Messymascot's faith in humanity and ginger safe haven

[Sassy Colombian]

Well put Jazzy, all the best to you and yours , back to reality for me I'm having to do a shift at work to make up my hours for travelling back home, small sacrifice and it's only for a month.
Watched some of the old highlights of Glastonbury last night and Paul Si.on was on, a genuine legend who has contributed so much to music.

Have a good shift at work, LB. At least it seems you like your PT job so it makes the sacrifice less painful.

 

[jazzy]

Just wanted to say thanks a lot for all the kind messages last night. It was a late one for me, didn't get to bed until after 3am. I opened a bottle of bubbly at midnight and obviously couldn't waste any . Feel surprisingly OK this morning considering how much I drank throughout the night (started on the rum and gingers about 4pm). Didn't even feel that drunk by the time I went to bed although I did crash the moment my head hit the pillow.

Last night was one of reflection for me. It was the first time in my 60 years that I have spent New Years Eve on my own. But when I thought about it I quickly realised that it was MY choice. I could have gone to the local pub or asked the neighbours around for a drink if I'd wanted company. The fact is, I chose to spend it on my own, there are probably many millions of people around today that spent New Year on their own and didn't have that choice. Yes I miss Cal. God how I miss her. But I was able to enjoy good food and even better wine last night, I live in a beautiful house in the best place in the world, and I have lots of family and friends who I know care about me. There are many many people who's situation in life is far worse than mine.

That is something that our good friend Karl showed me. When Cal passed away, it was the early hours of the morning and I was away at sea with no means of contacting friends and family. It was to the mental health thread on here that I turned and Karl was one of the many of you who reached out to me and offered support. He continued to be there for me, as did many of you, but it was only when I happened across this thread that I realised what he was going through himself, and what a truly selfless and generous person he was At the time I was probably slipping into depression and it really did give me the kick I needed to sort myself out.

I'm not one for making new year resolutions, but this year I'll kind of make an exception. My life going forward is in my own hands and I am very fortunate in that regard. My future will be determined by the decisions I make, and my resolution is to try and always make the right decisions, and to always try and remain positive.

For now can I just say a very big thank you to you guys and especially to Messy. Because most of my friends and family are back in Liverpool, this thread is where I turn for just general camaraderie and chit chat. and I don't think you'll ever understand just how important you all are to me at the moment. I guess this thread goes a long way to filling the void in my life left by Cal's passing.

Love and best wishes for a prosperous and happy 2022 to all of you.

Beautiful.

 

[peteblue]

Good people in here……

 

[jazzy]

Oh no, Jazzy. I’m so sorry to hear Mrs. J is suffering of a bad ear infection those can be very painful. I was wondering what had happened to you last night. I hope her pain decreases before Tuesday’s appointment.

She's still the same.

I've just started the New Year well with a 45 minute cardio while I watched the 2nd half of the Arsenal / City game at the gym.

Fine game , even better workout - sweating like a pig and feel great.

 

[blue1948]

All the best x

Thank you @Reedy1979 for keeping us abreast of the sad situation ,can I thank you personally as it has had such in impact on me ,I have suufered the sadness of losing a person I didn't know but it still affected me so much .
Karl left behind something he might never have dreamt ,he has left behind a haven with the appearance of a coffee shop .
He has bonded strangers in a way I have never seen .
He has made friends of people who have argued before and now laugh and joke together
and personally he has given me reason to visit this site many times a day
Have a wonderful New year and stay safe my friend.

 

[Sassy Colombian]

Glad you enjoyed them Sass.

There are many cocktails out there that call themselves Orgasms, but all the others are fake.

I did, Fred. I enjoyed many orgasms last night. I bough this bottle of Baileys that has 40% less sugar so they were actually delicious and perfect to drink throughout the night and morning hours, along with some Prosecco.

Last night was one of reflection for me. It was the first time in my 60 years that I have spent New Years Eve on my own. But when I thought about it I quickly realised that it was MY choice. I could have gone to the local pub or asked the neighbours around for a drink if I'd wanted company. The fact is, I chose to spend it on my own, there are probably many millions of people around today that spent New Year on their own and didn't have that choice. Yes I miss Cal. God how I miss her. But I was able to enjoy good food and even better wine last night, I live in a beautiful house in the best place in the world, and I have lots of family and friends who I know care about me. There are many many people who's situation in life is far worse than mine.

