told the guy that he was sad to learn of his passing as whilst he didn't know him, he felt a connection with him as he saved his life that day.
So whilst I don't think we are at the end of this, we are certainly in a place that I didn't think we'd ever get to.
Thanks to all those who supported me at the time with messages of support. At one point, this was the only place I could "talk".
Barm.
I've been reading some of my posts in this thread from 4 years ago and that line really hit me. As a family we had 4+ horrific years when my eldest son had serious issues with anxiety and depression. We really were struggling and my son was in a dark place. He missed so much school, was physically abusive to us, was suicidal and we had the police/ambulance out to us on more than one occasion. I was lost, couldn't see how we'd get out of it and as a family we were falling apart.
I provided further updates to the thread on his improvements but today seemed like a good time to say how proud I am of where he's at now. He's 16 today. This all started around 6 years ago. After he was put on medication and switched schools he achieved 100% attendance at school until covid hit. He made new friends at his new school and maintained his friends from his old school. He coped with covid, home learning and all the extra assessments. He's got a girlfriend now too who he's been with for a while. He got his GCSE results recently and did fantastically well and got what he needed for a levels at college. He went on a two week work experience over summer and impressed them that much that they offered him a job/apprenticeship. He's decided to do that and hopefully starts in two weeks. He's funny, articulate, intelligent and caring. All the things I knew were buried in there.
Whilst on work experience he was given a lift home by someone who worked there. They were talking and they established that the paramedic who came to see my son and talked to him for three hours was this guys brother in law. This paramedic didn't give up on my son and eventually convinced him to go to hospital. That day was a turning point. Sadly, the paramedic died of covid last year. My son told the guy that he was sad to learn of his passing as whilst he didn't know him, he felt a connection with him as he saved his life that day.
So whilst I don't think we are at the end of this, we are certainly in a place that I didn't think we'd ever get to.
Thanks to all those who supported me at the time with messages of support. At one point, this was the only place I could "talk".
Barm.
Been lying awake stressing about work for the last 3 hours. Need a new job
Sassy Colombian
Member: Team PoP
Barm, congratulations on yours son improved situation, you have many reasons to be proud!
Sassy Colombian
Member: Team PoP
Stressing about work is not good mate, sorry that you are having such sleepless night. But it seems you are recognizing that your work is having bad effects on your mental health. Have you considered checking out what else is out there for work? Maybe finding a new job, a new opportunity that’s less stressful.
A super story, well done to your son and to you and your family for the part you played.
Wonderful post mate. You must be exceptionally proud and I hope he is very proud of himself.
Sad news about the paramedic but if nothing else it should highlight the fleeting nature of some of the influences that can have a profound effect on us and our path in life.
Best of luck to you and your family for the future.
I remember that feeling very well and wouldn’t wish it on anyone else.
I ended up working for myself but realise that’s not an option for everyone. First step I took was making a budget spreadsheet, to help me understand what I could afford to live on; that will set an important parameter for your new job search. Obviously factor in location and any other important aspects of a potential new job and then get onto agencies, job sites etc.
Fingers crossed something comes up soon for you.
@Sassy Colombian
Spoke to my boss, we agreed that I need help to run the areas. There are 12 separate contracts in these areas which I run alone.
I've got more ops than the other 2 areas combined, I made a rod for my own back because I ran it so well they gave me extra responsibility, ie EMLs, Plant and externals.
Were looking at a part time admin to take off that pressure. They offered me a rise next month.
I'm prepared to wait it out for now. I will never cut off my nose to spiderface
That is so amazing to read. I remember your posts from a few years ago. So good to have a positive outcome. Wishing you, your family and your son in his new job lots of happiness in the future x
Sassy Colombian
Member: Team PoP
That's a great development @the golden visionary sometimes our bosses may not noticed how overwhelming a job has become unless we speak up so good for you for letting him see that you need help. It seems your boss has also been receptive to your request so hopefully you will find a part-time admin to assist you soon and having a raise it is always nice too. Hopefully these news will help you have a better night of sleep tonight. x
To be honest it's more a case of pragmatism on their part. Thanks for the kind comments
Sassy Colombian
Member: Team PoP
Well if pragmatism is what gets you more help at work then whatever has to be done to get you some reasonable assistance is a better result than none
Sassy Colombian
Member: Team PoP
@messymascot best wishes with your appointment tomorrow. If you feel like it let us know how everything went. xx
