Fathers of GrandOldTeam

[Groucho]

I have fond memories of driving around town with my youngest in the back seat in the early hours just to get her to sleep.

Done that with the eldest. As I said earlier, youngest is glued to his bed.

 

[Armaghtoffee]

Sleep every opportunity you get.

It’s all about sleep.

 

[Naisy'sCharitableLeanings]

My son’s 20 and in his second year at university now. I enjoyed him as a baby and as a toddler, and as he got older, it was great doing dad stuff like helping with homework and going out on trips together - he taught me a lot by choosing the places he wanted to go. But it’s great having a grown up son - when you first know you’re having a boy, the stuff we do now is what you picture when you get that news. Having him and his girlfriend over for a meal, grown up conversations, etc. Probably not putting this very well, but there’s never a bad stage in being a dad, no matter how old they are or what they get up to. You won’t always like them, their choices or actions, but you will always love them.

 

[Armaghtoffee]

When your baby is crying and screaming even though she's been fed, changed and every other thing you can think of don't start thinking you're crap or doing something wrong. They just cry and scream sometimes.

Good advice that.

They are all very different and there are no instructions.

 

[McBain]

Lads, my wife is due this week with our little girl. I'm proper excited and under no illusions about how tough parenthood can be, but I wondered what advice you all have?

If you could go back and do anything different again with your first, what would it be? I have my bag packed for the hospital and it's all getting very real now!

I'm genuinely intrigued to get any advice and hear about your own experiences. Fire away.

DONT look back. I dont mean figuratively, I mean whatever you do, dont look back.

It’ll ruin you for a long time.

 

[Alan Whittle]

Fatherhood is the greatest thing. Enjoy all of it, knackered or not. Good luck

 

[dholliday]

My son’s 20 and in his second year at university now. I enjoyed him as a baby and as a toddler, and as he got older, it was great doing dad stuff like helping with homework and going out on trips together - he taught me a lot by choosing the places he wanted to go. But it’s great having a grown up son - when you first know you’re having a boy, the stuff we do now is what you picture when you get that news. Having him and his girlfriend over for a meal, grown up conversations, etc. Probably not putting this very well, but there’s never a bad stage in being a dad, no matter how old they are or what they get up to. You won’t always like them, their choices or actions, but you will always love them.

Lovely post, tho' sadly it's not universal.

Good advice that.

They are all very different and there are no instructions.

True. Tho' I've had a good success rate with picking them up and showing them around the flat. The changing scenery plus me talking waffle seems to distract them from crying, then with any luck after a few minutes the eyelids will get heavy.

 

[evertony]

Carry on being yourself, don’t doubt what you’re doing when they don’t stop crying, and don’t wrap them in cotton wool. Smother them in love, but not cotton wool. And teach them one thing above all else....good manners. My three girls are all grown up now but parenting, whilst being tough at times, is a privilege. Wouldn’t change a single second of it.
Congratulations too.

 

[JammyP]

Don't drink till the baby comes. You need your energy for a long night, when it comes.

Good luck!

 

[tim gabbott]

Don’t let her sleep in your bed even when she’s ill

Have a holiday before she starts crawling,, because it’s a game changer after that ...

Share the load with your mrs give her plenty of naps ... if she’s not so tired she won’t bite your head off

 

[dholliday]

Share the load with your mrs give her plenty of naps ... if she’s not so tired she won’t bite your head off

top advice that

 

[stony]

Lads, my wife is due this week with our little girl. I'm proper excited and under no illusions about how tough parenthood can be, but I wondered what advice you all have?

If you could go back and do anything different again with your first, what would it be? I have my bag packed for the hospital and it's all getting very real now!

I'm genuinely intrigued to get any advice and hear about your own experiences. Fire away.

I have a daughter who is 34 and a son who is 26. I still run around after them as though they can't wipe their own bums. Would I do anything different? Yes. I'd have had a vasectomy at 16.

 

[WA Toffee]

You will do some things right, you will do some things wrong. Most advice you receive will not work for you as every child is different.
Just make sure you give your wife time off as she will no doubt be awake every night feeding, let her sleep during the day or go to bed at dinner time if that’s what she needs.

And please remember, not everyone will think that your child is the most beautiful child ever, so don’t bore them with endless photos.

 

[Socrates]

Just make sure you bring them up to be a decent human being.

With that grounding, they will find their way in life.

 

[hibbo'sclass]

Spend the first 14 years either drunk or seperated from the mother (mostly both), then move to a different country.
Re-establish contact 4 years later when they turn up for a week long stay which turns into 2 and a half years.
When they leave to go to Uni, bin all their bedroom furniture and tell them that you've turned it into an office - 8 hours after they walked out the door.
When they graduate, be incredibly proud - was lucky here, he got a job straight away in London so didn't have to come back to mine to stay.
Never let said offspring forget that you are the best parent ever and have been mother and father to them
Meet up when we're playing in London and talk on the phone at least once a year.
Think that covers it apart from try and remember their date of birth.
Glad to be of assistance.


Congratulations to you both.