That is something that our good friend Karl showed me. When Cal passed away, it was the early hours of the morning and I was away at sea with no means of contacting friends and family. It was to the mental health thread on here that I turned and Karl was one of the many of you who reached out to me and offered support. He continued to be there for me, as did many of you, but it was only when I happened across this thread that I realised what he was going through himself, and what a truly selfless and generous person he was At the time I was probably slipping into depression and it really did give me the kick I needed to sort myself out.

I'm not one for making new year resolutions, but this year I'll kind of make an exception. My life going forward is in my own hands and I am very fortunate in that regard. My future will be determined by the decisions I make, and my resolution is to try and always make the right decisions, and to always try and remain positive.

For now can I just say a very big thank you to you guys and especially to Messy. Because most of my friends and family are back in Liverpool, this thread is where I turn for just general camaraderie and chit chat. and I don't think you'll ever understand just how important you all are to me at the moment. I guess this thread goes a long way to filling the void in my life left by Cal's passing.

Love and best wishes for a prosperous and happy 2022 to all of you.

Oh Fred, what a lovely post. You just brought tears to my eyes with your contemplation and positive outlook to the future, even though it will be a totally different one without Cal. While losing her has certainly brought some gloomy days to your life, being able to look at the many good things that you still have and be grateful for it makes you a better man and one that I’m proud to call my friend ?

 

[Sassy Colombian]

I am surprised ,I thought you might have eaten horse meat .It is just like beef but a stronger taste -a bit earthy as all wild meat is .
Have a beautiful and prosperous New Year ,you and all around you .Un saludo especiala a tu madre .

In Colombia I probably ate horse before without knowing it, that along with dog lol

 

[Sassy Colombian]

She's still the same.

I've just started the New Year well with a 45 minute cardio while I watched the 2nd half of the Arsenal / City game at the gym.

Fine game , even better workout - sweating like a pig and feel great.

I have only experienced an ear infection once in my life and it can be very debilitating. Poor Mrs. J, no the way to begin the new year but hopefully this is the only bump she encounters in 2022.

 

[jazzy]

I did, Fred. I enjoyed many orgasms last night. I bough this bottle of Baileys that has 40% less sugar so they were actually delicious and perfect to drink throughout the night and morning hours, along with some Prosecco.

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Oh Fred, what a lovely post. You just brought tears to my eyes with your contemplation and positive outlook to the future, even though it will be a totally different one without Cal. While losing her has certainly brought some gloomy days to your life, being able to look at the many good things that you still have and be grateful for it makes you a better man and one that I’m proud to call my friend ?

Looks like you've made a big dent in that Bailey's already Sassy!

 

[Barnfred 55]

She's still the same.

I've just started the New Year well with a 45 minute cardio while I watched the 2nd half of the Arsenal / City game at the gym.

Fine game , even better workout - sweating like a pig and feel great.

Thank you for sharing

 

[Sassy Colombian]

Good afternoon lovely people!

It is 2022 and the sun is shining here in Asheville, another day that feels like spring instead of winter. I’m feeling a bit rough this morning after my orgasmic experience but we had a great time with the hubby last night. He, like me, enjoys dancing so we played music (too loud for my daughter’s liking) and shook our bodies until the early morning hours while having many cocktails and raising our glasses in honour of several people. Today is going to be a lazy day for me. I’m supposed to get back to work on Monday after almost a month off so I’m just going to make the most of my last two days off by no doing much. December was a great month, with lots of adventures and celebrations but it has been a busy one so staying home feels wonderful.

I am definitely looking forward to watching Everton’s match tomorrow. It feels like it has been forever since we saw them last playing. I’m eager to see DCL playing again for us and also our new signing Vitaliy!

Cheers for a better 2022 for everyone here and may our Blues give us some happiness too ?

 

[Sassy Colombian]

Looks like you've made a big dent in that Bailey's already Sassy!

