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[anjelikaferrett]

Spread….

I thought you were giving an instruction Apologies for lowering the tone.

 

[anjelikaferrett]

Last one…I’ve posted this before , but it’s so beautiful , his immensely talented wife June died a few months after this and he followed shortly after…sorry I’m in a wine and morbid mood…..it’s Sunday….

Beautiful version of this song.

 

[Barnfred 55]

I thought you were giving an instruction Apologies for lowering the tone.

Anj!!!!

 

[peteblue]

Last one…I’ve posted this before , but it’s so beautiful , his immensely talented wife June died a few months after this and he followed shortly after…sorry I’m in a wine and morbid mood…..it’s Sunday….

We got married 51 years ago, before the wedding the priest said that one of us may die before the other and how would that feel. Both myself and my wife , Kay, said we will go together and that has always been our intention. She obviously has Alzheimer’s and cannot follow through on this, but if she goes first I will be gone the same day, I’ll let you all know just before, but we get buried together as we always have been….I know the wine is making me open up, but it will happen….

 

[Val P]

We got married 51 years ago, before the wedding the priest said that one of us may die before the other and how would that feel. Both myself and my wife , Kay, said we will go together and that has always been our intention. She obviously has Alzheimer’s and cannot follow through on this, but if she goes first I will be gone the same day, I’ll let you all know just before, but we get buried together as we always have been….I know the wine is making me open up, but it will happen….

Your deep and enduring love is so moving

 

[Ducans elbow]

@Barnfred 55 this gin is the dogs bollicks

 

[blue1948]

Spread…….

No ,I made oit too easy so one more same word new extra meaning -stick

 

[jazzy]

We got married 51 years ago, before the wedding the priest said that one of us may die before the other and how would that feel. Both myself and my wife , Kay, said we will go together and that has always been our intention. She obviously has Alzheimer’s and cannot follow through on this, but if she goes first I will be gone the same day, I’ll let you all know just before, but we get buried together as we always have been….I know the wine is making me open up, but it will happen….

Oh Pete , jeez - this is the first thing I read this morning - no idea what to say. Take care mate.

 

[blue1948]

Saw them at the Empire just before the plane crash.

On a different note Gear Darn just been on Countryfile. The world is waking up to the fact they make the absolute best pasties, as Blue will confirm.

they are the best darn pasties ,confirmed.

 

[blue1948]

We got married 51 years ago, before the wedding the priest said that one of us may die before the other and how would that feel. Both myself and my wife , Kay, said we will go together and that has always been our intention. She obviously has Alzheimer’s and cannot follow through on this, but if she goes first I will be gone the same day, I’ll let you all know just before, but we get buried together as we always have been….I know the wine is making me open up, but it will happen….

I have a pact with my wife too .

 

[blue1948]

Spread….

After reconsideration I have to say you are correct @peteblue ,it was not the word I was after hence the next meaning I have given . And no @jazzy it is not an obscure joinery term ,there is a difficult definition to make it hard .

 

[jazzy]

I have a pact with my wife too .

We got married 51 years ago, before the wedding the priest said that one of us may die before the other and how would that feel. Both myself and my wife , Kay, said we will go together and that has always been our intention. She obviously has Alzheimer’s and cannot follow through on this, but if she goes first I will be gone the same day, I’ll let you all know just before, but we get buried together as we always have been….I know the wine is making me open up, but it will happen….

Hi Blue and Pete,

I've waited 30 minutes or so after reading your posts before replying.

I hope what I say doesn't cause offence but we have always expressed honest opinions between friends on this brilliant thread.

Well I haven't been married as long as either of you but have been with my wife for over 40 years and married for 35 come October.

As you both know my wife has has serious health issues ( which fortunately she has come through) including 2 open heart
surgeries when there was a possibility that she might not survive the operation.

So, in my darkest days I ( rightly or wrongly) contemplated what life would be like without her.

At no point did I consider that I would not want to live if she was no longer with me.

