Some time back, women were told they should feel empowered to go out and work, they did, the labour pool grew to satisfy capitalist factory owners, incomes increased and the price of everything, like houses, doubled - so single people, male or female were suddenly worse off, couples were as they were but now with both working and now arguing who does the housework.
I was envious of a friend who was a house husband while his missus piled in an enormous salary and he went around enjoying coffee mornings, doung a bit of laundry and vacuuming while chatting to other parents. Good on him for bagging that, the odious little toad.
One parent should be available to look after the little scrotes, certainly in the first few years of development. Which this is depends on income lost, career impact of time out and character. It can be male or female.
Give kids time, talk to them, answer all their questions, limit tv / media.
I say this as having never been a parent, but now watching my step-daughter and missus bring up a 2 year old. I can speak though, having taught rhousands of the little horrors for nearly 30 years. My step-daughter is doing a grand job BUT ... these are things I don't like to see - and I see it everywhere from the parents:
1. Consulting the child on every decision - what do you want to eat/do etc. A parent has many more years of experience of making decisions and appreciation of consequences than a 2 year old. Tell them what they're eating, tell them what they're doing next, discuss it if they object, decide for them and show leadership. Ask them occasuonally, as a treat. A 2 year old doesn't yet know and constantly asking them is a source of stress. It also encourages them to pick and choose what they will eat, rather than eating a healthy balanced diet that an experienced patent puts before them.
2. They're not your "mate" don't call them that. They are your dependent, you are responsible for them, you are a parent not a friend and they need leadership not equality and (too much) freedom. Love isn't the same as being a mate. They have mates to be mates with, but the relationship with a parent is entirely different.
3. Best of all - just stop freaking breeding you absolute monsters - the planet can't cope. Buy a jonny.
