Keep your nob in your pants - or as she crapped on you?
A divorce is like a hurricane for a male you wake up & the best things are gone - get a top divorce solicitor who has recommendations ASAP
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A divorce is like a hurricane for a male you wake up & the best things are gone - get a top divorce solicitor who has recommendations ASAP
Little Ralphy
Player Valuation: £15m
Thanks, I pay for everything to be fair, even send her money each month. Annoys me a bit cos she seems to spend all her money and now when we come to put it in the pot to be shared, it’ll be my savings to be shared, cos she spent all hers. Is what it is I guess.
Little Ralphy
Player Valuation: £15m
Thanks, I’ll go with the advice on here and look for one first thing. See what legal help I can get.
I had a boss who was playing away - I lived next door he climbed up the downspout & kidnapped the two kids - she then when he was at work his wife put sugar in his car ..feul tank
one night I heard uproar one night went down to the nursery & his wife was knoking hell out of his girlfriend who was a plain Jane IMO .....
I had to call security.....
The moral of the story is a standing organ has no conscience!
My boss had me in front of Personal tried to discipline me for calling security etc I was accused of putting petrol in his car feul system ?
Little did he know his wife had been around to us to prove he indeed was a bigimist..
I just hinted to Personal that could I talk in private. He immediately dropped his allegations against me
I Immediately started looking for a new job away from this ex army man. He was a crap horticulturist anyrate plus the pay was crap,....
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If you have a Mortgage stay in the house. My biggest mistake was moving out as she then had all the power and I got less than my share.
Don't agree to anything less than 50/50 childcare. That way she can't dictate when you see your children and poison them against you. Also because you won't be paying child Maintenance you can put that towards your rent/mortgage.
Take your money out of your bank account before she does. If her solicitor says you removed cash you just say you spent it on holidays and gambling. If you don't remove that money she will and you wont get a single penny back as its classed as joint money.
My divorce cost me about £9000 but I wasted time at the start not paying for a decent solicitor. My 2nd solicitor was a lot better. I was forced to to pay £1800 because she filed for divorce against me and although the file was absolute lies and she had an affair I still paid her court costs/fees.
She proper blind sided me by being nice at the start but it was all just a game and it cost me
Don't agree to anything less than 50/50 childcare. That way she can't dictate when you see your children and poison them against you. Also because you won't be paying child Maintenance you can put that towards your rent/mortgage.
Take your money out of your bank account before she does. If her solicitor says you removed cash you just say you spent it on holidays and gambling. If you don't remove that money she will and you wont get a single penny back as its classed as joint money.
My divorce cost me about £9000 but I wasted time at the start not paying for a decent solicitor. My 2nd solicitor was a lot better. I was forced to to pay £1800 because she filed for divorce against me and although the file was absolute lies and she had an affair I still paid her court costs/fees.
She proper blind sided me by being nice at the start but it was all just a game and it cost me
Get th8e best you can !
Are you aware if she has a male friend his clothes or suitcases only have to be in your house for one week & he has rights to!
Little Ralphy
Player Valuation: £15m
Is that why everyone keeps saying don’t move out? She’s pushing me to move out all the time. We’re both named so not sure why it would affect it. But obviously does. I wouldn’t move out without the kids anyway.
Even with 50/50 apparently I still need to pay a decent amount a month. I looked that up and put all the figures in and it’s true.
Mad you had to pay her fees as well, that’s what she keeps saying to me, if I go to court I’ll have to pay her costs as well. £9k is a lot for that, I hope you came out of it better than without spending it.
Little Ralphy
Player Valuation: £15m
Good luck to him if she has.
I would say the 60/40 was about right during my divorce.
Yes but that's why legally you Nedd the best solicitor 9 grand could save you 30 grand in the future
It's half your house tell her that straight see you in court....or suggest marriage councillors get proof you suggested that ,
Please ignore everything Joey is saying.
If she is pushing you to move out she has someone giving her advice.
Once you move out she will change the locks. If you then say I'm moving back in she can file for an order saying you are a danger to her . Even the threat of the order means you wont enter the house because it could also affect access to your children.
If she is the main carer like my ex was she could use that against you during negotiations. That way she will get a higher percentage of the equity in the house.
Also once you move out she will drag the divorce for as long as possible knowing eventually you will settle for less money as you will be in temporary accommodation.
Every bit of contact /communication your solicitor has costs money and it soon adds up.
Look the 50/50 childcare up again because my understanding was you pay when there with you. She pays when the kids are with her.