Our own Fred and Roydo have shown us that hard as it is , it is possible to rebuild your life after the loss of your beloved partner. Please , please understand Fred that I am in no way trying to minimise the effect upon you of the loss of Cal and only you know how you have been able to cope. However they are living proof that literally "life goes on".

In my case I would need to be here to look after my mum and the animals but even if that wasn't the case I believe that , like Fred , I would have to find things , friends , whatever to build a new life.

I know that in my wife's case that God forbid I died in an accident tomorrow that she would feel the same and would do what she needed to do . And that's what I would want her to do .

So, in all honesty I cannot really understand the concept that you have both related. This isn't a subject that I would normally chat about but given that both raised it I feel it appropriate to express my opinion if only to show solidarity with Fred.

If Blue and Pete what you and your wives have agreed is right for you then who is anyone to express a contrary opinion but as a friend I would urge you to consider the effect upon others , you have so many other people that love you.

I have had 2 friends commit suicide and the effect upon their families was distressing and profound and something that many of them could never come to terms with.

Well, there we are. I've expressed my opinion. I hope that others feel able to offer their wisdom.

Once again I hope that I haven't caused offence.

 

[Val P]

Hi Blue and Pete,

I've waited 30 minutes or so after reading your posts before replying.

I hope what I say doesn't cause offence but we have always expressed honest opinions between friends on this brilliant thread.

Well I haven't been married as long as either of you but have been with my wife for over 40 years and married for 35 come October.

As you both know my wife has has serious health issues ( which fortunately she has come through) including 2 open heart
surgeries when there was a possibility that she might not survive the operation.

So, in my darkest days I ( rightly or wrongly) contemplated what life would be like without her.

At no point did I consider that I would not want to live if she was no longer with me.

Our own Fred and Roydo have shown us that hard as it is , it is possible to rebuild your life after the loss of your beloved partner. Please , please understand Fred that I am in no way trying to minimise the effect upon you of the loss of Cal and only you know how you have been able to cope. However they are living proof that literally "life goes on".

In my case I would need to be here to look after my mum and the animals but even if that wasn't the case I believe that , like Fred , I would have to find things , friends , whatever to build a new life.

I know that in my wife's case that God forbid I died in an accident tomorrow that she would feel the same and would do what she needed to do . And that's what I would want her to do .

So, in all honesty I cannot really understand the concept that you have both related. This isn't a subject that I would normally chat about but given that both raised it I feel it appropriate to express my opinion if only to show solidarity with Fred.

If Blue and Pete what you and your wives have agreed is right for you then who is anyone to express a contrary opinion but as a friend I would urge you to consider the effect upon others , you have so many other people that love you.

I have had 2 friends commit suicide and the effect upon their families was distressing and profound and something that many of them could never come to terms with.

Well, there we are. I've expressed my opinion. I hope that others feel able to offer their wisdom.

Once again I hope that I haven't caused offence.

I think we have to just acknowledge those feelings without trying to understand, and recognise what a safe and supportive space has been created on this thread to make blue and Pete feel they can share them. Although I am new to this thread I recognised immediately the tight friendship (if I can use that word) and huge support you are and obviously have been to each other. I just wish you all peace of mind.

 

[anjelikaferrett]

We got married 51 years ago, before the wedding the priest said that one of us may die before the other and how would that feel. Both myself and my wife , Kay, said we will go together and that has always been our intention. She obviously has Alzheimer’s and cannot follow through on this, but if she goes first I will be gone the same day, I’ll let you all know just before, but we get buried together as we always have been….I know the wine is making me open up, but it will happen….

Oh Pete. I have no words.

 

[PhilM]

I have had 2 friends commit suicide and the effect upon their families was distressing and profound and something that many of them could never come to terms with.

It's a very difficult thing to talk about because, ultimately, Pete has his own convictions and we don't want to offend, but as you've said... think about your children.

They will have lost their mother, and I'm confident the worst thing that could happen is they lose their father at the same time, when they will need him most.