Yes good post.
On the opening paragraph, all I can say, is I said the same in the summer. I seem to remember saying it to
@Zatara in a thread that Gray would be ok, Brands had been watching him and liked his running stats. I honestly don't put a lot of truck in Benitez allegedly texting someone when he was in China. That just sounds very difficult to believe to me, especially when it's contrasted with Everton regularly sending scouts to Leverkusens game, and Brands saying he wanted a wide player who could carry the ball.
As for Gordon, no disagreements there. That is a big plus for Benitez really. I thought his comments after Watford were a bit ridiculous (as he is prone to be in post match interviews) but he has managed Gordon very well and you can see improvement.
As for the wider discussion on youth I agree with a lot of your sentiment. I think there has to be more realism, and we bring through more than we think. Unlike Chelsea, City and Liverpool we are not spending millions (if not tens of millions) out each year on salaries, fees and agents fees for young players (and this goes on every season from those teams). You wonder why LFC's wages budget is 350m, a lot of it is eaten up by lads in the 23's and below.
One criticism I would have is our development post 18 hasn't been good enough for some time. You look at lads like Barkley, Rodwell to a degree Davies etc they have all flatlined at about 18/19. Thats not good enough. Players at LFC just keep improving, Gerrard, Carragher and now Arnold just keep improving. That is one thing we need to do better and suss out. I suspect the managerial turmoil hasn't helped.
DCL is the exception, and honestly has gone beyond where anyone may have thought. That won't happen every time, but to me Holgate, Davies,Kenny should all have got to Godfrey level based on where they were at 19.
I hope we see more of Dobbin, he might not be well known, but he is a bright prospect. It's key critical Benitez gets him to sign the deal, and it will be a big black mark against him if he fails in that regard.