Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[Spotty]

Is it reasonable to take a few days off work as ill if you’re feeling completely physically, emotionally and mentally drained? I’ve been putting in some serious hours recently and have been beginning to feel some real burnout

The Japanese - worlds hardest workers? - have done loads of research on work. One prominent piece of research found that people are more productive and produce better standards if they do shorter hours at work. They find the more more work they did the quality and happiness dropped off. May I be so bold to suggest that a lot of people are eager to impress bosses - longer hours - in these " times". If your happy bud, carry on doing the hours. If not, be kinder to yourself mentally, have some chill out time and return more relaxed. This is a really big topic for me. I have to take care at work because of the nature of the job but I'm no good to man or beast if I'm a mess. Take care and be good to yourself.

 

[Spotty]

Well my brethren, first week back at work since the end of April, in my new role, with a new manager and team, and it has been like coming out of a long dark miserable, desperate tunnel to emerge into a bright sunny garden.

It is incredible to see the difference in the people with whom I now deal compared with the toxic atmosphere of the past four years.

My Consultant Professor had a session with me on Friday and was delighted with my progress. He expects that I should be able to come off the mild meds that I currently take in the New Year

No anxiety, stress, knots on the stomach. Walking 20k steps most days eating healthily, and most importantly my lovely family are thrilled.

Thanks once again for your kindness and support. It really meant a lot to me.

COYB !

So pleased for you. Well done sir.

 

[Spotty]

The best thread on the forum by a country mile mate.

I can only wish her a speedy recovery and to take inspiration from all the good work that`s being done by everyone in this thread x

Here here, well said sir.

 

[ChesterBlue]

The Japanese - worlds hardest workers? - have done loads of research on work. One prominent piece of research found that people are more productive and produce better standards if they do shorter hours at work. They find the more more work they did the quality and happiness dropped off. May I be so bold to suggest that a lot of people are eager to impress bosses - longer hours - in these " times". If your happy bud, carry on doing the hours. If not, be kinder to yourself mentally, have some chill out time and return more relaxed. This is a really big topic for me. I have to take care at work because of the nature of the job but I'm no good to man or beast if I'm a mess. Take care and be good to yourself.

I’m just unfortunate to work in a industry where long hours are just considered “a thing” currently I’m not really arsed about what my boss thinks as it’s a job I only took with the plan of saving for a few months (before covid hit of course) then moving somewhere I want to live

 

[Bluerover]

So pleased for you. Well done sir.

Cheers mate.

Second week going as smooth as the first.

Incredible difference in workplace atmosphere in Dublin HQ compared with the provincial office where that man rules with a rod of intimidation and bullying.

So happy after 4 years of misery thank God.

 

[anjelikaferrett]

Cheers mate.

Second week going as smooth as the first.

Incredible difference in workplace atmosphere in Dublin HQ compared with the provincial office where that man rules with a rod of intimidation and bullying.

So happy after 4 years of misery thank God.

This is great. So pleased for you

 

[Charro]

So, after two months that started with a suspected stroke, which turned out to be a seizure caused by a brain tumour, followed by surgery to try and remove said tumour, my mum has been told unfortunately they couldn’t remove all of it and the rest of it left is at a stage four and she needs chemo and radiotherapy.

No guarantee the treatment will work and even if it does she’s on borrowed time from here.

It’s been an absolutely exhausting two months and I’m shattered by the news received today.

Really sorted myself out mentally after an already challenging year but I’ve broken recently.

Just no light at the end of the tunnel.

 

[Spotty]

So, after two months that started with a suspected stroke, which turned out to be a seizure caused by a brain tumour, followed by surgery to try and remove said tumour, my mum has been told unfortunately they couldn’t remove all of it and the rest of it left is at a stage four and she needs chemo and radiotherapy.

No guarantee the treatment will work and even if it does she’s on borrowed time from here.

It’s been an absolutely exhausting two months and I’m shattered by the news received today.

Really sorted myself out mentally after an already challenging year but I’ve broken recently.

Just no light at the end of the tunnel.

