@davek we are sorry to see that you have had a relapse, mate. Please try and be strong, these things happen.
Remember the steps of the programme and try and follow this each day. Please do not give up, there is still hope.
- Make sure you’re safe. Make sure that you block your Kopite groomer’s number and social media accounts, getting the mods involved, or as a last resort, you may even have to consider moving to another forum.
- Inform and protect your GOT friends. A lot of people being groomed by Kopites tell their friends about their experience, but many keep it a secret or think it’s embarrassing. In reality, you don’t always need to explain exactly why you became so obsessive about a Liverpool legend but you can still let other posters know in order to keep them safe and bring awareness.
- Talk it out. Halewoodblue is a very trusted and emotionally mature friend, to who you can just let it all out. That said I am here if you would prefer to PM me?
- Stop romanticising about Benitez. Since Kopite grooming is simply emotional manipulation, you may feel a range of emotions including a desire to go on a tour of Anfield and so forth. This is normal but can be dangerous since if these feelings are not stopped you are likely to be easily groomed again and could end up loving Klopp.
- Find healthy relationships and cultivate them. It is apparent that you are losing contact with true Evertonian's. It’s important to identify the true blues of GOT, those that understand that James was our best player and avoid toxic relationships with suspects such as the Fart Balloon.
- Take away the Benitez love fest and remember that you are an Evertonian, just like Digne, Calvert-Lewin and big Dunc. Kopite groomers eventually leave the groomed person addicted to singing 'you’ll never walk alone' and collecting signed pictures of Jamie Carragher. It can be important to get rid of these things and help the healing process. If you’re left dependent on singing you’ll never walk alone, get help from therapists or hotlines.
- Reclaim your personality and traits. Some people who have been groomed by Kopites feel “tainted” when they realise that they have had a false sense of feeling in love with Benitez. Remember your deep hatred for all things red. Let yourself move beyond this Benitez obsession and acknowledge that you have a lot of great traits and are a blue.
God bless you, mate.