I did, Jazzy. And now I’m paying for it lol

When I tried to get in the jacuzzi this morning I looked no different than this elephant, that’s what all those orgasms did to me.

 

[Gwladysover]

Morning everyone and once again a happy New Year to one and all.

Mrs J asleep and she had a bad night so letting her rest.

So , sat here typing on a dry and unseasonally warm new year's day. The clouds are breaking and scudding across the sky on a more than gentle breeze.

I raised a couple of glasses to Karl , Fred and everyone else on the thread last night but to be honest with Mrs J not being well I really didn't drink very much.

So another New Year. Let's earnestly hope that it is so much better than the last one.

Kar'ls tragic condition and passing is I guess a reminder to all of us that no one knows what is going to happen in the future and to live in the moment. As someone who has spent their whole life planning and organising I find that really difficult but suppose that the pandemic makes that even more difficult.

What Karl has done through his honesty , bravery, decency and spirit is bring us all together to share experiences and thoughts and generally brighten the day , long may that continue.

Genuinely I think that I am a better person for this thread and all the associations. I think I'm kinder , more patient and far less judgemental than I used to be. I now think before I say or write something for fear of inadvertently upsetting someone .

So thanks Karl. Hope you are doing ok wherever you are mate.

I hope this doesn't sound maudlin , it's not supposed to , but balancing the thought of loss against the hope for the future is difficult particularly with this damn pandemic that is wrecking so many lives at this time.

I would talk about football and Everton but that would be really depressing.

So , let's carry on supporting everyone and in the words of Paul Simon "Have a Good Time ".

"Paranoia strikes deep in the heartland
But I think it's all overdone
Exaggerating this , exaggerating that
They don't have no fun

Maybe I'm laughing my way to disaster
Maybe my race has been run
Maybe I'm blind
To the fate of mankind
But what can be done !

So have a Good Time "

Well said, Hope Mrs Jazzy feels better soon.

 

[Gwladysover]

Just wanted to say thanks a lot for all the kind messages last night. It was a late one for me, didn't get to bed until after 3am. I opened a bottle of bubbly at midnight and obviously couldn't waste any . Feel surprisingly OK this morning considering how much I drank throughout the night (started on the rum and gingers about 4pm). Didn't even feel that drunk by the time I went to bed although I did crash the moment my head hit the pillow.

Last night was one of reflection for me. It was the first time in my 60 years that I have spent New Years Eve on my own. But when I thought about it I quickly realised that it was MY choice. I could have gone to the local pub or asked the neighbours around for a drink if I'd wanted company. The fact is, I chose to spend it on my own, there are probably many millions of people around today that spent New Year on their own and didn't have that choice. Yes I miss Cal. God how I miss her. But I was able to enjoy good food and even better wine last night, I live in a beautiful house in the best place in the world, and I have lots of family and friends who I know care about me. There are many many people who's situation in life is far worse than mine.

That is something that our good friend Karl showed me. When Cal passed away, it was the early hours of the morning and I was away at sea with no means of contacting friends and family. It was to the mental health thread on here that I turned and Karl was one of the many of you who reached out to me and offered support. He continued to be there for me, as did many of you, but it was only when I happened across this thread that I realised what he was going through himself, and what a truly selfless and generous person he was At the time I was probably slipping into depression and it really did give me the kick I needed to sort myself out.

I'm not one for making new year resolutions, but this year I'll kind of make an exception. My life going forward is in my own hands and I am very fortunate in that regard. My future will be determined by the decisions I make, and my resolution is to try and always make the right decisions, and to always try and remain positive.

For now can I just say a very big thank you to you guys and especially to Messy. Because most of my friends and family are back in Liverpool, this thread is where I turn for just general camaraderie and chit chat. and I don't think you'll ever understand just how important you all are to me at the moment. I guess this thread goes a long way to filling the void in my life left by Cal's passing.

Love and best wishes for a prosperous and happy 2022 to all of you.

Beautifully put, Fred. Wishing you all the very best.?

 

[Gwladysover]

@Methuselah hope all is well with you and Mrs M.