So sorry to hear that. Just make mums life as comfortable as possible, tell her how good a mum she's been and that you love her. Reassurance that your all going to be fine will give her some peace of mind. Stay strong, nursing someone who is dying is stressful and its important you have someone to talk to. My mum also had a stroke which was very debillatating and I was so angry but it's all natural normal behaviour. I hope your mum has a pain free death, happy that the ones she's leaving behind are happy sorrounded by loved ones. I hope you find some peace of mind. Its very tough but keep this in mind, you still have the chance to bring kindness and happiness to people, to bring joy to other people's lives. Said this before but my nan used to say to me " he only gives the cross to those who can carry it ". Take care sir and I hope your mam finds some peace of mind.

 

[Spotty]

So, after two months that started with a suspected stroke, which turned out to be a seizure caused by a brain tumour, followed by surgery to try and remove said tumour, my mum has been told unfortunately they couldn’t remove all of it and the rest of it left is at a stage four and she needs chemo and radiotherapy.

No guarantee the treatment will work and even if it does she’s on borrowed time from here.

It’s been an absolutely exhausting two months and I’m shattered by the news received today.

Really sorted myself out mentally after an already challenging year but I’ve broken recently.

Just no light at the end of the tunnel.

Charro I hope you can take my comment " pain free death" in the right spirit. I didn't mean to sound callous m8 as I'm sure she has a lot of life to live. Take care and sorry if I've been insensitive.

 

[Spotty]

So, after two months that started with a suspected stroke, which turned out to be a seizure caused by a brain tumour, followed by surgery to try and remove said tumour, my mum has been told unfortunately they couldn’t remove all of it and the rest of it left is at a stage four and she needs chemo and radiotherapy.

No guarantee the treatment will work and even if it does she’s on borrowed time from here.

It’s been an absolutely exhausting two months and I’m shattered by the news received today.

Really sorted myself out mentally after an already challenging year but I’ve broken recently.

Just no light at the end of the tunnel.

End of life care at home | Caring for someone dying at home

Information on what to expect when you're caring for someone who's dying at home.

www.mariecurie.org.uk

Click the link m8, may be helpful.

 

[Charro]

End of life care at home | Caring for someone dying at home

Information on what to expect when you're caring for someone who's dying at home.

www.mariecurie.org.uk

Click the link m8, may be helpful.

Thank you very much mate.

I didn’t take your previous post the wrong way so don’t worry about that.

She’s not at that stage yet and we hope the treatment will at least give her a couple of years to live, but it is very much a possibility so we have to have it in mind.

 

[Mathieubleucoyb]

Sorted it out. Gonna work today to make sure I’m not leaving my team short then take the next few days off. It’s needed, I’ve been feeling properly burnt out in general lately, need a few days of having some walks and fresh air I think

Smoking marijuana seems like the only thing that helps with my depression.
And I suffer from bad depression

 

[collymcd]

So, after two months that started with a suspected stroke, which turned out to be a seizure caused by a brain tumour, followed by surgery to try and remove said tumour, my mum has been told unfortunately they couldn’t remove all of it and the rest of it left is at a stage four and she needs chemo and radiotherapy.

No guarantee the treatment will work and even if it does she’s on borrowed time from here.

It’s been an absolutely exhausting two months and I’m shattered by the news received today.

Really sorted myself out mentally after an already challenging year but I’ve broken recently.

Just no light at the end of the tunnel.

Charro I'm really sorry to hear that. That sounds like an awful situation to be in, and an awful couple of months before it. Death makes no sense at all and at the same time it's the one thing we're all certain of. It's just so difficult to take. Hopefully you can get through the coming time, and somehow it can help you to live afterwards.

 

[Earwigjoe]

I lost a good friend last week to cancer he was only 43..... but more importantly others lost their son, brother and Dad. They say death leaves a pain so hard to heal but good friends create memories impossible to steal... Ar dheis Dé go raibh a anam.... Goodnight and God bless Seamy,,, Please say a prayer for my mate and his family.

 

[YoboCopter]

I lost a good friend last week to cancer he was only 43..... but more importantly others lost their son, brother and Dad. They say death leaves a pain so hard to heal but good friends create memories impossible to steal... Ar dheis Dé go raibh a anam.... Goodnight and God bless Seamy,,, Please say a prayer for my mate and his family.

Sorry to hear mate, thoughts are with you x